Re: Dressing up
Where do you live? Is it the area you live in that maybe is not very dress up? I live where if you dress up you may get asked if you are going to an interview. The vibe is very casual here and people wear pajamas as outer wear. They also wear furry hats, kilts, logger shirts, biker boots and hoodies.
When I wear my classy or cutesy dress up clothes I usually get asked what's the special occasion.
Most of the parties or events I go to would be attended by people who dress more like I do for those events (slacks, skirts, or dresses) but the main culture around here is so casual that most people don't dress like this often enough for it not to seem overdressed in most circumstances.
I enjoy being the only one dressed up sometimes. Other times I just feel over dressed, but I've learned pretty well when to tone it down just a little so I can still wear something that suits me in fancy-ness but not get a lot of questions about whether I'm off to an interview or something.
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