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Did you ever need lube?

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#1 ·
I remember needing it a few times the first couple months I was with Dug, but not after that. We bought a tube of KY jelly that sat on a shelf for about 15 years until we threw it out during some house cleaning.

We do not do anal, though. Is that why couples continue to use it?

Just curious about this, as I often see posts about couples where the woman uses an external supply of lubrication.
 
#2 ·
I used it when I was first married too.
Some women have a dryness problem and that's why they need it.
We have silicone based lube in our shower. It makes shower sex easier and fun. The silicone doesn't wash away easily like saline-based lube and my own lubricant.
 
#3 ·
Some women just can't get wet? No matter what the man does?
 
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I am not familiar with PCOS, but read that a low fat, high fiber plant based diet will help it.

I did not realize that diet could have so much to do with natural lubrication. It does make sense, though. Straighten out the hormone levels, and other things fall into place, too.

I thought sufficient lubrication was mostly a result of the man properly arousing the woman (at least before menopause). I remember, when I was a young teacher, hearing an older teacher saying that before a man ever tries to penetrate his wife, he should have her flowing.
 
#11 ·
Lube is my savior. Depending on the circumstances; if I give oral on her we do not need it. In other cases it fluctuates on wetness therefore we apply regularly just to be on the safe side for my sake.

This was a very sore subject with my wife because she didn't believe me that it was uncomfortable. I had to explain a burned shaft is never fun.

We use a water based lube that was recommend by her OB.

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#12 ·
Interesting. I did not realize a man could be affected by a wife's dryness.
 
#14 ·
Lube is great!
We like a non-silicon natural lube for sex or Hitachi play (or both).
She loves the Wicked Aqua one for oral and its about the only time I get to finish in her mouth as she says it covers up the flavour mostly.
Ive tried it on her for oral and its got a pretty good flavour but I don't mind the taste of a woman so I don't care much either way.
 
#15 ·
We use lube often. My wife does get wet, but it never has been as copious as some women I have been with. Since she is not into oral, we use lube very early in our sex. It's way more enjoyable that way.

The old tube of KY was a messy nightmare. The new lubes are much less messy and way more fun to use.

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Menopause does not have to impact natural lubrication. No lube needed here, 50 and post menopause. I wish more women would research the positive impacts of what a healthy, vegetarian diet can do for them. I eat lots of legumes, fruit and organic vege, tofu, seeds, nuts etc. and am sure that this lifestyle is what helped me get through peri and then menopause with very little issues. My sex drive and natural lubrication did not change.

Like so many other parts of life, people try and fix after the fact instead of being pro active along the way and avoiding or lessening future issues. I did not take any supplements or hormone therapy, it just wasn't necessary for me and if I look at my family history (which is a big indicator of how a woman will experience menopause) then I followed a totally different path than all the other women. My Mum, sister, aunties all had a terrible time during this phase, none of the were/are vegetarian.
 
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Thanks for sharing this, MH. This is consistent with what I am reading on plant-based diet sites.
 
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#22 ·
I have had sex with a few dozen women in my 65 years on earth. Never used lube until I started anal sex with my wife but turned out that she did not need it if she got me hard orally first. Saliva makes a good lube. Plus my wife gets very wet, very fast so I could penetrate her Vagina first and then do anal. Never liked lube as they are messy and I like licking what I am sticking, if you get my drift. >:)
 
#23 ·
With my abusive ex we needed lube every time...that was because he wasn't putting any effort into me. He didn't bother anywhere else so why would he in the bedroom?

With my husband, we rarely need to use lube, and on the rare occasions we do, it's the first couple of days after my period ends. I just need a bit of a helping hand to get going and then I'm a-ok ;)
 
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With my abusive ex we needed lube every time...that was because he wasn't putting any effort into me. He didn't bother anywhere else so why would he in the bedroom?

With my husband, we rarely need to use lube, and on the rare occasions we do, it's the first couple of days after my period ends. I just need a bit of a helping hand to get going and then I'm a-ok ;)
The bolded was my suspicion before I started this thread. A man needs to arouse his woman, at least imo.

Like that older teacher I once worked with said, a man needs to have a woman absolutely flowing before he penetrates her. That is his job.
 
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#24 ·
With my first XW and her endometriosis, we frequently had to employ the use of lubicrants!

Not so, however, with my RSWX ~ because with as many men that she was busy servicing, she was literally good to go in a sheer heartbeat!
 
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