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#1 thing? Talk dirty to me!
Passionate, uninhibited, confident - masculine.
He is strong and able to pull and push my body around in bed, into different positions or postures. He has his hands on me all the time and my body melts under his touch. He is lusty and extremely sexual.
Also the most important thing to me was him being the dominant and confident one. Taking me, bending me over. A little hair pulling and light choking.
A great lover knows how to touch a woman and isn't shy about it.
Originally Posted by lifeistooshort View Post
Beyond that I think confidence and paying attention to what your woman likes and how she responds to different things is very important.
I have yet to meet a woman who would prefer a purely "sensitive, sensual and submissive" male partner in bed, instead of a dominating, alpha male type (dominating in the "right" kind of way).
What does "bring porn to bed" mean? I am genuinely curious. I don't know what kind of porn you mean but the "mindless pounding" type of porn is generally considered bad
/cheap porn that not many find appealing.
In fact, good/stimulating porn conforms pretty accurately to the descriptions mentioned here in my opinion.
It actually took some scenes from porn for me to discover what my wife actually likes (assertive, dominating etc) as well as various kinks/techniques. She never watched porn so I always find it amusing that many women find porn so repulsive/destructive to one's sex life yet enjoy so many elements portrayed in it.
Yes, it's acting of course (sometimes very bad acting) but like any movie, where emotion is conveyed, it doesn't mean it's automatically invalid, in its own right.