FINALLY, a statement where my husband is different than you Stonewall !!
Nope, me & mine appreciate the learning of the little things , the big things, the BAD, even the insignificant - not because we "demand" it, just because if one asks, we wouldn't want silenced, put off, told it is none of our business ,or not something we need to worry about.
Neither one of us are the judgemental type, we understand people make mistakes, screw up, human nature is sometimes weak.... I even see this subject as an outward sign of "vulnerability"....which is GOOD for future marraiges.... If there were some BAD things, embarrasing, even criminal ...... the learning of those mistakes, lessons -how one overcame, the talking of regrets, growing from them......and the willingness to openly share them is ...something very very valuable..... IT even speaks of someone's character (in my opinion) -to be able to go there. (I am talking once a couple is very serious -thinking of marraige )
I understand others are NOT like this, but for me, it would seriously be a DEAL BREAKER....if a man was unwilling or gave me "attitude" for asking.....it'd be ...."another one bites the dust" - he is not the man for me!
My husband would not count it a "deal breaker", but he has told me I am "one in a million" cause of my openness which he appreciates tremendously....not that my life was so very exciting- that would be a laugh...but the willingness to allow him into my whole world.
We both feel the past can play a part in who we are today, if we have unresolved baggage....such events can help shape & mold us along the way, our attitudes, our beliefs.... whether that be for the good or the bad. I was rather angry when we met, it helped him to know the WHY's behind my attitude....
Like if you come across an old photo album at his/her parents house, to sit, Reminisce, allow the other in ..sharing those old memories... the stories BEHIND the photos ..... That builds even more of a connection, to be able to take our lover down that path with us.
This by no way means that a relationship can't be wonderful without this level of openess, but I do strongly feel ...You need to be on the same page with it. Or it CAN cause problems down the line.