I am new to this forum and not sure where my post fits in here.
I have been married for a little less than a year. I knew my husband for about a year before we got married. Our courtship period was amazing!! I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. And he IS an incredible guy. Everyone loves him and he is very helpful and caring towards almost everyone. He is good looking and extremely witty and humorous. But only some nine months into the marriage, we have started fighting so much. The frequency and growing intensity of our fights has started to scare me.
Now let me get to the point. I understand that men surf porn. And I am absolutely fine with my husband doing it. But I need to know whether it is acceptable for a married man to add ****ty chicks on a social networking site where everything is happening real time. I mean these are actual girls who are uploading obscene pictures of themselves and not some model on a porn site. My husband has gone ahead and 'liked' her photos on Facebook. Now our cousins and other family members are also on Facebook. They can see that what he views and the fact that he has liked it goes to say that is is not some virus or this has definitely not happened by mistake. What is also bothering me is that he still indulges in stuff like this. When I confronted him, he apologized and said that those girls are on his list since before marriage and that he has even forgotten about them. He happened to come across some photograph and just clicked the 'like' button. He also swore that he has never chatted with girls online.
In another incident sometime back, his mails were open and I happened to see that he has subscribed to some forum which was some kind of an adult site. It was the kind of site which has girls' explicit profiles. I am not sure whether it was an adult dating site or just another porn website.
I am just so confused. I know he is not cheating on me, in that he is not having sex with another woman. But isn't this some form of infidelity as well? And he is very romantic with me. Its not like he doesn't get love at home hence he has to resort to such things. That is not the case.
I just need a third person's opinion, perhaps a guy's opinion whether this is normal behavior? Is this something that even loyal husbands do just to catch a break?? Help!!!
I have been married for a little less than a year. I knew my husband for about a year before we got married. Our courtship period was amazing!! I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. And he IS an incredible guy. Everyone loves him and he is very helpful and caring towards almost everyone. He is good looking and extremely witty and humorous. But only some nine months into the marriage, we have started fighting so much. The frequency and growing intensity of our fights has started to scare me.
Now let me get to the point. I understand that men surf porn. And I am absolutely fine with my husband doing it. But I need to know whether it is acceptable for a married man to add ****ty chicks on a social networking site where everything is happening real time. I mean these are actual girls who are uploading obscene pictures of themselves and not some model on a porn site. My husband has gone ahead and 'liked' her photos on Facebook. Now our cousins and other family members are also on Facebook. They can see that what he views and the fact that he has liked it goes to say that is is not some virus or this has definitely not happened by mistake. What is also bothering me is that he still indulges in stuff like this. When I confronted him, he apologized and said that those girls are on his list since before marriage and that he has even forgotten about them. He happened to come across some photograph and just clicked the 'like' button. He also swore that he has never chatted with girls online.
In another incident sometime back, his mails were open and I happened to see that he has subscribed to some forum which was some kind of an adult site. It was the kind of site which has girls' explicit profiles. I am not sure whether it was an adult dating site or just another porn website.
I am just so confused. I know he is not cheating on me, in that he is not having sex with another woman. But isn't this some form of infidelity as well? And he is very romantic with me. Its not like he doesn't get love at home hence he has to resort to such things. That is not the case.
I just need a third person's opinion, perhaps a guy's opinion whether this is normal behavior? Is this something that even loyal husbands do just to catch a break?? Help!!!