Ellis you and are are going to have to disagree on this. I would very much like to see this guys life turned upside down, he crossed so far over a line he deserves to be punished and I'm not picky how it's done. Maybe that's a shame on me but I'm OK with that.
Let's say he has been grooming this kid for years, I would guess he has her convinced it's love, convinced her it's OK, all sorts of brain washing is possible. Do you think a distraught mother questioning the two of them is going to be able to get the truth out of them? Is the mother a skilled interrogator able to cipher thru what's BS and what's the truth? I think not. That is why you call the police and CPSA, let them handle the investigation, they have the professional experience necessary to deal with this, mom does not.
We can agree to disagree. It is a question of legality vs morality. Morally this guy is a dbag, no doubt. Legally, with what we know currently HE HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG. We may come to find out that yes, he did engage in sex prior to her age of consent, of which then legal proceeding can begin. However, at this point he has done nothing wrong legally
. That is why the best approach, which @EleGirl
highlighted, would be to start with a counselor/therapist along with immediately starting divorce proceeding. Calling the cops when no laws have been broken, you run the risk that the daughter just further closes herself off to her mom and what actually happened. What if he had been "grooming" her but they never had sex until she was 18, have any laws been broken?
Curious if anyone here is in law enforcement, in a case like this, what would you be capable of doing? Do you have to approach differently b/c this guy was/is a father figure (vs let's say if you get a call from someone who is upset b/c her 18yr old friend is having sex with an older guy, and there are no signs that is was not consensual)?