Originally Posted by Lifeiscomplicated View Post
Hope you do not mind a male perspective. My wife has slowly ramped up her sexual response. When we first got together, we were lucky to have one orgasm from oral stimulation of her clitoris. Over the years, her response has gotten better and better. We recently stumbled on a technique of treating the clitoris as essentially a very small penis. What I do, is put my mouth over her clit, suck the head just past my lips and emulate a blow job, sucking up and down and pulling at it. She usually orgasms within seconds and will orgasm over and over again. I got this from a client who is bi-sexual, and incorporated his technique for male lovers into his technique for female lovers. The results are spectacular.
Thank you Taxman for this tip. My husband has also done this technique on me before and it does feel great. A lot more sensation than just licking etc. however, it is not enough to bring on a O. Maybe I should get him to do it longer and see what happens. I know that after a while of doing this I will get him to stop and I then take over with a vibrator or my own hand. I need to have hard circular pressure on the pubic bone around the clit area to help with O. I will certainly try this again.
If it takes too long I/we would stop as well, since overstimulation can be a great way to lose the sensation.
Anyway I've always done oral that way, even as far back as my first sexual partner.
In addition to that if wanting more direct feedback, I insert a finger or two into my sexual partners rectum. The benefit of doing this is, I can then more closely and directly measure the woman's response to the oral (without toys or devices) that I am doing.
In the first instance you feel nothing as such, then after a short while you then feel a tightening that is also coincident with very small spasms/pulses that are fast like a vibrator. Once you get that pulse you then do more of exactly what caused it. So you then get more of those extremely fast micro spasms/pulses that you can feel through the rectum yet don't really feel through the vagina with your fingers. To the point that if you back off they diminish or go away, or get stronger as you get the woman closer to orgasm.
When I feel the groups of spasms/pulses get stronger and no longer have gaps as such between the groups, I know the woman is about to tip over into orgasm. So I then keep up that oral pressure technique until she tips over. Where I then feel a succession of deep slower throbbing pulses as felt through the rectum that provides the tell for the orgasm.
In my experience doing the sucking thing and variations of it, in combination with applying the feedback as informed by the backside, it normally doesn't take very long to bring a woman to orgasm.
In case it might work for you, perhaps you and your husband could try the same.
As to phallus/penis in vagina sex, does your husband last long enough for you to get close to tipping over into orgasm? Or is he changing position as you get close or frequently? Or are you not getting close at all?
I wish I could describe it properly but, the thing for my wife and I as well as my other sexual partners who have orgasmed through penetration without additional clitoral stimulation being applied. The ability to stroke consistently with lots of pressure at the right angle, while being consistent without changing position or significantly varying the stroke and pressure. While also not tipping over into orgasm before the woman does, which kills the pressure and length of stroke, goes a very long way.
As bland as missionary is made out to be, in my experience with various women it can be used very effectively to bring orgasm. Just as long as the stroke in and out is maintained with plenty of pressure. What I have variously found is that when you are in the right position inside on the end of the forward stroke towards the front and at the front of the penis, you can feel the top of the inside of the vagina push and rub. Once you have that position inside, you then stroke at a good rhythmic pace, that is not too fast while applying lots of pressure.
I wish I could describe it better but I can feel a difference around my penis when I'm in the right position to help my partner and partners in the past have a PIV orgasm, versus when I'm not in the right position to help them.
The right position sort of feels like what I imagine a key in the right lock might feel like. So I can feel the top of the inside of the vagina and can feel what sort of feels like having fingers grip the side of the shaft from below at an angle inside. Again I'm sorry in not having the best words to convey this.
The wrong position doesn't have the same feel, it's a bit like having a key that works but doesn't fit properly. Which can occur with the same woman, so it's about getting the position right to a great degree.
Anyway when the position is right, pressure is really important through each stroke at the right angle and maintaining it until that point where the woman changes.
So one minute it's just run of the mill PIV sex, where they seem to be enjoying it as such, but they're also thinking about what they've got to do in an hour or we're chatting. Then suddenly they change, their flush changes again and they go animal and are consumed in the moment. At that point just as long as you don't not tip over yourself, you know you will get them there pretty soon, just as long as you maintain the stroke and pressure. With that change, the grip around the penis becomes stronger, and it feels like they are grinding you then gripping and releasing you while their insides tilt forward and back. Then as they grip and tilt, you set your stroke to match theirs while always maintaining that pressure.
At the same time I have also variously found , because it can be different depending upon the person or what day it is etc with the same person. That when they have "changed" they often like to have their hair gripped tightly or even pulled a bit. Or they will then enjoy having their nipples worked hard including with teeth. Likewise running teeth down ones neck at the same time can add to it as well.
Plus kissing them as they approach orgasm while maintaining that pressure and stroke all while they're tilting inside. Is great to do as well because the level of wanton consumption that you get from them at that time as they want to be utterly consumed by you at the time is delicious.
Absent that "change", I wouldn't recommend applying teeth to a nipple or pulling hair as a go to in the first instance.
Anyway once they tip over to orgasm while inside of them, I find it best to keep going until they stop throbbing and variously tilting inside, lest you mistakenly think they've orgasmed when they haven't. Likewise some will also want you to keep going to get more orgasms when they reach that point. That said I find once it gets that far at some point I will not be able to maintain that position stroke or pressure to give them much more in terms of orgasms in quick succession, but hey they got there so...
Later tonight, I'll ask my wife to share how she would describe getting her there for a PIV orgasm, and what works for her and what doesn't along the way.