I am engaged and really happy with my man, however in less than a week he will be taking a trip for work for two weeks. Not an issue, but he asked if before he goes if he could take a few pairs of my underwear with him.
He has never made a request like this before and I told him I would think about it. Does this seem strange to you, or is it a more normal request guys can make? He is only the second man I have been with so I don't know really.
Also a guy here......I'm a sniffer, scents are very important to me, but the smell of a woman's dirty panties has never been a turn on. I have never considered having taking a pair with me, now a woman's pillow smell, or her sleeping shirt, that's a turn on for me. But we are all different, your guy may like the day old musty smell. lol You better mark them front and back, you wouldn't want him to lay the wrong side on his face!
Why didn't you ask what he wanted them for? I would guess he wants them for masturbation, but as blueinbr mentioned, if he wants a clean pair to wear then that's an entirely different scenario and something you two need to discuss and come to terms about.
"You better mark them front and back, you wouldn't want him to lay the wrong side on his face!"
Gutbusting!
I would simply ask him what he intends to do with them.
One poster took his wife's shabby undies to a store and bought new ones. He didn't know what size she wore. In that case, please send him with CLEAN ones.
Assuming he's not planning to wear them, I'd be flattered that he wants to have a piece of you with him. Scent can be a powerful turn on for some people and it just guarantees that he'll be thinking of you when he takes care of his own needs while away.
I think it's a great way to share intimacy while separated. Yes, I have provided panties before, and it can be lots of fun.
I think it's a lot more common than many people think. Certainly there is a ton of information online about panty fetish, so there must be a rather large audience.
In tacit agreement with those who say that if he's indeed wearing them, then the dude's got some real problems!
Still not a real big fan of sniffing the worn panties of my lady as I have way too many other intrinsic things about her to picque my interest in her when I'm away from her!
When I need that aromatic pleasure of hers, I'll just get it whenever I'm engaged in a nice, long invigorating session of oral with her!
I ask Odo to give me a T-shirt he's worn to bed so I can bring it when I travel for work. I lay it on my pillow so I can smell him. It helps me to sleep.
If that's the sort of reason your man is making his request, I see nothing wrong with it.
If he was going to do anything "creepy" or "disturbing" with them, he would have taken them from you WITHOUT asking. The fact that he asked likely means he wants something of yours to simply help him enjoy fantasizing about you while away. In my opinion sending underwear is much safer than sending him with nude/seminude photos of you wearing this underwear.
If your underwear becomes lost or stolen, no big deal. If nude photos of you become lost or stolen, that can be rather traumatic.
Also keep in mind that "underwear" can be a very general term to include bras or any item of lingerie. You could even send him on his trip with something you have not even worn yet and ask him to imagine you in it like some sexy stockings.
If I could make a suggestion, go buy some new sexy underwear that you have not worn yet, and send him with that. Choose something rather racy so his imagination will run wild! This way you are kind of in control a little more of "what" he can do with them in the event you fear he wants to sniff them or something that makes you uncomfortable in any way.
If he was going to do anything "creepy" or "disturbing" with them, he would have taken them from you WITHOUT asking. The fact that he asked likely means he wants something of yours to simply help him enjoy fantasizing about you while away. In my opinion sending underwear is much safer than sending him with nude/seminude photos of you wearing this underwear.
If your underwear becomes lost or stolen, no big deal. If nude photos of you become lost or stolen, that can be rather traumatic.
Also keep in mind that "underwear" can be a very general term to include bras or any item of lingerie. You could even send him on his trip with something you have not even worn yet and ask him to imagine you in it like some sexy stockings.
If I could make a suggestion, go buy some new sexy underwear that you have not worn yet, and send him with that. Choose something rather racy so his imagination will run wild! This way you are kind of in control a little more of "what" he can do with them in the event you fear he wants to sniff them or something that makes you uncomfortable in any way.
Completely normal (from a guy's perspective). He wants to take a bit of "you", with him.
Smell is very personal & plays a huge part in what attracts us to the other person.
On the other hand, if you are uncomfortable about it, you don't have to give them to him and can tell him to wait till he gets back.
If he wanted to wear women's underwear, it's much easier to buy, than ask your fiancee. Some have really wild imagination..
I told him I'd make him a deal. He can take whatever pair is in the laundry hamper and before he goes I'll put whatever I had been wearing for the day in his coat pocket. He was happy.
Just thought I'd give a belated update. So the day before he left he grabbed a pair he wanted, we went out to eat and I took another pair. During our evening I went to the restroom, switched undies then when I got back I put the ones I was wearing in his pocket lol. He left and had a great time. He is back now and said he can just keep them for whenever he wants.
I guess I'm a mass weirdo. The first time I had to be away from DH I took a pair of his workout undies (the tight Lycra kind?) CLEANNNNN, and a tshirt of his to sleep in, CLEANNNNN and sprayed his cologne on the shirt. I wore both after my shower at night while I was away. I missed him SO much.
Before him I had never heard of people selling women's dirty underware. I totally didn't believe him. There they are on Craigslist! Really???? I could have retired already! >
I don't think it's a problem unless he was to take a pair of your high heels too. :scratchhead:
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