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How do you ladies like your physical affection?

I'm not talking about sex here, just physical affection. What makes you feel warm all over? A hug from the back? Spooning in bed? Snuggling under a blanket in front of the TV/fire? What makes you feel really loved and appreciated?

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Re: How do you ladies like your physical affection?

All of the above.

Holding hands is another one. We always hold hands when we go out.
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All of the above.

Add: Kisses on the forehead; when he holds my hand while he's driving; putting me to sit in his lap, soft kisses on the back of my neck and lower back; when he wakes up and pulls my body into his and nuzzles his face in the back of my neck; gently running his fingers through my hair/scalp; big, long hugs, especially when he holds me up and I can wrap my legs around him. Mmmm all so satisfying.
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Re: How do you ladies like your physical affection?

Bare skin being rubbed when in bed. On my back, arm, leg, whatever. I just love the sensation in and of itself. It bugs me when I am watching TV for some reason though.

A kiss on the back of my neck whenever.

Spontaneously asking me to do something I love together, like a hike, a road trip, go see a football game.
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It's pretty bad that I don't even know how to answer this question. I mean I know how to, but I don't have any answers. I haven't been loved in so long (despite the fact that I was married) that I don't even know what would make me feel the most loved. I have a long road ahead of me.
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It's pretty bad that I don't even know how to answer this question. I mean I know how to, but I don't have any answers. I haven't been loved in so long (despite the fact that I was married) that I don't even know what would make me feel the most loved. I have a long road ahead of me.
That's so sad to read. I'm sorry you have such a bad past in that regard! I too get very little of that since my wife scored very low on physical affection as a Love Language. It was my number 1. But, she's going to get it from me regardless!

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Re: How do you ladies like your physical affection?

Not necessarily in this order:
Cuddling/Snuggling
Kissing
Petting and touching casually when passing by each other
Massage
"Nose nuzzles" (aka Eskimo kisses)
Eye contact (some people get so used to each other they don't really look at each other anymore)
Hugs
Hand holding/hand squeezes

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I'm a very tactile person. I delight in the feel of nice fabrics, fur, anything with an interesting texture. That love of touch carries over into my relationships. I love long hugs, soft kisses on my forehead or neck, snuggles in bed, hand holding, a hand on my back when introducing me to people or walking through a crowd, massaging my head, running fingers through my hair, running his hands up and down my arms to warm me up. I love pretty much any physical touch that conveys care for me. My SO seems to enjoy most of the same things, and initiates just as much non-sexual physical affection in our relationship as I do. Sometimes he'll come lay his head in my lap while we're watching tv just so I can lightly rub his forehead and scalp. He finds it deeply relaxing.

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It's pretty bad that I don't even know how to answer this question. I mean I know how to, but I don't have any answers. I haven't been loved in so long (despite the fact that I was married) that I don't even know what would make me feel the most loved. I have a long road ahead of me.
I know how you feel, I only know what it's like to be lied to. Mine will be a long road to.

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I know how you feel, I only know what it's like to be lied to. Mine will be a long road to.
My whole family background is one of cheating, lies, deception etc. Its possible to love again and trust again, its happened to me. Its takes time though, but its worth it.

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A good, long meaningful bear hug, stroke on the cheek, forehead kisses, and a good smack on the ass.
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I love when he gently moves my hair away from my face when we're talking, when he runs his finger-tips along my collar-bone, then his hands down my arms..Mmmmm, chills.: )
When I'm giving him oral, he carefully pulls all my hair back for me and will hold it in a "pony-tail" secured just by his hands.
His bear hugs are amazing- I could stay there forever..I get a combo of self-conciousness and warmth when he pulls back to look carefully at me and into my eyes, like he is really taking me in.
When he walks up behind me, moves my hair over my shoulder and gives me warm, lingering kisses on my neck, below my ear and down my neck. (That actually makes me weak in the knees!)

One common theme I notice among the women here is that we mostly seem to love caring, gentle gestures. They don't scream "I need sex now!" They just gently remind us that we are special to our men and that is a serious aphrodisiac in and of itself! : )
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My fiance likes to rub my legs, when we're watching tv, etc. I ilke holding hands in the car and when we walk through the mall or through the parking lot into a restaurant, for example. I come up behind him and hug him, and he does the same. He also will pick me up and carry me to the couch, or bedroom, in an affectionate/loving way. He also is a GREAT listener, and that means a lot to me, sometimes more than mere touching. I like that he cares about what I'm saying, and that seems to be another way that he shows me affection.

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I'm not talking about sex here, just physical affection. What makes you feel warm all over? A hug from the back? Spooning in bed? Snuggling under a blanket in front of the TV/fire? What makes you feel really loved and appreciated?

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All of this.

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Add: Kisses on the forehead; when he holds my hand while he's driving; putting me to sit in his lap, soft kisses on the back of my neck and lower back; when he wakes up and pulls my body into his and nuzzles his face in the back of my neck; gently running his fingers through my hair/scalp; big, long hugs, especially when he holds me up and I can wrap my legs around him. Mmmm all so satisfying.
All of this, too.

I love holding hands, no matter what we're doing.
I like it when he hugs be from behind while I'm cooking.
I like playing footsie--he teases me, but he likes it, too.

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gently caressing my earlobes feels good
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