and you do not like that about him, how do you cope with it?
I could not be with someone like that. I am definitely a "Take me as I am or leave me" kind of wife.
I just cannot imagine staying with a guy whose desire is dependent on my weight, or whether I wear makeup, or how I dress. The thought makes me laugh, actually. Talk about handing over his power to me! Even if he cannot help it, I guess.
Anyway, if you are with a guy like that, and you don't like it, how do you cope? Do you think about leaving him? What prevents you from doing that?
I was skinny with thick coke bottle glasses. Basically I was a nerd and not woman bait.
I decided to weight train and get laser eye surgery. Reasons were I wanted to be a man, size, strength, presence and I hated the coke bottle glasses, so 20 / 20 vision now with the laser eye procedure.
I did this for myself but also for my wife, Mrs.CuddleBug. I never needed to have a fire under my ass either. I am not lazy, so I focused, and got it done.
I'm not the type of guy to say, take me as I am because I am too lazy and unmotivated to better myself. People like that should stay single and are in it for themselves.
Mrs.CuddleBug was a bigger girl, always talked about getting in shape and going to a gym. She finally started this a few years ago, lost a lot of weight, but then started missing days going to the gym,and has now completely stopped. She has gained back all the weight and more.....she still talks about her needing to go to the gym.....
I don't find her physically attractive because of her size. It's not sexy, attractive or healthy.
When married, you are to take care of yourself obviously and not get comfy, lazy and let yourself go. That equals divorce.....then they go to the gym finally, get in great shape and are single. Makes no sense.
When married you are not single anymore. You are to take care of your other halves needs as your own and you are not your own anymore.