No one is sharing their wife with another man, no other men would be going with us. That's an awfully presumptuous thing to assume but I suppose that must be what our husbands are thinking and not saying. .
If my husband asked me if I was ok with him going to dinner with his buddies and then to a bar to dance and dink I would tell him sure, have a good time. But only after you move out first.
Now if he was going out with my brothers, nephews and cousins to the same type of place I’d have no problem with it because they would not encourage or put up with any of the men in the family dancing and flirting with other women in that situation.
Change the place to a nice restraint. On dancing. You can have some drinks there. That should be more than ok.
Its just the ladies for a night out. The point is to go out with the girls, not pick up men. Locations can change without issue if that was the problem. In the past months we've tried to go to a movie, dinner, heck even lunch on a Saturday and got backtalk from that too so it's not just this one time. .
If the men are giving you gals a hard time for wanting to go to the movies, dinner or lunch then the men are being unreasonable. Just tell them that you are going out and where you are going. And if they are paranoid they are welcome to drop by and spy on you.
Isnt it a bit of a double standard if a husband can do as he wishes, go where he wishes, be gone all weekend doing goodness knows what and if she wants one night out it's a problem? Now my husband is backing hers saying he wants to go. I said fine, we'll have girls night for a couple hours and you come meet us when you want. You would think that would dispell any fears and yet, no. I have to wonder why she and I both are really allowing them to dictate our plans to begin with.
Yes it’s a double standard. Tell the husbands that they now have to live under the same restrictions they require of you wives.
I like the idea of you women going out for dinner then the men joining you later for dancing.
This makes me wonder what your husbands are doing when they all go out that they are so afraid to trust you.
The above all assumes that neither you nor your friend have ever cheated on your husbands. The answer is very different if that has happened.