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post #1 of 17 (permalink) Old 02-26-2017, 04:59 PM Thread Starter
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What level of "fit" turns you on?

Ladies, regarding the physical attraction...

  1. Does a guy have to bee VERY fit to turn you on? [Obvious abs, biceps, triceps...??]
  2. What's the level of fitness does he need to have for you to feel physically attracted to him?
  3. If you had to choose between the face and the body, which one would matter the most to you?

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I've realized that "too fit" guys don't turn me on more than "normal fit" guys.

(I won't be talking about sluggish guys as I'm not attracted to them most of the times - although I've dated 'out-of-shape' guys in the past as their character appealed to me more than their body).

Back to the topic, too much fitness turns me off..or at least ...doesn't turn me on as much as it's expected.

For example, guy 1 is very fit (sorry it's posted 2 times, I didn't know how to delete it.)...but it doesn't turn me on as much as guys 2 or 3. They are less fit than the first one, but I find them more appealing.

There is something cold about "too fit" guys that I can't describe why I don't feel very sexually attracted by them. It kind of surprises me that some of my girlfriends are excited/turned on by VERY fit guys and they even follow pages of hot guys on Instagram.
Sure, they are good to look at and it would be a plus to date a very fit guy, but I wouldn't choose them over normally fit guys.

Plus, the face matters MORE to me than the body. I want to look at someone whose face I LOVE. Eye contact, teeth and the shape of the face matters to me more than the body itself.

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Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Re: What level of "fit" turns you on?

I'll go ahead and answer your questions based on physical attraction alone, but I must say, the rest of the person, for instance their personality and other things that cause the "sparks", are completely more essential than a very fit bod.

1.) No.
2.) I love my husbands arms and back, so muscular, so sexy. I can't keep my hands off of him. So, fit enough to look hot. I want us both to work on remaining healthy and attractive for each other.
3.) Face, I am crazy for gorgeous eyes.

Side thought: My XH had let himself go and he got very overweight, and I was not physically attracted to him at all. It's amazing how it feels to be massively attracted to my spouse now.

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Ladies, regarding the physical attraction...

  1. Does a guy have to bee VERY fit to turn you on? [Obvious abs, biceps, triceps...??]
  2. What's the level of fitness does he need to have for you to feel physically attracted to him?
  3. If you had to choose between the face and the body, which one would matter the most to you?

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None of those guys have any chest or arm hair or even stubble.
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I've always liked taller/lean/muscular, my fiance has that body type. So, the guy in the gym pics above, is sexy...definitely can see his hard work which is sexy. They all need body hair, not a lot, but some chest hair and arm hair is nice.
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Mrs. meson prefers the look of #3. Bulk is disgusting to her. However another feature that she finds attractive is callused hands or hands that are used to work. That combined with #3 is the look I had that attracted her. Now I have too much of a dad bod and I am working to fix it, but my hands are still golden to her.

For me I find bulk repulsive as well in a woman and men for that matter. It's just wasted muscle that is only there because of artificial exercise. However high definition looks good in both men and women to me. Women with high definition that's visible when exerting is a turn on to me but it doesn't need to be visible otherwise.

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A guy does not have to be totally fit to turn me on at all. I would be more turned on to a guy where fitness is important though. All these guys are hot imo but I prefer #3 by a long shot. For some reason, I feel like 1 an 2 would be arrogant or too into their looks which is a turn off to me. This is totally unfair, I realize.

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I am not attracted to ultra muscly men, especially those with no hair. A man who spends hours in the gym to build up his muscles would put me off to start with, far too self absorbed.

Its more a mans character that makes him sexy or not to me.

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I like body hair.....no body hair just seems too much like a kid.

I need a man.

Body wise both 2 and 3 look good.

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Yeah, I could accept some hair on the chest/arms but not very hairy.
Plus, I agree with @Diana 7 that some men who are obsessed with gym are too self-centered to handle.

I used to know a guy who dated a friend of mine. This guy is at my gym btw. He was so obsessed with his body, muscles, his looks...etc that he didn't really have time to pay attention to my friend. It was all about him.

Obviously, the relationship didn't last more than a month.


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Yeah, I could accept some hair on the chest/arms but not very hairy.
Plus, I agree with @Diana 7 that some men who are obsessed with gym are too self-centered to handle.

I used to know a guy who dated a friend of mine. This guy is at my gym btw. He was so obsessed with his body, muscles, his looks...etc that he didn't really have time to pay attention to my friend. It was all about him.

Obviously, the relationship didn't last more than a month.
But she probably had a fun month didn't she?

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Yeah, I could accept some hair on the chest/arms but not very hairy.
Plus, I agree with @Diana 7 that some men who are obsessed with gym are too self-centered to handle.

I used to know a guy who dated a friend of mine. This guy is at my gym btw. He was so obsessed with his body, muscles, his looks...etc that he didn't really have time to pay attention to my friend. It was all about him.

Obviously, the relationship didn't last more than a month.
He wouldn't have lasted a day with me. If there is one thing I cant stand in a man its arrogance/self importance.
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But she probably had a fun month didn't she?
I think that you may be assuming that a man like that would be a good partner. I doubt it.
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I think that you may be assuming that a man like that would be a good partner. I doubt it.
Not so much a good partner as a boy toy she could rub her hands all over. Just a bit of teasing.
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As long as he does not have an unhealthy beer belly that hangs out of the bottom of his shirt, I am not too bothered about the body.

A hard working man that is toned is always nice to look at.

I always like a handsome face with a nice smile and eyes.


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