Huh? I am a very open minded person.
We have porn in our lives.
Do you have teens that are or soon to be sexually active?
I have 5 of them (teens to young adults) and for us it is super important that they have a grip on reality. I have no major issue with porn but it is not reality and while adults can rationalise that, it is different for young kids who are just becoming sexually active.
My ex husband had some serious issues with sex and communication, it is my responsibility as a parent to impart some wisdom and guidance on my kids. I have never said to them that porn is bad but I have said to keep it all in balance and know that most of it is faking and acting.
When you put it like this, I don't really disagree with it. I am sure every rational person knows that porn is not 'real" in the sense that people are acting things out.
I was specifically responding to this bit:
"I am just glad I entered my sexual years pre internet porn and know that what is portrayed on screen is not how it is in real life"
My experience was the opposite. The more my sex life progressed (and that of my close friends who shared their experiences with me), the more I was amazed that many women get highly aroused not from what I conventionally though would be the case (romantic & sensual, vanilla sex etc), but how much kink they often bring into the bedroom (as can be clearly seen from this thread). It often even eclipses the 'imagination' of porn writers.
I think I might be talking at cross-purposes: I am not discussing whether the actors in porn movies are real
or not or whether they feel the things they are doing (I thought it was a given that everyone understands what 'acting' means. Art is also just a representation of reality. It is not reality itself which doesn't automatically invalidate what art is trying to convey).
I am simply saying when I observe what's being said by women with regards to what turns them on in real life and then compare it to what's often portrayed in porn, the two are really not that dissimilar (and in fact in many instances very similar) and denying the two have nothing to do with each other can simply appear hypocritical on the face of it. I seem to not be able to express myself properly (I never said you or anyone was closed minded: what said was that i agree
with you that one shouldn't
be closed minded in general) and I can't really see which bandwagon I am supposed to be jumping on since I am currently the only person on that wagon as far as I am aware.
The body image issue is again a separate issue. i don't want to mix all the different things in this discussion because it will continue to obfuscate things. I did say earlier that I think regular advertisement industry does much more harm in this department with its photoshopped bodies (one of the most preferred categories for men seems to be 'amateur porn' where body image is very much secondary).