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Old 02-14-2012, 09:48 PM   #211 (permalink)
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You're like an alcohol detector! I think you caught me last night. Same bottle of red.
I tend to be a white zinfandel/Blue Moon type of gal.

Come on out to the Shore. We'll go drinking together and pick up hot young single men as we dance at club bars.
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You are at the Shore? I thought you were in Trenton!

My husband doesn't care what I do. We're separated. Very convenient.

Excuse me while I tend to the long line of men lining up outside my apartment door..
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Somewhere on p. 13, there was a post about "throwing in a little alcohol and peer-pressure."

That is the point I'm trying to make. If you don't trust your spouse b/c s/he can't handle his or her liquor, or because they don't "handle peer pressure very well," the marital problem is a lot bigger than GNO and ignoring that fact while "forbidding" GNO is like covering a slit throat with a bandaid. It's gonna get ugly if you are married to someone who is that immature. Face it and encourage them to get some counseling so they can grow the heck up!
I think a wife going out to do this stuff with other men does indeed indicate a much bigger issue. The point was that you have added a number of elements together and peer pressure / toxic friends are a very common problem with many marriages. Alcohol is a social lubricant. It lowers inhibitions. I see peer pressure all of the time. Remember this is not about a marriage friendly GNO. This is already about the wife who is pushing the envelope by staying out all night, drinking heavily and dancing with other men. This in itself is disrespectful if the boundary was to not dance with other men. It is broken trust. Sure.

The OP mentioned such peer pressure. In two contexts. The peer pressure that one husband had on another AND the wives had the peer pressure where a wife who frequented the clubs was getting the wife of sixteen years involved for the first time. Telling her that her husband is wrong for objecting.

That is peer pressure so it is dorectly related the OP.

I am not a believer in blind absolute trust. I do trust my wife not to put herself out there in this fashion. If she did she would break that trust.

Men put peer pressure on other men to behave like them. They get lap dances from strippers and then encourage others to do so. Even if a man does not want a lap dance, it would be common for the others to buy him one. Like the reason for not having the lpa dance was the money. Some men cave to this. A real man would not. But the alcohol and peer pressure are there. However, I think a man putting himself in that position at all is disrespectful if their spouse was bothered by it.
So whether he feels he can be truets or not if he does this anyway despite his spouses feelings ... he is an @sshole. If hsi wife is cool with it then great. Boundaries.

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Ummm...I'm an example of what happens when you have alcohol and no peer pressure. It isn't pretty. roflmao

Okay, I admit my butt is still in tact.

This topic really seems ridiculous right about now.
I can't wait until Hubs gets home with the wine.

Omg...at first I wrote "whine". LOLOLLL

It's been a long day.

GNI! (Girls' Night In!) lolll
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When is he getting home?

I hope he knows what's waiting for him!! ...and I don't mean the stew
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Omgggg an enema? O.o





Hubs is still stuck in traffic. Grrr...
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Wow.. Im at a loss for words, this thread is growing like a cancer.
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LOL!

It ain't as pretty as it once was!
lmao. you're a hot mess!
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I This is already about the wife who is pushing the envelope by staying out all night, drinking heavily and dancing with other men.

The OP mentioned such peer pressure. In two contexts. The peer pressure that one husband had on another AND the wives had the peer pressure where a wife who frequented the clubs was getting the wife of sixteen years involved for the first time. Telling her that her husband is wrong for objecting.

That is peer pressure so it is dorectly related the OP.
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Need some honest opinions here...

I have been married for over 10 years, my best friend has been married to her husband for over 16 years.
My best friends birthday is coming up and I wanted to get a bunch of girls together, have dinner, some drinks, go dancing and just hang out. We were planning to make it an overnighter and the next morning get up late, do the brunch thing and return to our lives. She is a mother of a teenager and rarely gets out of the house without her husband and son. She was all for this girls night out... until...
She told her husband we were going and he completely flipped out. He thinks it's inappropriate for her to go out without him because she'll be at a bar, club or a restaurant. He's given her the "its not that I dont trust you, I dont trust other men" speech. Now my husband has started in on the same thing, suggesting the only reason we want to go out is to act like we're single.
I can safely and totally honestly say that this is not a frequent occurance, maybe once a year, and that we really dont pick up men or behave inappropriately, we're pretty boring. The other women going with us are married as well.
I can also say that our husbands go out of town for guys retreats for sports for full weekends at a time and she and I both support them having an outlet.
The reason we never go out... because the guys throw a fit EVERY time. My questions are this...
Why are men so threatened with a girls night out?
Whats with the double standard?
Is this something everyone runs into or is it just us?
I'm trying to figure out the part where the women are "drinking heavily and dancing with other men"..

Nope..don't see that listed anywhere. I see the part about dinner, some drinks, dancing, hanging out. Sleeping in, eating brunch and going home.

Yep, that's a recipe for disaster.

I don't see anything about "frequenting clubs"...

OH..you mean the ONCE A YEAR outing! Yeah, she's really a troublemaking party animal, isn't she? I think she mentioned that between the part where she mentions that they do this once a year and are pretty boring and rarely get out without the husband and son.

And then there's the husbands who frequently get out for retreats with their friends yet seem to throw a fit every time their wives want to do the same...

I think you are right. Keep 'em barefoot and pregnant and chained to the radiator. That way they don't be gettin' into no trouble. Yes sir Massa we be keepin' des wimmen in 'der place: In the house birthin' dose babies and scrubbin' de floors!
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OMG I just laughed out loud and scared my dog.

I woudl rather stay home and drink with a few friends...or alone...or online. Crowds at bars bug me.
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I'd rather drink with Trenton!

Hilarious .......now go drink some water and straighten yourself up a smidgen for hubs.
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It's called moving the goalposts and happens often on TAM. The OP wa ready to live her single life fantasies by clubbing, drinking, spending a night in a hotel and sleeping till brunch. This doesn't equate to 5 ladies meeting at a lyb and dancing in a circle. You guys aren't even arguing the Sam issues. "me and my girls dance with each other and then go home to are families" is not what's on the itinerary for this specific GNO.
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Indeed those darn goal post move don't they.

The bolded is one of the best quotes I have seen on this board.

I love it and it is so very true. Before it is over I will be seen as arguing against girl scout cookies.
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I'd rather drink with Trenton!

Hilarious .......now go drink some water and straighten yourself up a smidgen for hubs.
This was my fantasy over in the Fantasy section. Hanging out at the Galvez with Trenton and TRBE.
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mmmm girl scout cookies.
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I'm trying to figure out the part where the women are "drinking heavily and dancing with other men"..

Nope..don't see that listed anywhere. I see the part about dinner, some drinks, dancing, hanging out. Sleeping in, eating brunch and going home.

Yep, that's a recipe for disaster.

I don't see anything about "frequenting clubs"...

OH..you mean the ONCE A YEAR outing! Yeah, she's really a troublemaking party animal, isn't she? I think she mentioned that between the part where she mentions that they do this once a year and are pretty boring and rarely get out without the husband and son.

And then there's the husbands who frequently get out for retreats with their friends yet seem to throw a fit every time their wives want to do the same...

I think you are right. Keep 'em barefoot and pregnant and chained to the radiator. That way they don't be gettin' into no trouble. Yes sir Massa we be keepin' des wimmen in 'der place: In the house birthin' dose babies and scrubbin' de floors!
They said they were going out dancing. When challenged with this they did not say. OH we are just girls dancing ina circle. It is not a leap. It is a leap to assume something else. This was back when they were posting.


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Yes, certainly a man not wanting his wife to be out playing with the boys is exactly the same as you say.

Once a year or once in 25 years. I guess we all now believe in the hall pass. A marriage break as long as it occurs fiscally. So it is ok for the guys to go get laid at the brothel as long as it is just once a year?

I really do wish the OP who may or may not have even been a married woman would have further elaborated on what their plans were and exactly what doofus and Billy Joe Jim Bob were up to.
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