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post #16 of 32 (permalink) Old 02-03-2017, 08:00 AM
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It's pretty bad that I don't even know how to answer this question. I mean I know how to, but I don't have any answers. I haven't been loved in so long (despite the fact that I was married) that I don't even know what would make me feel the most loved. I have a long road ahead of me.
Same here. My STBXH never showed physical affection, even in the bedroom. I've never really had a chance to discover my likes and dislikes in this regard. It was fortunate for me that physical affection is no more my love language than it was his.

I guess the closest I can get is to say that I enjoy weekend mornings cuddling in bed with my son and our pets. And I enjoyed it when my son was younger he liked to brush my hair.


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My husband has been gone almost seven years. I mostly miss lying in bed with my head on his shoulder and his arms around me, just chatting. One night I dreamed we were lying like that, and he was holding me and letting me cry. I miss him so much.
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Nothing said love to me more than when she gave me a pneumothorax. 😍

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All of the above. Unfortunately my husband is terrified of intimacy and has no need for physical touch. Me on the other hand, craves it.


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My wife likes when I take her head in my hand and kiss her. She loves kissing. She also likes when I fondler her breasts and make her nipples hard.

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There is a huge amount of physical affection in our home. I love it when he comes up from behind and kisses my neck, when out of the blue he will just look at me with love in his eyes, the way he holds my face in his hands and kisses me, when he brushes my hair, gives me a foot massage. We always hold hands when walking
We never leave the house without a kiss and "I love you". During the day send txts to say how much we love each other. The way he tells me he is the luckiest man on Earth.

He is a Gentleman and always walks or cycles with me to the inside, always lets me enter through a door first and holds the door for me. He makes me a coffee every morning and often breakfast if he has time.
He brings me flowers. Makes a cooked brekky every weekend.

When we go out he will drop me at the door of where we are going if it is too hot, wet or a long way to walk if I am in heels, while he then goes to park.

We spend a lot of hours together and there is never a dull moment, talking, laughing, cooking together, it all makes me feel not just that he loves me but that he also likes me.

There is plenty more.
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This thread is very encouraging in that it shows how many people have good marriages and good husbands.
On a forum like this one, it would be easy to get discouraged with all the cheating, lies etc that go on.
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I'm a rather prolific neck kisser. Nothing really pleases me more than to come up from behind and gently brush her flowing hair aside, and then nuzzingly place my lips on the nape of her neck and to gently kiss away!

Intoxicating just to think about it!

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I just got finished with another cuddle session with Mr. Suaveterre- or rather, am taking a breather in between them- and this thread pops up.

I like my cuddles warm and tender, and of the sort where his hands wildly and fervently attempt to caress every single part of my body at once. I like when he tries to nuzzle me with his whole body. I love when he leans into me and inhales deeply, because he thinks my natural scent is the best perfume. I like our cuddles to be interspersed with normal, everyday conversation, like we were just talking about board games but we couldn't keep our hands off each other. I like the way he makes those little moans of happiness- not sexual pleasure, but pure contentment- and knowing that he's enjoying my presence that much makes me match him sigh for sigh. I like neck kisses and shoulder kisses and butterfly kisses and nosey kisses. I like giving and receiving impromptu massages and back scratches. I love the way he smells when he loves me. I. LOVE. this. man's. touch.

I love when we hold hands and squeeze each other in public. I love when I move in for a kiss ands he grins and says, "There's people watching" and I always say, "So let them be jealous" and kiss him.

I love our goodbye ritual when he leaves for work- the snuggles and kisses and "I-love-you-I'll-miss-you-see-you-soon".

I love when he gets one of my Xxxxxxx texts and texts me back. I live when he texts me first even more.

I love the gentle way he wakes me up, when he sits on the side of the bed and caresses me.


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The quite hand grab is so sweet to me, especially in the car ))

I love all sorts of cuddling. Any little touch that he does I find so sweet and endearing, it makes me feel loved.
When he wakes up and goes to work and he kisses me on the head, sometimes he like touches my head/hair in a cute way. Sometimes he will grab my foot and kiss it.

I wonder what kind of affection men like? Maybe we should make another thread.

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This is a nice lovey dovey thread before Valentine's Day
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I like it anyway I can get it. It's my top love language. I wish I would get it more but it's a work in progress. The other night, my husband pulled me close in his sleep. It felt really nice. He gave me a nice hug and kiss before going to work the other day. I also love it when we lay in bed and he stretches his leg to rub his foot against mine. The more affection I show him, the more he's reciprocating. So I'm grateful for that. I do miss the long hugs from behind he used to give me. Maybe I need to start doing it to him and see if he will start again.
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My husband has been gone almost seven years. I mostly miss lying in bed with my head on his shoulder and his arms around me, just chatting. One night I dreamed we were lying like that, and he was holding me and letting me cry. I miss him so much.
This post makes me feel guilty for admitting that I don't like being touched....when someone else is wishing so badly for it! My heart broke a little for you when reading this.
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Touch is important to both of us. Physical affection from my husband that makes me feel loved and appreciated...

A recent example, we were working on home-projects together. I was sweaty, dirty and hadn't showered, figuring I'd just have one afterwards. As he was getting close, I suggested he stay back because of the state of me. He replied, 'There's nothing wrong with hard-work..' Pulled me in for a big, sweaty kiss. But it's not just the affection; I noticed the look of admiration.

He will reach for my hand on the sofa. If my feet are across him, most of the time he will massage them and knows my preferences for pressure. When we're close and he realizes the moment would be better without clothes between us (which makes me chuckle), naked closeness; gently tracing my back or neck with his fingertips, being present and intimate. Showering together and scrubbing each others back. When he steps out first to get a towel to wrap (and hug) completely around me. Oh and moments such as waking in the night with muscle cramp and he's instantly up asking where it hurts / what he can do.

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This post makes me feel guilty for admitting that I don't like being touched....when someone else is wishing so badly for it! My heart broke a little for you when reading this.

Please don't feel guilty. My hope for you is that you will also find the person that you enjoy being touched by. Before my husband, I wasn't fond of being touched, either.
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