Marriage is a great deal for women. I could never advise my son to get married though.
Really? Because honestly, I think it's the opposite. In general I think the expectations from women are changing because women now have more opportunities.
So for instance, in my marriage, up until the last two years, I was the bread winner. But societal pressures haven't caught up to the changing power structure between men and women. Because in the end, I also did the majority of the house work and put my own goals on hold to get my ex through school.
If I spoke up about it I was considered a nag and if I got angry I was considered to have rage issues.
And when we divorced, even though he brought almost nothing into the marriage, he still got to keep half.
And when I think about it, if I hadn't had such a warped opinion that marriage was sacred and I should have give it my all, I would have left long before he ended it by cheating.
So based on my personal experience, I would not advise anyone to get married. It's an extremely risky financial and emotional proposition and even if you think you are completely in sync people change and you can't predict if it's going to be you or the other person and you can't even guess if the change will be good or bad.
And yet, I know that nothing could have stopped me from going down my path. If I could back in time and tell myself not to get married and explain why, I know I still would have done it.
Who knows, maybe I will change my mind, but I don't see getting married again as something I would ever want to do.