You sound very bitter at the welfare system which was paying for your childcare and for your food and covering the bulk of your rent and your medical expenses, until they found out you had someone cohabitating with you and sharing expenses which you neglected to tell them. Considering the rampant abuse of the system and widespread fraud that costs the hardworking taxpayers money, don't you think it's understandable why they check up on welfare recipients and pull the plug when they realize there's unreported income?
I did not have anyone cohabiting with me. He would spend the night a couple times a week. When he did he would pay for the food he ate, or he'd bring groceries over for all of us. I got a great deal on a car, paid less than half what they told me it was worth. Where am I ripping off the system???
The welfare system wasn't PAYING for my rent or my child care. I was getting $1 a month from them. I was receiving various subsidies from the municipal, provincial and federal government, all of which were based on income. Since I was 'on welfare' I didn't have to submit proof of income to them. So the second I got kicked 'off welfare' and had to send in proof of income, suddenly my subsidies all disappeared.
The SECOND I crossed their arbitrary income line, I slid WAY backwards as far as income. I was NOT living with anyone at that point. Suddenly my rent shot WAY up, I lost medical benefits for all 4 of us, I lost THREE child care subsidies, and help with things like car seats, school expenses, etc etc etc. I lost access to a bunch of 'low income' organizations that were available to me as a welfare recipient put out by churches and various charitable organizations. Tell me who, in the 'regular' world of people getting paid, would suddenly have their net income slashed by more than half and then be expected to pay MORE for everything they needed for their kids??? We had to move from a 3 bedroom townhouse with a yard, to a two bedroom (more like 1 1/2 bedroom) basement apartment in a shifty part of town. Me and my 3 kids - they were in kindergarten, grade 2 and grade 4 at the time. We had to move away from all their friends - luckily they got to stay at the same school and daycare.
Bitter? Not really - just incredulous more than anything, that the system is so VERY broken. How much do you think that PI costed the taxpayers??
ETA - for some reason I put in my previous post that I moved in with him right away. I didn't - I actually moved in with him a year after I got kicked off welfare.