^ that was me who mentioned the veins and I totally get what you mean with those "drummer's arms". I don't know about you, but I love that these physical traits also relate to having a creative streak and/or passion. Does that make sense? I think that's what the bulging veins are for me, it's that passion, literally pumping through the veins. Passion for music, passion when singing/screaming. I think it represents those moments where you lose yourself to something....and perhaps that translates to the sexual moment to me as well? Seeing that expression of passion. Maybe? It's a theory *shrug*
Thinking about it, I think I'm coming at things from a different perspective. My OH works a really physical job and is really toned with THOSE veins *just* from going to work. He doesn't gym because he doesn't need to. So for me I think it's something about a natural everyday manly strength?
Thinking about it, I think I'm coming at things from a different perspective. My OH works a really physical job and is really toned with THOSE veins *just* from going to work. He doesn't gym because he doesn't need to. So for me I think it's something about a natural everyday manly strength?
Interesting! Yes, that totally makes sense. Mine always relates to the creative/passion. If I know the veins are from the gym, it doesn't hold the same appeal. I'm weird lol. I can understand your attraction to the tone from his job though.
My H keeps a journal and he shared it with me. I was blown away at how creative it was. He'd written a poem for me inside his journal that was incredible. The entries weren't simply written, there was a unique lay out and approach to each page, sketches, and of course his thoughts, that really blew me away. I knew he had a creative side but being allowed to experience his journal this way opened my eyes even more to that side of him.
I have a 'preference' for the unshaven, facial growth ...hubs grows this at times but he's also in the club with SA and Trenton's husbands with regards to body hair/full head of hair. I love this and am drawn to him this way, but I couldn't say one way or another was a preference for me in that regard. I love the shape of his eyes. I love his unique walk, those bow-legs kill me at how sexy I find them. And to think it's something he used to be self conscious about! He's taller than me even when I'm wearing high heels. I do like this but height isn't something I really thought about. I love all his unique features.
Looks mean very little to me in general because a lot of great looking men that I knew were total jerks and a-holes. That being said, it's not like I would not be attracted to a man with a great smile who is at least taller than me. As for body size, I really couldn't care less as long as they take care of their body.
Character and mind over body
For me its a hairless chest, muscular arms a MUST not too big but just right. Broad shoulders , a little mushtache no beard, juicy lips, black hair and tanned skin and a little large downstairs is the best sorry but i just descibed my hubby That is what is SEXY to me but EVERY LADY is different..
Men over 6 feet tall drive me wild. I'm almost 6 feet in heels, and there is just something about a tall man that instantly attracts me. My ex-h is prematurely bald, and I just love a full head of dark hair. I love a man's smooth clean shaven face...not a fan of facial hair. A little body hair is ok.
I personally like what's on the inside vs the outside. I like a kind, gentle, honest man. I have the whole package with my husband. Physical appearance is not that important as far as traits go. Great hygiene and personality is a must!
I'm not one to judge on looks, I don't like it when others do either. Most people can not help the way they look for the most part. You can only control certain things like weight, hair, clothing style. Most people do not have the money to change their appearance either. My husband is obsessed over hygiene. He's a germaphobic and keeps very clean. Posted via Mobile Device
But at first attraction, it's not the inside that makes you smile or talk to him.
Things I like, but might overlook for the "whole package":
- not a smoker (deal breaker)
- taller than me, with strong arms, so that when he hugs me I feel tiny
- good kisser
- confidence
- preferably, no tattoos
- no piercings (deal breaker)
- someone that knows when to treat others with respect, and know when to put people in their place
- not so hairy that hair is sticking out of the chest area and in the back of the neck. Only met one guy like that, so I don't think they are that prevalent...
- someone that takes care of himself, and yet enjoys a second plate of good food
- someone that has initiative
- someone that is not afraid to say what they are thinking
- someone considerate enough that when they are in the kitchen, will ask me if I want something
.... well, the post was about physical traits. Oops!
Taller than me, nice back, nice read end... I once met this one guy with the nicest hands... he'd been a mechanic... Nice shoulders, straight legs... I don't like it when guys look thin, but have chubby legs (deal breaker!). Oh... must have teeth... LOL!
Looks mean very little to me in general because a lot of great looking men that I knew were total jerks and a-holes. That being said, it's not like I would not be attracted to a man with a great smile who is at least taller than me. As for body size, I really couldn't care less as long as they take care of their body.
Character and mind over body
I'm like you Applemon. I'm more attracted to the personality than anything else. Years past, there were men whom I didn't consider very attractive, but the more I got to know them and liked their personality, a light shone from them.
Any hints from the ladies on how an average looking guy (whom always thought looks were never the issue) can bypass the filtering that seems to happening at first glance with me?
I take care of myself, clean cut, dress well, shower daily (usually) am physically active and have a subtle but intense sense of humor (however have never had an appealing smile) I'm not tall (5'8.5") I'm somewhat pale but that is largely due to long winters and I think I may be balder than I appear to myself in my minds eye and when I look in the mirror. I wear glasses and have a strong prescription, I'm sure that doesn help to market my genetics though my glasses are somewhat stylish. I don't really have any flair but I'm kind, compassionate and think of myself as successful.
I set up an online dating profile and decided today to just not bother thinking of it anymore because I have had zero hits on it (except of course from seemingly desperate crazy women that I have absolutely no attraction to). It is doing my self esteem no good, over the past couple months I have experimented a little with my description trying to be more/less flirty sexual... I am not expecting women to make the first move on there but of the dozens and dozens of women I send a message to only a couple have even glanced at my profile and not a single one has responded (well exaggerating a bit - some have responded once, when I followed up they just flaked out).
I have always felt like this in RL too, like I just don't get any interest even when I am brave enough to put out the feelers, now I feel certain it must be on looks considering most of these women haven't even bothered to read my profile before rejecting me.
Any hints on how to circumvent getting passed over on looks? Should I steal a picture of some model from a catalog or something to lure them to atleast look at my profile first?
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