Looking for some insight on something I've dealt with in the past.
My ex wife could not handle direct stimulation on her clitoris, especially by me (oral or manual), as it would cause her pain or discomfort. She was like this for the decade and a half we were together. As she was not orgasmic via PIV, you can imagine we didn't have that great of a sex life. But, she still wanted it, and would initiate a good chunk of the time.
I don't recall her ever trying anything that numbed the sensitivity, like a cream or anything, unfortunately. She would also reach clitoral orgasm with the use of a vibrator, but she wouldn't place it directly on her clit, rather in the folds of the labia.
My question is - is this a not-uncommon thing amongst women? For those of you who may have something similar, what do you do, sexually (particularly if you're not PIV orgasmic)? Can it/does it go away?
We made do for all those years, but it was clear she was not satisfied. On more than one occasion, she turned down sex, only to masturbate within a short period of time afterwards. Yet she also still initiated sex fairly regularly, too.
Lastly (and this will go down a rabbit hole, I'm sure), she did have at least one PA, and probably 2 or 3 TBH, when we were together. She's also since remarried. I guess I'm wondering how she's maintained a decent sex life (she also couldn't do oral, due to TMJ, lockjaw. Real, I saw it firsthand numerous times)
I'm not sitting here hoping she doesn't have a good sex life, or anything like that - I'm genuinely curious as to how those of you women who may experience something similar get by, and/or maintain a mutually satisfying sex life with your partner(s). From my experience with her, her limitations did not exactly provide me with a satisfying sex life, either.
My ex wife could not handle direct stimulation on her clitoris, especially by me (oral or manual), as it would cause her pain or discomfort. She was like this for the decade and a half we were together. As she was not orgasmic via PIV, you can imagine we didn't have that great of a sex life. But, she still wanted it, and would initiate a good chunk of the time.
I don't recall her ever trying anything that numbed the sensitivity, like a cream or anything, unfortunately. She would also reach clitoral orgasm with the use of a vibrator, but she wouldn't place it directly on her clit, rather in the folds of the labia.
My question is - is this a not-uncommon thing amongst women? For those of you who may have something similar, what do you do, sexually (particularly if you're not PIV orgasmic)? Can it/does it go away?
We made do for all those years, but it was clear she was not satisfied. On more than one occasion, she turned down sex, only to masturbate within a short period of time afterwards. Yet she also still initiated sex fairly regularly, too.
Lastly (and this will go down a rabbit hole, I'm sure), she did have at least one PA, and probably 2 or 3 TBH, when we were together. She's also since remarried. I guess I'm wondering how she's maintained a decent sex life (she also couldn't do oral, due to TMJ, lockjaw. Real, I saw it firsthand numerous times)
I'm not sitting here hoping she doesn't have a good sex life, or anything like that - I'm genuinely curious as to how those of you women who may experience something similar get by, and/or maintain a mutually satisfying sex life with your partner(s). From my experience with her, her limitations did not exactly provide me with a satisfying sex life, either.