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post #16 of 39 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 03:26 PM
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Re: Ladies, may I ask for the truth about the dad bod?

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I'll be the naysayer on this thread... (just to show not all of us women are the same).. all that matters is YOUR woman.. she sounds happy , right ?

Personally... I would rather the man be thin, with some insecurities so I can build him up ... over an over weight confident man.. when I say this.. I don't mean to say you are overweight Bob Smith.. not that at all... you are talking about a relatively small amount of weight...sounds like you are very athletic.. like you shouldn't be the least bit worried about something like this..

I am a more visual type I suppose, and body type does matter to me...my husband is getting up in years... our looks are fading.. no doubt.. but I still love a flat stomach on him.. that's just the way it is.. if I can grab too much there.. I'd be adjusting his diet.



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Lol.

I don't like men skinny. They should have some meat on their bones. Personal hygiene is important and dressing decently is also important. And, even more important, being a good person.

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Lol.

I don't like men skinny. They should have some meat on their bones. Personal hygiene is important and dressing decently is also important. And, even more important, being a good person.
This guys body is fine - but the speedo's - NO NO NO !! the Beard has to go too, I'd get him some contacts while I was at it..

In the spirit of this thread.. I found this crazy song...

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this is starting to get depressing
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this is starting to get depressing
I've never even heard the term "Dad bod" till this thread.. so I did a little research.. this is where it originated...

What Is “Dad Bod?” Here's Everything You Need To Know About The Phrase And Phenomenon

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On March 30, 2015, a sophomore at Clemson University named Mackenzie Pearson published a post on college-centric site The Odyssey titled “Why Girls Love the Dad Bod.” This post gave us perhaps the most complete definition of the phrase that we have: Wrote Pearson, “The dad bod is a nice balance between a beer gut and working out. The dad bod says, 'I go to the gym occasionally, but I also drink heavily on the weekends and enjoy eating eight slices of pizza at a time.' It's not an overweight guy, but it isn't one with washboard abs, either.”

In an interview with Slate, Pearson further elaborated on this definition:

A dad bod is a guy who is not incredibly chiseled, but at the same time, is not unhealthy. He's not overweight. He's probably that guy who played football in high school and came to college and didn't play football. Maybe he had a few too many slices of pizza, or a few to many ramens, and just ended up with a little bit of squish on top of his muscle. It's a healthy body. It's a boy-next-door look. He's the kind of person you go on a hike with, and then at the end of the day, you eat pasta and lay in bed and watch a movie....
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What a loaded question! I realize this might come down to a difference in what "attracts women" as opposed to what "they are content with" once in a relationship.

I guess of course I am using myself as an example. As a former athlete, I am now about 15lb over. Not really a person anyone would see out and say "that guy needs to drop some weight", but I am a little soggy..... I'm 6ft, and I tend to carry myself like an alpha none the less, with my shirt on I suppose...... My best performing weight is about 185, and I am at 198

Now, I am kind of a person that gets to a point where "this is enough", and I go on a health kick, in which I can get back to my lean self in about 30-60 days, but this got me wondering, does this become a point of turn off for women with a little extra? My biggest issue is I gain weight right at my belt line, which is just not flattering.

Obviously I am probably a bit more self conscious than I really want to admit. What has probably created the biggest problems for me is resistance to take my shirt off with my SO because "I" am unaccepting of my appearance.


I read recently that supposedly "women prefer the dad bod", but I just don't buy it..... I realize that men seem to be MUCH more appearance oriented but I cannot help but think women are the same.

I would love to get some honest answers.

And I guess to cloud this thread a bit more, I am with a woman that is just gorgeous and fit. She has a constant inflow of date requests. It makes me self conscious I guess even though she sought me out and contends "I could be a model"....LMAO.... I am most certainly not the model type. More like the get greasy and fix things type.
Confidence is the most attractive thing to me. If you know your **** and carry yourself like a real man, then that's what attracts me, however I will suck up my shame and admit that physique is important to me as well, but on a much lesser scale. I have to be physically attracted to my man as well or it just won't work.

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Well.....out of curiosity I hit the scale to see where we are at..... 192lb. Not great, but also should be workable in 30 days if I hit it 7 days a week. Target weight for me is 185. I realize if someone just looks up those gay charts to see what a 6ft guy should weigh, it prob says 168.....LOL I have not weighed that since I was like 14yo. I graduated high school at 185 in the shape of my life, at 9% BF. No doubt I have lost muscle mass though... I got more than 7 to lose.

Anyway, I know what I need to do and how to do it.


I don't know what to say about the confidence. I am a confident person with about anything but appearance. I was given good intelligence and usually the smartest guy in the room so I don't usually have problems chatting about anything, other than when men chat it up like school girls or pervs. I am a little more mature. I don't get intimidated.

I don't like to really be the center of attention, but I tend to be more centered upon by others. I know from feedback from people that I intimidate others. It is not really something I try to do, I just have an analytical brain and I scan situations and usually provide answers after I think about my response. I some ways, I come off as being a ****, but people that actually know me would never say that.

I have had some funny moments. One was meeting my best friend's neighbor, a former cop. Obviously they like to be head ****. I didn't know the guy, but we just talked. I was amused with his cop like tactics in questions. He wanted to know what I did for a living and said I was the kind of guy that would worry him on the job because he could not get a read on me and almost have a cop type demeanor.
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Well.....out of curiosity I hit the scale to see where we are at..... 192lb. Not great, but also should be workable in 30 days if I hit it 7 days a week. Target weight for me is 185. I realize if someone just looks up those gay charts to see what a 6ft guy should weigh, it prob says 168.....LOL I have not weighed that since I was like 14yo. I graduated high school at 185 in the shape of my life, at 9% BF. No doubt I have lost muscle mass though... I got more than 7 to lose.

Anyway, I know what I need to do and how to do it.


I don't know what to say about the confidence. I am a confident person with about anything but appearance. I was given good intelligence and usually the smartest guy in the room so I don't usually have problems chatting about anything, other than when men chat it up like school girls or pervs. I am a little more mature. I don't get intimidated.

I don't like to really be the center of attention, but I tend to be more centered upon by others. I know from feedback from people that I intimidate others. It is not really something I try to do, I just have an analytical brain and I scan situations and usually provide answers after I think about my response. I some ways, I come off as being a ****, but people that actually know me would never say that.

I have had some funny moments. One was meeting my best friend's neighbor, a former cop. Obviously they like to be head ****. I didn't know the guy, but we just talked. I was amused with his cop like tactics in questions. He wanted to know what I did for a living and said I was the kind of guy that would worry him on the job because he could not get a read on me and almost have a cop type demeanor.
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I think it was the combination of demands in one post. Swimsuit restrictions (speedo is a brand name not a style, term is overused) I got dressed down in a store over swimsuits The older woman looked at me and said Well then you should wear a speedo, to which I replied I wear speedo's every other day. Totally stumped her. But in fact my other pair of Jammers is from Arena So I only wear the Speedo Jammers on every other day. I still get a few disapprovals for wearing jammers (tight suit to the knees) But the amount of Drag induced by wearing Board shorts (baggy suit to the knees) is ridiculous. Then there was the Beard restriction, Thank goodness Mrs Nail feels that my facial hair is my business. Then Glasses. There is not a contact lens or a surgery that would correct my vision.

So Depressing out on 5 strikes. no need to bother with fitness.
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Get over it. Women have had to be perfect since day one.

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My hubby is very muscular. He is broad shouldered and his arms are madd sexy, biceps and back are so delish.

He had never been married (we are in our early 40s). He put on about 15 pounds after we married. He jokes about it being his marriage weight, and I personally am never going to be one to comment negatively about someone's weight, as my health long ago caused me to become very overweight and I know how hard it is to lose and keep off, so I am sensitive to the subject.

He is like you, carries his weight at his middle like most men, and he can cut out pop and goodies for a few weeks and be back where he wants to be. So now he kinda bounces around in that range. He gets way more frustrated with the way he looks than me BY FAR.

Do I find him sexiest at his lower weight? Yes. Do I find him unattractive at his higher weight? No.

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Had the "dad" bod most of my life. Over the last 12, I have lost about 100lbs. I now have a shape. The wife calls me sexy. I have a new lease on life. (Still have the fat guy in my head tho, so when people compliment, I have difficulty with it)

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Totally!!!! LOL

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I like the 'mom bod' (if that's a thing!). I don't know if it's because of over-exposure to what men have typically decided is a "perfect body", or if I'm just built that way.

Truth be told, I've never given a rats behind what my partners body looked like, naked or otherwise. I've dated (and married) women of ALL body shapes and sizes, and it's genuinely never mattered to me.

The only time I've ever been slightly turned off was when my ex wife dropped 50-60lbs. On her 4'11" frame, it was too much, but she also overdid it and had an eating disorder.

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