I adore my wife. It loved from our first conversation and I want so desperately to be close to her. We have been married 8 years. I'm 31, she's 29. We were once very close and intimate when dating and engaged, but now we are not snd that breaks my heart. I have been, for the past 5 years actively pursuing ways to make our marriage better and to be close again.
She is not cheating, so please don't suggest that.
Recently I have decided that I would focus on meeting her needs and fulfilling her emotionally as well as non-sexual touch.
Married women, I would love your input. Can you tell me what non-sexual things you dream your husband would do for you/ say to you/ treat you?
I am a good man. I am Christian. I am healthy and attractive. My goal in my marriage every day is to treat my wife as she is more precious to me than diamonds. I try so hard, but she is so cold to me. I am not a soft man, but I tear up writing this now because I am so sad.
She stays home with our children and I earn a very good wage working only 40 hours, so I am home a lot and we are financially stable.
I do most of the cooking and at least half of the cleaning and housework do that we can have more time together.
I always hope that she will want to interact with me and most nights ask to do something with her like watch the sunset on the poarchseing or play cards, but she would almost always rather watch a show with earbuds in.
She will not kiss me. When I go in for a kiss she turns a cheek/forhead or gives me a tight-lipped peck and pulls away.
She does not want me touching her unless it is for a back or shoulder rub. Will not cuddle. Won't hold my hand for Mhire than a few minutes. Sometimes she will "let" me spoon her in bed but elbows me off when she gets "too hot" every time snd even complains if I'm touching her when we wake in the morning.
It may be obvious here that our sex life is almost non-existent. It is so difficult as a man to feel loved
When your wife will not respond to you in any way physically. Our marriage has been "sexless" for most of these 8 years. I do not use porn and have always been faithful to her.
She makes fun of me for masturbating--especially when she gets mad. I try to involve her and be open about it because I want no secrets, but she often tries to embarrass me. She has a temper and sometimes says horrible thing to me in front of our children.
She is a wonderful woman and I love her with all I am, but she has lost respect for me, I feel, and it is a deep aching hurt I carry constantly. I make sure she gets st least two evenings a week out of the house alone while I take care of the kiddos since she stays home and that is when she is happiest and wants to talk after getting home for a few minutes, but that's it. No going deeper emotionally. No physicsll expression of love and closeness.
Please help me.
She is not cheating, so please don't suggest that.
Recently I have decided that I would focus on meeting her needs and fulfilling her emotionally as well as non-sexual touch.
Married women, I would love your input. Can you tell me what non-sexual things you dream your husband would do for you/ say to you/ treat you?
I am a good man. I am Christian. I am healthy and attractive. My goal in my marriage every day is to treat my wife as she is more precious to me than diamonds. I try so hard, but she is so cold to me. I am not a soft man, but I tear up writing this now because I am so sad.
She stays home with our children and I earn a very good wage working only 40 hours, so I am home a lot and we are financially stable.
I do most of the cooking and at least half of the cleaning and housework do that we can have more time together.
I always hope that she will want to interact with me and most nights ask to do something with her like watch the sunset on the poarchseing or play cards, but she would almost always rather watch a show with earbuds in.
She will not kiss me. When I go in for a kiss she turns a cheek/forhead or gives me a tight-lipped peck and pulls away.
She does not want me touching her unless it is for a back or shoulder rub. Will not cuddle. Won't hold my hand for Mhire than a few minutes. Sometimes she will "let" me spoon her in bed but elbows me off when she gets "too hot" every time snd even complains if I'm touching her when we wake in the morning.
It may be obvious here that our sex life is almost non-existent. It is so difficult as a man to feel loved
When your wife will not respond to you in any way physically. Our marriage has been "sexless" for most of these 8 years. I do not use porn and have always been faithful to her.
She makes fun of me for masturbating--especially when she gets mad. I try to involve her and be open about it because I want no secrets, but she often tries to embarrass me. She has a temper and sometimes says horrible thing to me in front of our children.
She is a wonderful woman and I love her with all I am, but she has lost respect for me, I feel, and it is a deep aching hurt I carry constantly. I make sure she gets st least two evenings a week out of the house alone while I take care of the kiddos since she stays home and that is when she is happiest and wants to talk after getting home for a few minutes, but that's it. No going deeper emotionally. No physicsll expression of love and closeness.
Please help me.