Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: My side of the street
Re: why don't I enjoy my new freedom?
Are you in counseling? You and a counselor can explore other interests to make life more fulfilling. After all, you enjoy cooking. How about trying a cooking class? Do you have friends? If not, adult education classes are a great way to meet new people.
I left my marriage with no job in a terrible economy back in '09. I had no future, no idea where I was heading, and no idea what exactly I was going to do. I had to take it one day at a time. I learned how to manage my money. I found a decent job. And I learned to enjoy being by myself. I read. I experiment with new recipes. I moved into a much larger apartment. Yes, I am one of those people who likes to clean. It gives me a sense of accomplishment to have a well organized, tidy living space. I also go to a local wine store for classes on wine appreciation. I've met some nice folks in my age group, and we enjoy discussing the wines we sample. I also located a cooking school where I can take classes. Basically, I am a "domestic goddess" like you. I just learned how to parlay that into ways I can get out and meet people while doing what comes naturally to me.
There's a lot to be said for freedom. I enjoy not sharing the remote control. I enjoy not cleaning up after a man in the bathroom, which was like boy scout camp the way my husband slopped it up. I go to bed when I want (retired in July), get up most of the time when I want, eat what I want, and come and go as I please.
Something for you to consider .... JMO.
I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.