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How can I become a Man of Mystery? Men of mystery really have a lot of things going for them. First of all, they keep everyone, especially the women guessing. And that works in a man's favor. I can think of no other formum here better to ask this question than the woman's form.

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Stop talking to people, and stop writing stuff.

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It's easier than you think. First plan things by yourself. Second do things by yourself. Have I told you to plan a weekend without your wife?
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How can I become a Man of Mystery? Men of mystery really have a lot of things going for them. First of all, they keep everyone, especially the women guessing. And that works in a man's favor. I can think of no other formum here better to ask this question than the woman's form.
I think you should just be yourself, Mr. S. Authenticity is very attractive.

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How can I become a Man of Mystery? Men of mystery really have a lot of things going for them. First of all, they keep everyone, especially the women guessing. And that works in a man's favor. I can think of no other formum here better to ask this question than the woman's form.
You think a woman wants to be kept guessing? That sounds frustrating and confusing. If a man doesn't want to be known, then he doesn't want a close, intimate, loving relationship. Most women looking for a man are looking for a close, loving, intimate relationship, not one full of frustration and confusion.

I have been married 30+ years. I don't want my husband to be a mystery. If he were to hide where he is going, what he is doing, etc. that would be mysterious and would cause me not to trust him. If I didn't trust him, I wouldn't have sex with him. If I didn't have sex with him, our relationship would surely suffer. No emotionally healthy woman wants to have sex with a man who she's not sure who he is or where he has been.

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Re: How can I become a man of mystey?

Being a man of mystery is only positive if the mystery is a positive interesting thing. So, if you pretend to be a normal office worker, but actually fly top secret military aircraft to spy on the Russians - that would be a cool "man of mystery", but of course you could never even hint it to anyone.

The thing about a cool secret life is that it needs to be..well..secret.
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If the other side doesn't care, it doesn't matter how mysterious one is.

I'm not a big fan of mystery. I'm what many people call predictably unpredictable. I have worked hard to cultivate my brand. Mystery not included.
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I think you should just be yourself, Mr. S. Authenticity is very attractive.


Totally wrong advice for him if you ready any of this dozens of threads.
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What sane woman wants to be with a man that keeps her guessing? Nothing would make me feel stabby more than a man that can't speak his mind and wants to be "mysterious".
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It's not so much hiding where you are going as being independent enough to make a plan without consulting anyone. Prove that you can have fun independent of her participation.

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What sane woman wants to be with a man that keeps her guessing? Nothing would make me feel stabby more than a man that can't speak his mind and wants to be "mysterious".


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You think a woman wants to be kept guessing? That sounds frustrating and confusing. If a man doesn't want to be known, then he doesn't want a close, intimate, loving relationship. Most women looking for a man are looking for a close, loving, intimate relationship, not one full of frustration and confusion.



I have been married 30+ years. I don't want my husband to be a mystery. If he were to hide where he is going, what he is doing, etc. that would be mysterious and would cause me not to trust him. If I didn't trust him, I wouldn't have sex with him. If I didn't have sex with him, our relationship would surely suffer. No emotionally healthy woman wants to have sex with a man who she's not sure who he is or where he has been.


OP is following my advice from his other thread. He says and his wife agrees that he wears his emotions on his face too openly. His wife knows him to well.


I suggested he add some mystery. Do things independently. Not so transparently on the emotions.
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Re: How can I become a man of mystey?

Are you confusing mystery with interesting?

On a Saturday morning, get up & shower, shave and put on nice casual clothes. Have your breakfast while looking over a map. Gather your things and hit the road. Should she ask what you're doing, say you're taking a trip. Where? Tell her you'll know when you get there. And do it. Go and discover someplace new just for you.
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A strong man, a mystery man? I just ran across your posts, and if genuine, shouldn't you be seeking the help of a professional therapist to help sort out the underlying issues rather than random quick fix gimmicks?

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OP is following my advice from his other thread. He says and his wife agrees that he wears his emotions on his face too openly. His wife knows him to well.


I suggested he add some mystery. Do things independently. Not so transparently on the emotions.
I think its great that a couple who are married know each so deeply.
I certainly wouldn't be interested in a husband who kept secrets or played some sort of mystery game.
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How can I become a Man of Mystery? Men of mystery really have a lot of things going for them. First of all, they keep everyone, especially the women guessing. And that works in a man's favor. I can think of no other formum here better to ask this question than the woman's form.
Well it's a mystery to me why you can't scratch your own ass unless you come on tam to ask whether you should do it or not.You want to impress your wife,try making a decision yourself about your own life,that will impress her.
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