Need a woman's perspective here! First some background though...
So this earlier month me and my wife agreed to start increasing our intimacy frequency. Our normal average was about once a week and over the last 2 weeks we've had sex 6 times, so I'm a very happy man at the moment!
HOWEVER, my wife has only come to orgasm once out of those 6 times. I can tell she's frustrated afterwards, and she goes to sleep with that on her shoulders despite me trying to get her to open up and communicate about it to see if there's something we can change for her. She doesn't really want to talk about it, says "she's fine" and "doesn't have to get off every time"... but I can tell she's frustrated at the moment regardless of what she says.
She really only has one way she likes to orgasm, and it's when she's on top of me riding "cowgirl" – and she usually gets off in that position. But like I said she's only gotten off once lately despite doing this position every time. Could it be that once every week was enough time off for her body to get back to orgasm mode and now with increased frequency it's changed the game on her? I offer up some alternative ideas for her like "maybe next time I finger you all the way until you get off instead of stopping to get on top of me" but she's not really into exploring that idea it seems.
My wife is slightly introverted (not selfish, but not a proactive explorer - kinda shy). So I'm finding it hard to get her to open up her mind to sexuality freedom beyond the standard vanilla positions. I know it's going to take her time, but my concern is that the more frequently we are having sex and she doesn't come to orgasm, the more frustrated she'll get with the increased frequency of sex.
Any ideas what's going on with my wife? Any recommendations for me to change things up so I can try to get her off? I'm very concerned about her happiness too, I don't want sex to always be a one way street with me just getting off... I want her to get as much out of this experience too. I asked her last night if maybe she's starting to over-think too much about getting an orgasm and she say "I don't know, maybe".
FYI - The next day her mood does seem to be fine, as if she's "over it" - but in the back of my mind the issue is still there and I think it needs attention. I don't want to let it go without attention to the issue, but I certainly don't want to keep pressing it either like a broken record and thus pushing her away.
So this earlier month me and my wife agreed to start increasing our intimacy frequency. Our normal average was about once a week and over the last 2 weeks we've had sex 6 times, so I'm a very happy man at the moment!
HOWEVER, my wife has only come to orgasm once out of those 6 times. I can tell she's frustrated afterwards, and she goes to sleep with that on her shoulders despite me trying to get her to open up and communicate about it to see if there's something we can change for her. She doesn't really want to talk about it, says "she's fine" and "doesn't have to get off every time"... but I can tell she's frustrated at the moment regardless of what she says.
She really only has one way she likes to orgasm, and it's when she's on top of me riding "cowgirl" – and she usually gets off in that position. But like I said she's only gotten off once lately despite doing this position every time. Could it be that once every week was enough time off for her body to get back to orgasm mode and now with increased frequency it's changed the game on her? I offer up some alternative ideas for her like "maybe next time I finger you all the way until you get off instead of stopping to get on top of me" but she's not really into exploring that idea it seems.
My wife is slightly introverted (not selfish, but not a proactive explorer - kinda shy). So I'm finding it hard to get her to open up her mind to sexuality freedom beyond the standard vanilla positions. I know it's going to take her time, but my concern is that the more frequently we are having sex and she doesn't come to orgasm, the more frustrated she'll get with the increased frequency of sex.
Any ideas what's going on with my wife? Any recommendations for me to change things up so I can try to get her off? I'm very concerned about her happiness too, I don't want sex to always be a one way street with me just getting off... I want her to get as much out of this experience too. I asked her last night if maybe she's starting to over-think too much about getting an orgasm and she say "I don't know, maybe".
FYI - The next day her mood does seem to be fine, as if she's "over it" - but in the back of my mind the issue is still there and I think it needs attention. I don't want to let it go without attention to the issue, but I certainly don't want to keep pressing it either like a broken record and thus pushing her away.