Originally Posted by ThisIsAUserName View Post
Well said!! That about sums it up.
A mother's love is unconditional. Love between a man and a woman is conditional, no matter how strong it may be. Mutual understanding of this will lead to a healthy relationship. Any semi-conscious woman should be aware that men are wired naturally to reproduce with as many females as they physically can, it's simple instinctual survival of a species. It doesn't mean "men are dogs", it means men are HUMAN. Being monogamous for an extended period of time/lifetime takes an actual conscious effort for a man, we need to strike down temptation at every single turn. Women have a very hard time comprehending that because....you guessed it...they're WOMEN! Just how we, as men, have trouble understanding some of the things women do, say and feel. Not saying I want to be congratulated/rewarded for my fidelity, just saying it shouldn't be confusing why men "care" about their wives' appearance.
The real key to this conversation is whether or not the woman changed AFTER the fact. Getting married is not the finish line, people. It's the starting gun if anything!
In life long marriage you will go from 20 or 30 something year olds to maybe 80 something year olds. The physical changes that happen in that time are immense. Many will gain weight due to age, hormones, menopause, illness, certain drugs, and there will be wrinkles, gray hair, gravity playing its part, baldness, having babies will change the body in many ways, and the list goes on. If its based only or mainly on looks then the marriage wont last.
My husband has changed a lot in the past 11 years we have been married, we married in our late 40's. He is much greyer, has lost more hair, put on a little weight, I just adore him just as much and whatever happens in the future the same will apply. Marriage should be a lifelong commitment, not based on whether we can stay the same size, weight and looks as we did in our 20's.
I also don't agree that man are wired to have sex with as many women as possible. If that were the case then studies wouldnt show that married men are happier, healthier and live longer than single men, so monogamous marriage is clearly beneficial for them mentally, emotionally and physically.