I don't think thatís what most were trying to say. I know thatís not what I was trying to say. If husband (or wife) for that matter doesnít trust their SO, then there are other issues going on.
Thatís pushing the extreme edge a bit, maybe just to garner a rise out of someone, or maybe youíve dealt with a husband or a friendís husband or SO who was this controlling. Again, not what I was trying to say.
Most men and women donít go to the gym to Ďhook upí, sure there are some, but by definition being all hot, sweaty and stinking isnít exactly what most people think of when they consider meeting people of the opposite sex. I can always tell the people looking to ďpeople shopĒ where I work out (I go in the morning before work, my wife goes before she goes to work at 3pm) they usually have on cologne and perfume when ďworking outĒ. They are also the people who jump on a treadmill or bike and use it for few minutes, or (guys mainly) who do bicep curls in front of the mirror and little else. My son is 15, and is in exceptional shape (one of my motivating reasons for getting back in the gym since I was a very competitive athlete, as he is now) and I constantly have to harp on him to not worry about how much weight but correct form. When he talks about guys with huge arms Iíve always told him to look at their legs. Huge arms and chicken legs are amusing, at least for us. But I digress.
Iím sure there are married guys who go to Hooters and other place to ogle the women. I would think most that fit this bill would go to a strip club, but hey Iím just a guy.
The big difference? When wives are out at a dance club, where there tends to be a big single male presence, the object for many of these people (single people that is, women and men) is to MEET someone. I donít recall ever having been asked to dance by a Hooterís waitress? Or having a Hooterís waitress offer to BUY me a drink. Maybe itís just me?
If my wife wants to go dancing, she tells me that, and we go. If I donít feel like dancing every minute, or she simply wants to dance with her friends, she does. My wife has expressed how she feels better even if Iím just there, off the dance floor. Just knowing Iím there in case something happens. She also mentioned that itís a lot easier to get rid of a creepy guy by pointing out me and saying ďThatís my husband. Go away.Ē I may be ďBetaĒ in some relationship issues, but at 6í3 245lbs Iím Alpha in appearance whether I care to be or not. In fact, when we were dating my wifeís friends used to tell guys, that kept bugging them, that I was their boyfriend. Worked for me, I got free drinks out of the deal much of the time.
Then there is the physical safety issue. Date rape drugs are out there. There are guys who have no qualms about trying to drug or get a woman drunk and get what he wants. Not to mention that most of these clubs arenít the safest environment, especially towards the end of the night when most people have had one or five too many to drink.
Again, just my experience and my opinion. Take it or leave it.
Again, weíre not all the same. I donít go to the local Hooters. Why? The food sucks and the service is worse. If Iím on the other side of town, I might go to that one, but itís always crowded. My wife was a waitress, when we met, and after we moved in together. We got to know each other after I spent a lot of time coming there to see her. I watched how guys flirted and talked trash, thatís what a lot of us do. Most of them just want an attractive woman to be nice to them. Some get off on having a woman server them, and even more of them just want to go out have a beer, a decent meal, maybe catch a game, and if the waitress looks attractive, then hey, they get to look at some nice scenery. We are VISUAL creatures by design. Not something we caused, not something we can change.
My wife wouldnít want me to go to a club thatís considered a singleís hangout, and I donít blame her. I never cared for them much when I was single. Itís a respect issue in a relationship. Now if the husband has no problem with it, by all means.
I will say, having seen several of my wifeís friends who have gotten divorced or who arenít married, that many times these women are the ones wanting to go to the club type atmosphere, women like wingmen just as much as men.
I appreciate your insight.
No, Hooters girls don't get up and dance but what on Earth is the purpose for a married man going there? Food is crap, worst wings on the planet and served by women who on any given day (minus the nylons) could easily show pubic hair. So why would a married man go to such a place unless it was to oogle and check out women. Same as a sports bar here in Houston. Somehow that is okay but a married woman going out with her friends to dance is not? I honestly just don't get nor do I care to. It is a complete double standard and those who say women shouldn't go out with their friends to dance better be ready to stay at home as well.