Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Los Angeles, CA
A well-made and well-fitted bra is designed to support your breasts as they look when you are bent over at the waist 90 degrees (naked). And, no they are not made of “armor” the only material in them that is firm is the underwire. The support is in how they are constructed and the correct fit on the body. Unfortunately they are expensive and you won’t find them at Walmart.
Most women don’t wear the correct size bra (too small cup, too big band is the most common mistake) and when you don’t your breast tissue will migrate … under your arms, toward your back, etc. If you are fitted into the correct size and wear it correctly your breast tissue will return to where it is supposed to be in 6 months or so.
Department stores with “professional bra fitters” in the lingerie department often don’t know how a bra should fit and are often trying to fit you into a bra, in a size that they stock. Most stores do not stock smaller (<32”) or larger (>40) band sizes or larger cup sizes (>G). Most men do not know what “big boobs” are, most seem to think a DD cup is big, however 34DD is the (true) average size of American and European women. Most women do not understand the relationship between band size and cup size.
I struggled with my breasts/bras for most of my life. First because I did not have a mother when the time came to start wearing one and I was on my own with the trial and error method. And then, (surprise) your breasts grow and change all the way up to age 30, even in the absence of weight gain/loss or childbirth. I went to department store bra fitters as an adult and they always put me in 38DD’s however they still felt “off” and uncomfortable. Finally I found a source of information that was correct, it helped me figure out the correct size and fit for my breast type. Turns out I am a 36G and those correctly sized bras feel great. In fact, I am not aware of them at all when I go about my normal activities.
To answer your original question, no I am not self-conscious about my breasts, although I do not “show them off” in public. I used to hate them because of the bra difficulties. But now, they look better than ever (naked or not) because of well-fitted bras.