Re: Husband crossing the line or is it just me?
Personally, I LOVE the groping. Now, one of my two primary love languages is physical touch. So I love the hand holding, arm around my shoulder, hugging, playing footsie, etc. If we go to a restaurant, and we are seated in a big enough booth, I like to sit on the same side as my partner so our legs can touch or I can lay my head on his shoulder, and if we sit across from each other in a booth, he'll hold my hand from across the table; if we're at a table, we'll sit in the two corner chairs so we can be close. All that makes me feel loved and cherished. But it's not sexy.
I came from a sexless marriage, and it completely destroyed my self-esteem, my body image, and my sexual confidence. So the groping meets my love language, and it reminds me that my partner thinks I'm sexy. He never does it because he's looking for it to lead to sex in that moment (or he may not even be interested in having sex at all that day!), it's groping for groping's sake, and his way of saying to me, "Hey, maybe we don't have sex today, but I want you to know that I find you attractive and sexy." (I get distraught if we go for too long without sex, which for me is about a week, because we don't live together. I'm OK if it's longer for a specific reason, like one of us is traveling, but if that's the case, then I expect that we will be having sex at the first opportunity.)
BUT..... if I was in your situation, I bet I would feel differently. Honestly, I think if I was in your situation, I would recoil from all physical contact.
Because, as much as I LOVE and NEED physical contact with my partner, that's something reserved for just him. I don't like other people touching me. I hate when casual acquaintances think it's ok to hug me or touch me on my arm, or whatever. Touch is reserved for family and close friends. It takes a long time for me to be comfortable with someone and physical contact. It requires trust. So if my SO cheated on me, I wouldn't trust them anymore, and therefore wouldn't want them touching me anymore. I'm not surprised by your reaction, and I think some of the comments here are a little unfair; they clearly don't know the context.
(Helpful hint--it might be good to either give some context, or link to your other thread, in the initial post.)
~Happily un-married since December 9, 2013~