01-30-2012, 11:29 PM
Join Date: Nov 2011
| | Re: Women and orgasms
I know, this isn't about orgasms anymore but I thought you ladies would like to hear some closure on this thread...
I'm happy to report that I gave the massage another go on Saturday night and my wife absolutely loved it!
It took me the better part of the day to get over my angst over the big let-down the night before, but I finally sucked it up and talked myself into calming down. Even though the surprise was gone I still managed to make it special. I actually played off of the disastrous let down from the night before and wrote a whole script of "ground rules" to recite to my wife when she got in the bed. For your reading pleasure, here's the dialogue I read: "1) This massage is all about you, just you, and only you. This is not about sex... so please toss out any thoughts of ulterior motives and just clear your mind to enjoy simply a pampering made for you.
2) You are naked and I am highly attracted to you. This may result in an occasional erection but please ignore this, it is completely normal behavior and does not mean I have ulterior motives for this pampering.
3) You may hear the occasional Pandora radio commercial. I apologize for this inconvenience, as I'm a cheap bastard and refuse to pay for the ad-free service.
4) I am not a professional masseuse... I may need your guidance along the way if you are not enjoying something, so I can learn what pleases you. My hope is perhaps we can make this a weekly scheduled pampering for you if you enjoy the experience.
But last and most importantly, relax your body, enjoy my touch, and know that I love you deeply and your happiness is incredibly important to me."
So yeah, needless to say the evening went off without a hitch and it was a wonderful experience for us both. She got a no-strings-attached pampering of love and I got to experience every curve and tone of her body with my eyes and hands. It was fantastic, and damn right I plan on making this a weekly thing for her.
Oh and she was so turned on that we had sex afterwards anyway, but she totally initiated it not me! And no, she didn't even try to orgasm... she just wanted me in her I think.
Damn I love my wife... our life.