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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 01-19-2017, 06:05 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy conflicted wife who needs advice.

I have been married to my husband for going on 4 years and been together total of 5, we have 2 children, one from a previous relationship and our 2 year old. He is an amazing man and father and husband, I really couldn't ask for a better man, he loves me unconditionally and literally worships ground I walk on. He has to be my soul mate, I have thought this the whole time we have been together until just a few weeks ago. He didn't do anything wrong, and I know its just me, but I was a stay at home mom for the longest time, I haven't worked in a while.. and it was getting stressful and even just couldn't and didn't want to deal with my children anymore (I know im terrible, but lets face it, motherhood isn't what its all cracked up to be) so I had to get out, and then of course my husband goes to lose the best job in town..talk about stress.... but once I came to work I just realized that I miss doing what I want and going wherever I want and just not being nagged at all day. all I did before was cook and clean and take care of kids and husband. I mean basically all my husband had to do was go to work and wash his own a** so,.... yeah... I dream a lot of traveling and being alone. I long to be alone, in the peace and quiet. this he knows, I had already explained that I just wanted to run away and go be on a beach by myself, he thought that meant I wanted to leave him but it doesn't I basically just want to get away from the kids. as sad and mean as that sounds. I just have a strong urge to be selfish. enjoy my one life. I feel so tied down, I feel as if Im falling out of love with my husband, I think I do still love him but when he wants to look deep into my eyes (which he does a lot) I want to look away, and not just hold it there. it makes me feel awkward. and we have a good sex life, but he doesn't excite me anymore, he always has to ask "are we gonna do it tonight"? why do you need to ask, just throw me up against the wall and lay it on me, don't talk about it. It is aggravating. and Im afraid to say anything bc I don't want him thinking I don't like his sex, its just dang.... I wanna have some excitement. Its gone and I want it back. Will I get over this feeling or am I the only one, I feel like everything has changed and im not even sure why. please help.

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I'd separate how you feel about your kids from how you feel about your husband.

Is surprisingly common, but rarely talked about for people to regret having kids. Being a parent is not like in the movies, it can be frustrating and miserable. Other parents will often not tell you how they feel until you have kids of your own. I know a couple of parents who deeply regret the decision to have kids. Having kids is the most important, life changing decision a person will ever make - and many people don't think it through.

Personally I would have been miserable with kids. My wife wanted them, couldn't get pregnant, we took in short-term foster kids - and she discovered that like you, she found the reality very different from the fantasy. These were short term "shelter care" kids so they were only with us for a few months.

You have kids. That choice is made, never to be change. You have a duty to do your best for them. There is no way out of that. So you need to figure out how to enjoy kids, or at least make the best out of the situation.

What part of caring for kids bothers you the most? Is there any way to reduce / share the load?


Your husband was working a full time job, and presumably will again. This is not his fault, he is holding up his end.

Maybe you can share more. If you both work (when he gets a job again), there will be more money - that might pay for daycare for the kids to relieve some of your load. You can get maid service. If you both work it makes sense to share the house work.

For the moment if he isn't working and you are, then he should be doing the bulk of the house work and child care. That of course changes when he does get a job again.


I'm sorry, but no matter how much you want to, you can't just walk away from your responsibilities to your children. My father sort of did that - he worked and brought in money, but he arranged his work schedule so he would almost never have to see his kids. You can imagine the fantasy stories I told myself as a child about why my father could never be at home (he was a secret agent.... etc etc). Don't do that to a child.
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What you are feeling and going through is not unusual. What is important is how what you do now to get your head straight. You can get that loving feeling back for your husband, restructure your marriage and your family life. The way you are feeling is just a warning that you need to get your marriage to a new level.

There are some books that I think will really help you and your husband restructure your relationship to get it back on track. Read them in the order I've listed below:

Love Busters by Dr. Steve Harley

His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Steve Harley

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
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I have been married to my husband for going on 4 years and been together total of 5, we have 2 children, one from a previous relationship and our 2 year old. He is an amazing man and father and husband, I really couldn't ask for a better man, he loves me unconditionally and literally worships ground I walk on. He has to be my soul mate, I have thought this the whole time we have been together until just a few weeks ago. He didn't do anything wrong, and I know its just me, but I was a stay at home mom for the longest time, I haven't worked in a while.. and it was getting stressful and even just couldn't and didn't want to deal with my children anymore (I know im terrible, but lets face it, motherhood isn't what its all cracked up to be) so I had to get out, and then of course my husband goes to lose the best job in town..talk about stress.... but once I came to work I just realized that I miss doing what I want and going wherever I want and just not being nagged at all day. all I did before was cook and clean and take care of kids and husband. I mean basically all my husband had to do was go to work and wash his own a** so,.... yeah... I dream a lot of traveling and being alone. I long to be alone, in the peace and quiet. this he knows, I had already explained that I just wanted to run away and go be on a beach by myself, he thought that meant I wanted to leave him but it doesn't I basically just want to get away from the kids. as sad and mean as that sounds. I just have a strong urge to be selfish. enjoy my one life. I feel so tied down, I feel as if Im falling out of love with my husband, I think I do still love him but when he wants to look deep into my eyes (which he does a lot) I want to look away, and not just hold it there. it makes me feel awkward. and we have a good sex life, but he doesn't excite me anymore, he always has to ask "are we gonna do it tonight"? why do you need to ask, just throw me up against the wall and lay it on me, don't talk about it. It is aggravating. and Im afraid to say anything bc I don't want him thinking I don't like his sex, its just dang.... I wanna have some excitement. Its gone and I want it back. Will I get over this feeling or am I the only one, I feel like everything has changed and im not even sure why. please help.
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Hello, I know I made the decision to have children and love them dearly, but the constant screaming and needy I just cant handle. I never get one minute to myself when Im home and my husband tries to help, but she will only deal with me, of course when Im at work he has the baby, but he still will constantly call me when shes been screaming for an hour, and Im not sure what he wants me to do. handle it... like I always do. so even when Im not there he always makes it well known how much she is crying and screaming and how he already( only been out of work a week or so) is getting aggravated with her. This aggravates me....I still keep the house clean and do laundry and what not even tho Im working, I guess dealing with the baby he cant juggle both. He wont be out of work long no, but it just puts so much stress on me, with not having much money and him already borrowing from parents. I cant stand that, I want to be stable and not have to worry. I have always my whole life lived pay check to pay check and frankly im tired of doing that. He doesn't want to be away from us, but I could care less if he got a job where he was out of town or something, just make enough money and keep that job, I cant seem to ever be away from him or the kids. no matter what. I just cant handle it anymore....I don't even know where to begin or end on whats going on with me and feeling like this, and when I think about having to just deal, and go on with my life like this...... I wanna cry..... I want to live my life in happiness and where I feel like im being myself, instead of faking my everyday life and just pretending to love it. doe that make sense?
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Arbitator; I have, every time he says that I just tell him to stop asking and just see what happens, why do we have to plan it or talk about it. just do it...... should I approach it differently, ?
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I have been married to my husband for going on 4 years and been together total of 5, we have 2 children, one from a previous relationship and our 2 year old. He is an amazing man and father and husband, I really couldn't ask for a better man, he loves me unconditionally and literally worships ground I walk on. He has to be my soul mate, I have thought this the whole time we have been together until just a few weeks ago. He didn't do anything wrong, and I know its just me, but I was a stay at home mom for the longest time, I haven't worked in a while.. and it was getting stressful and even just couldn't and didn't want to deal with my children anymore (I know im terrible, but lets face it, motherhood isn't what its all cracked up to be) so I had to get out, and then of course my husband goes to lose the best job in town..talk about stress.... but once I came to work I just realized that I miss doing what I want and going wherever I want and just not being nagged at all day. all I did before was cook and clean and take care of kids and husband. I mean basically all my husband had to do was go to work and wash his own a** so,.... yeah... I dream a lot of traveling and being alone. I long to be alone, in the peace and quiet. this he knows, I had already explained that I just wanted to run away and go be on a beach by myself, he thought that meant I wanted to leave him but it doesn't I basically just want to get away from the kids. as sad and mean as that sounds. I just have a strong urge to be selfish. enjoy my one life. I feel so tied down, I feel as if Im falling out of love with my husband, I think I do still love him but when he wants to look deep into my eyes (which he does a lot) I want to look away, and not just hold it there. it makes me feel awkward. and we have a good sex life, but he doesn't excite me anymore, he always has to ask "are we gonna do it tonight"? why do you need to ask, just throw me up against the wall and lay it on me, don't talk about it. It is aggravating. and Im afraid to say anything bc I don't want him thinking I don't like his sex, its just dang.... I wanna have some excitement. Its gone and I want it back. Will I get over this feeling or am I the only one, I feel like everything has changed and im not even sure why. please help.
Your wonder lust if you follow it is not going to lead you to happiness. Because happiness comes from inside. I think people get the idea maybe from the zeitgeist of today "you deserve to be happy". No you don't there are plenty of times in ones life where they are not. That is life and it is normal. Everyone has thoughts like this. I suggest you work with your husband to get you some alone time. That will take some of the stress off. Use your husband as your partner, and if he helps you, if you are healthy emotionally this will bring you closer together. Sounds like at least one of the kids isn't even his so you are stuck with that one anyway.

As far as the sex, why not you initiate it. You take you both out of the comfort zone. Some guy here talked about his wife texting him a video "enjoying herself", he basically became obsess with it. You want your husband to burn for you and throw you against the wall. Make him feel it. Sex and love is a two way street someone has to start the path though. You want to feel sex, be sexy for him, I bet you will fell sexy.

Today is the day to decide are you going to accept your responsibilities and ask you husband to help you so you can have some me time or are you going to blow up everyone's lives, including yourself.

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Arbitator; I have, every time he says that I just tell him to stop asking and just see what happens, why do we have to plan it or talk about it. just do it...... should I approach it differently, ?
Yes, I think so. You should tell him that its not so sexy when he says it that way..... tell him to "hit on you", to just take you sometimes, to do what he'd do if you were dating.

But you have to be invested too. You have to flirt with him, sext maybe, appreciate his efforts, etc....

And ya, sometimes life gets stupid. Then you have to figure it out. You can improve your marriage, and improve your sex life, and you can improve your outlook. Actually, it is on YOU to improve your outlook. Make some changes. Figure out little things that you CAN do to change things more to your liking, or at least to a comfortable level.

Hire a school kid to clean house....or one to watch the kids. Institute a mandatory Date Night....not like, we'll try it maybe every other month. Nah, make it every Saturday night! You have to make things happen!!!

Find (or rediscover) a hobby. Either one just for you, or one for you and H. Or both. Doing something you love can make a humongous difference in your general well being. Feeds the soul-ya know?

And the kids..... well, they will chill out when mommy does. Maybe they feel the unhappiness. Take care of yourself, so that you can take care of them. When your life just feels better, you may not feel so bothered by them.

I had 5 kids in 6 years (wth was I thinking!!!)..... and I used to stay up late just so I could paint. Or read. Or watch a whole freakin movie! LOL

It gets better. Really.

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Hello, I know I made the decision to have children and love them dearly, but the constant screaming and needy I just cant handle. I never get one minute to myself when Im home and my husband tries to help, but she will only deal with me, of course when Im at work he has the baby, but he still will constantly call me when shes been screaming for an hour, and Im not sure what he wants me to do. handle it... like I always do. so even when Im not there he always makes it well known how much she is crying and screaming and how he already( only been out of work a week or so) is getting aggravated with her. This aggravates me....I still keep the house clean and do laundry and what not even tho Im working, I guess dealing with the baby he cant juggle both. He wont be out of work long no, but it just puts so much stress on me, with not having much money and him already borrowing from parents. I cant stand that, I want to be stable and not have to worry. I have always my whole life lived pay check to pay check and frankly im tired of doing that. He doesn't want to be away from us, but I could care less if he got a job where he was out of town or something, just make enough money and keep that job, I cant seem to ever be away from him or the kids. no matter what. I just cant handle it anymore....I don't even know where to begin or end on whats going on with me and feeling like this, and when I think about having to just deal, and go on with my life like this...... I wanna cry..... I want to live my life in happiness and where I feel like im being myself, instead of faking my everyday life and just pretending to love it. doe that make sense?
This is a short time of their growing, just because you don't like this part doesn't mean you won't like others. Soon they will be past this stage. Your husband needs to step it up though, when I was outsourced and out of work for about 6 months, I cleaned the house once a week. I didn't do it up to her exacting standards but even with the small stuff she need to be done a certain way, I still took about 90% of the work off her. Why is he not doing this?

Part of the problem seems to be that you are not voicing your concerns or he is not listening. So many people whose spouse just leave wish that the knew there was a problem. The spouse that left is done because they have been silently building up resentments and not saying anything for years. If you want your marriage to survive you owe it to him and yourself to say these things. Look one day if you don't shape up I am going to be gone.

"It hurts my feelings that you don't help me when I am raising your child. I thought we were a team! Husband you need to do more around the house. I can't do it all. You are supposed to be my teammate. I need this from you. Help me."

That's the thing isn't it. You don't feel bonded because you don't feel like a team, you feel like you are carrying him. That is where the resentment comes from.

You also have a right to have some alone time. But you see blogs by mom's all the time where they leave for the weekend and they turn their phone off. You know what, your husband will figure it out without you. They have been doing so from time in memorial. Part of this is you letting go. I am telling you lots of women do this! Your husband isn't and idiot, he will be able to deal with it. You call him a few times, but don't let him call you. He won't like it but it will be good for him anyway. It will give him a taste of what you go through.

Just understand if you do go away. NO CHEATING or even flirting. Going away is not going away from your commitments, it's just going away from your responsibility for a little bit.

You can survive this but you need to communicate and you need to get your husband to understand that things have to change our you are done. He is your husband, your provider, and part of that providing is giving you some me time so you can recharge. If he makes the effort I think you will start to see him with the love again.

Send him on here and we will kick his ass. Again so many Men are shell shocked when their wives are just done. The mantra is why didn't she tell me. You are doing him a favor by giving him a chance.

Now you cheat and we will kick your ass.

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Yes, I think so. You should tell him that its not so sexy when he says it that way..... tell him to "hit on you", to just take you sometimes, to do what he'd do if you were dating.

But you have to be invested too. You have to flirt with him, sext maybe, appreciate his efforts, etc....

And ya, sometimes life gets stupid. Then you have to figure it out. You can improve your marriage, and improve your sex life, and you can improve your outlook. Actually, it is on YOU to improve your outlook. Make some changes. Figure out little things that you CAN do to change things more to your liking, or at least to a comfortable level.

Hire a school kid to clean house....or one to watch the kids. Institute a mandatory Date Night....not like, we'll try it maybe every other month. Nah, make it every Saturday night! You have to make things happen!!!

Find (or rediscover) a hobby. Either one just for you, or one for you and H. Or both. Doing something you love can make a humongous difference in your general well being. Feeds the soul-ya know?

And the kids..... well, they will chill out when mommy does. Maybe they feel the unhappiness. Take care of yourself, so that you can take care of them. When your life just feels better, you may not feel so bothered by them.

I had 5 kids in 6 years (wth was I thinking!!!)..... and I used to stay up late just so I could paint. Or read. Or watch a whole freakin movie! LOL

It gets better. Really.
I know it will probably get better, the only problem is, is I would refuse to have someone come take care of my house, Im OCD and wouldn't trust many people cleaning my house, nor do I have the money to pay them to do so, hence my husband is without a job, I don't make near enough at my job for all that. My hobby, would be to travel. I have no desire really for anything else, I color and watch tv stay up late bc I want the alone time so bad I force myself to stay awake and watch adult shows. Date night would be nice if we had help,. but I don't have a sitter, my parents live here but refuse to watch my children for me, even if its for a break. his parents would love to watch them all the time but their in Ohio,. I know my mood affects my children, and I try to not let it show but I cant help it when the sound of the scream or whine makes me literally want to crawl in a hole somewhere. I literally want to just be alone. lol.. I know how bad that sounds, but Ive really tried, and I cant seem to shake the feeling,

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Your wonder lust if you follow it is not going to lead you to happiness. Because happiness comes from inside. I think people get the idea maybe from the zeitgeist of today "you deserve to be happy". No you don't there are plenty of times in ones life where they are not. That is life and it is normal. Everyone has thoughts like this. I suggest you work with your husband to get you some alone time. That will take some of the stress off. Use your husband as your partner, and if he helps you, if you are healthy emotionally this will bring you closer together. Sounds like at least one of the kids isn't even his so you are stuck with that one anyway.

As far as the sex, why not you initiate it. You take you both out of the comfort zone. Some guy here talked about his wife texting him a video "enjoying herself", he basically became obsess with it. You want your husband to burn for you and throw you against the wall. Make him feel it. Sex and love is a two way street someone has to start the path though. You want to feel sex, be sexy for him, I bet you will fell sexy.

Today is the day to decide are you going to accept your responsibilities and ask you husband to help you so you can have some me time or are you going to blow up everyone's lives, including yourself.
Oh believe me, I initiate it at all times, plus I NEVER turn down my husband, I sext him and everything, let him grope me whenever........ I even to fill you in, just the other night, I just all of a sudden got feeling good, and so I just rolled over and began doing things to my husband, he gets all ready to go, and so I go on to get on top (which this is another problem, I do that way to much, rarely does he sock it to me) and then he cant finish, and Im wondering why, It had only been few days since we did it last, and then he goes on to tell me,.. mind you the next night.... that he had helped himself out not once but twice that night, therefore making it difficult for him to finish... so answer me this, what man, whom gets sex all the time needs to "help himself out"? and twice? that day? only days later from doing it? personally Im tired of always being on top and gosh darnit, I just want him to do me, throw me around, get dirty.. I dunno.. Im just tired of feeling like I do it all.
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Oh believe me, I initiate it at all times, plus I NEVER turn down my husband, I sext him and everything, let him grope me whenever........ I even to fill you in, just the other night, I just all of a sudden got feeling good, and so I just rolled over and began doing things to my husband, he gets all ready to go, and so I go on to get on top (which this is another problem, I do that way to much, rarely does he sock it to me) and then he cant finish, and Im wondering why, It had only been few days since we did it last, and then he goes on to tell me,.. mind you the next night.... that he had helped himself out not once but twice that night, therefore making it difficult for him to finish... so answer me this, what man, whom gets sex all the time needs to "help himself out"? and twice? that day? only days later from doing it? personally Im tired of always being on top and gosh darnit, I just want him to do me, throw me around, get dirty.. I dunno.. Im just tired of feeling like I do it all.
Your husband needs the come to Jesus moment. What's his porn use like. That could be part of the problem. You need to let you husband know that this stuff is starting to destroy your marriage.
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This is a short time of their growing, just because you don't like this part doesn't mean you won't like others. Soon they will be past this stage. Your husband needs to step it up though, when I was outsourced and out of work for about 6 months, I cleaned the house once a week. I didn't do it up to her exacting standards but even with the small stuff she need to be done a certain way, I still took about 90% of the work off her. Why is he not doing this?

Part of the problem seems to be that you are not voicing your concerns or he is not listening. So many people whose spouse just leave wish that the knew there was a problem. The spouse that left is done because they have been silently building up resentments and not saying anything for years. If you want your marriage to survive you owe it to him and yourself to say these things. Look one day if you don't shape up I am going to be gone.

"It hurts my feelings that you don't help me when I am raising your child. I thought we were a team! Husband you need to do more around the house. I can't do it all. You are supposed to be my teammate. I need this from you. Help me."

That's the thing isn't it. You don't feel bonded because you don't feel like a team, you feel like you are carrying him. That is where the resentment comes from.

You also have a right to have some alone time. But you see blogs by mom's all the time where they leave for the weekend and they turn their phone off. You know what, your husband will figure it out without you. They have been doing so from time in memorial. Part of this is you letting go. I am telling you lots of women do this! Your husband isn't and idiot, he will be able to deal with it. You call him a few times, but don't let him call you. He won't like it but it will be good for him anyway. It will give him a taste of what you go through.

Just understand if you do go away. NO CHEATING or even flirting. Going away is not going away from your commitments, it's just going away from your responsibility for a little bit.

You can survive this but you need to communicate and you need to get your husband to understand that things have to change our you are done. He is your husband, your provider, and part of that providing is giving you some me time so you can recharge. If he makes the effort I think you will start to see him with the love again.

Send him on here and we will kick his ass. Again so many Men are shell shocked when their wives are just done. The mantra is why didn't she tell me. You are doing him a favor by giving him a chance.

Now you cheat and we will kick your ass.
My husband was alone for 37 years, exploring all the united states.. had a fun filled traveling bachelor life. I have no idea why he doesn't do those things, maybe bc Im so OCD, but as long as Im not there witnessing how the cleaning is being done, then I don't care, coming home after working to a clean house would be wonderful.. even after ive basically cleaned everyday when I get home, home is semi trashed bc of him and kids being together. Im almost afraid to ask him for a mini vacation by myself, well, we don't have the money right now, and now our adult only trip to florida in march is probably already cancelled bc of the job loss. that drives me crazy and makes me upset bc I needed that, we needed that... and now nothing.. and if I wanna take one, no different,. don't have the funds..... he will get a trip to Chicago in feb, but his friend is willing to pay his way. (pays to be friends with milliionaires) (sometimes) so he will have a nice vaca, and then whenever we have the funds then maybe Ill get my vacation. ughh I don't want to keep him in the dark, but the man is so head over heels in love with me, I don't want to upset him with something.. I don't want him to think I don't want to be with him but I do want to be alone for some sort of time period. a vacation or something... work is helping... and the don't cheat on him thing... I wouldn't but its come across my mind just for simple fact I just want someone to (not to be forward, but were all adults here) bend me over and do the dang thing... that makes me feel sexy... and trust me when I tell you that Ive asked him on several occasions to smack that A** and the man doesn't know how.... its a baby tap..... like hes too afraid.
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Re: conflicted wife who needs advice.

Ok.... but instead of just venting, start formulating a plan.

Talk to your friends....FIND a babysitter. I get that you don't have money..... find someone who will trade babysitting for a few hours?

PLAN a vacation. A family one.... maybe via Ohio, so your parents can keep the kids for a few days so you two can have grown up fun?
There's a study that said even planning a trip, or a future, is uplifting mentally. Besides, once H gets back to work and you can start catching up on bills and saving some money, a vacation could happen!

And ya know....a LOT of moms get tired of their kids. When my kids were little, my fantasies weren't sexual, they were about PEACE & QUIET with no little people in sight. I admit, I dreamed of running away. Why do you think moms hide in the bathroom, eating a Twinkie while little babies cry outside the door? Cuz they need a few minutes.

So figure out one or two things that you CAN do, instead of focusing on all the things you CAN'T do.

Besides, what's the alternative? You really going to run away? Ditch the family, get a divorce, join the Peace Corp, see the world???? What is the alternative to living the life you have, and making improvements on it?
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Re: conflicted wife who needs advice.

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Your husband needs the come to Jesus moment. What's his porn use like. That could be part of the problem. You need to let you husband know that this stuff is starting to destroy your marriage.
hahaha.. right, he doesn't watch porn not that I am aware. He basically acts like Im the hottest thing hes ever seen and doesn't look at other women that way....???
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