Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: Second choice?
Aren't most of us not the first choice. My first choice was a super model. There are always better choices for us if we keep looking. We eventually pick one to marry for various reasons. May not be the best in bed, the prettiest or the smartest, but at that time and place, for whatever reason, he or she was the best choice. I rather be the best choice than the first choice. Don't obsess over who was first or second choice. Focus on the fact that your life would have been better had he picked the other girl. Second choice may be looking better all the time.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.