She doesn't like going to doctors for anything because she doesn't want bad news. I know, it leaves me shaking my head.
She's scared of bad news. I'm guessing she doesn't handle that type of thing well?
I hate going to the dentist. Dentists terrify me. The dentist we had when I was a kid was Chinese, and he didn't speak English very well. (Figures that in the most white-bread town in America, my mom would find the only Chinese dentist. But I digress.) Anyway, because he didn't communicate well, if you didn't understand what he was telling you, or if you wanted more explicit information or something (and I was the kind of kid who always asked questions, questions, questions, because I wanted to know how everything worked), he lacked the language skills to discuss on more detail or explain another way, he would just say it again, LOUDER, and sometimes he was practically yelling. (Now that I'm thinking about it, I wonder if he had hearing problems.) And going to the dentist was super unpleasant in general. Even though I never had any cavities, he was always telling me that I wasn't doing a good enough job taking care of my teeth, which I didn't understand, because I was like, I brush my teeth every night and every morning. I tried to explain that flossing hurt, but he just talked at me more. If he had listened to what I was saying, maybe he would have figured out that my wisdom teeth, while they hadn't come in yet, were crowding the other teeth in my mouth, and it made flossing difficult. (I've since had two removed, and it's still hard to floss, but not as bad as then.) Anyway, my point is that I hate dentists, I'm scared of them, and it's totally irrational, but there it is.
So there's probably some underlying reason that she doesn't like doctors. Could be ANYTHING. And if she doesn't care enough about the sex issue, it probably won't be enough to convince her to go, unfortunately.
Dude, your wife's got issues
. I mean, I'm scared of dentists, I forget to close cabinets, I can't tell my left from my right, and I have some triggers I'm working on from my previous marriage and FOO, but... damn