What a loaded question! I realize this might come down to a difference in what "attracts women" as opposed to what "they are content with" once in a relationship.
I guess of course I am using myself as an example. As a former athlete, I am now about 15lb over. Not really a person anyone would see out and say "that guy needs to drop some weight", but I am a little soggy.....
I'm 6ft, and I tend to carry myself like an alpha none the less, with my shirt on I suppose...... My best performing weight is about 185, and I am at 198
Now, I am kind of a person that gets to a point where "this is enough", and I go on a health kick, in which I can get back to my lean self in about 30-60 days, but this got me wondering, does this become a point of turn off for women with a little extra? My biggest issue is I gain weight right at my belt line, which is just not flattering.
Obviously I am probably a bit more self conscious than I really want to admit. What has probably created the biggest problems for me is resistance to take my shirt off with my SO because "I" am unaccepting of my appearance.
I read recently that supposedly "women prefer the dad bod", but I just don't buy it..... I realize that men seem to be MUCH more appearance oriented but I cannot help but think women are the same.
I would love to get some honest answers.
And I guess to cloud this thread a bit more, I am with a woman that is just gorgeous and fit. She has a constant inflow of date requests. It makes me self conscious I guess even though she sought me out and contends "I could be a model"....LMAO.... I am most certainly not the model type. More like the get greasy and fix things type.