Re: Ladies, What is a "good lover" ?
Actually...most of the time it's the woman who is 'thrilled' by the idea that her lover not only has full control over her sexual pleasure but also, potentially, over her life, in that orgasmic moment. The French call the orgasm a "small death". Imagine the amount of trust that goes into this if the woman was still to enjoy it. I'm sure @Keke24
has a better take on it.
I have never tried actually choking anyone but I noticed many times that whenever I placed my hand on my wife's neck (first time was by chance, in the spare of the moment during sex) and hold it relatively tightly, she squeals from pleasure. Same if I cover her face with my palm so that she can hardly breathe (the second time, it wasn't ME who put the hand there...).
It's really difficult to please you women. The balance between a 'great lover' and 'running away from serial killer' seems a tight one to master
The demand for adventure and pushing the boundaries is definitely not imagined by us males (nor spread like infection from porn). It's a real thing.
There must be some sort of medical explanation for the pleasure associated with the restriction of oxygen through choking. It does feel very much like a high. Intensely pleasurable. It definitely requires trust between partners and explicit approval from the woman. It is just another aspect of being dominated by my man that I thoroughly enjoy.