Look, some people need to get away from their spouses because it's what they need.
While others like to spend time with their spouse because they married them for that exact reason.
There is no wrong or right, like others have said it's whatever boundaries a couple has set up to make their marriage work.
If you need to go out to a bar/club to drink and have men hit on you (just to say no to them) and stroke your ego and make you feel better, that's what you need and that's your life not mine or anyone else. For the men it's to go to bars/strip clubs to oggle at the hotties and hit on them.
Me, at this point in life, I enjoy just sitting at home watching a movie with the wife and kids or just being around the house with everyone.
I get my once a year FF draft at a local bar with the guys (we go so much that I have snuck my little girl in their once or twice, yes it's that tame of a place), hunting trips and that's about it. Once in a blue moon an old buddy might be in town and if I'm not busy I'll go hang out with them at their house or a restaurant.
If you still need the thrill of OMG guys/girls still want me and I've still got it then that's what you need. Have at it, you're big girls/guys and you won't cheat on your spouse but needing verification from other men/women to make yourself feel young and vibrant is pretty sad, to me that is.
I'm overweight (not obese yet), balding, not as good looking like when I was in my 20's or early 30s. And you know what, I could care less what others think of me now. I have a great wife, rotten and spoiled kids
and we live a comfortable life. That's all that counts for me right now.
I never could understand those married couples who say they just need time apart to recharge and make their marriage better. Why get married in the 1st place if you need time apart to be happier together, that just boggles my mind.
And to those that married social lepers, well you married them for a reason. If you're not happy that they can't meet your needs, leave, why stay. Oh I love him but he's does nothing, just sits at home, plays on the computer, watches sports, doesn't want to go out and do nothing with me, so I need GNO to make myself feel happy, see what's wrong there.
In the end, we all can agree to disagree, there is no wrong or right because I don't live your life and you don't live my life.