It has taken me till I was 48 to make the connection when I am more emotionally charged, once my period comes its like, ok now I understand why I was,xzy. All my emotions run overtime that week before, and trust me, I hate myself when I get that way!
It has taken me till I was 48 to make the connection when I am more emotionally charged, once my period comes its like, ok now I understand why I was,xzy. All my emotions run overtime that week before, and trust me, I hate myself when I get that way!
I have learned NOT to make decisions during that time that will effect me long term. i don't make emotional decisions or anything of the sort.
During our separation, my PMS days were days I wouldn't do ANYTHING...no texting, no emotional stuff, no thinking of feelings because they simply AREN'T REAL during that time.
Wow so many comments and so many women who can't admit that they are getting moody! Just proves my point It drives me crazy how many of you responded that it is true but yet you will never say it because it's a lame excuse. Your big mistake, ladies, is that you'd rather lie than saying the truth because you feel it's a lame excuse. Well I think this is lame, indeed.
But I have to tell you something! Friday night my wife wanted to talk to me, and this is what she told me:
"I never thought I get so moody with periods, I was sure I am not like that, but I think it's time to realize that I just get moody like everyone else and what I said last night was because of it."
I was like WOW WOW WOW! For her to admit that that was huge! And just made me love her so much more!
Wow so many comments and so many women who can't admit that they are getting moody! Just proves my point It drives me crazy how many of you responded that it is true but yet you will never say it because it's a lame excuse. Your big mistake, ladies, is that you'd rather lie than saying the truth because you feel it's a lame excuse. Well I think this is lame, indeed.
But I have to tell you something! Friday night my wife wanted to talk to me, and this is what she told me:
"I never thought I get so moody with periods, I was sure I am not like that, but I think it's time to realize that I just get moody like everyone else and what I said last night was because of it."
I was like WOW WOW WOW! For her to admit that that was huge! And just made me love her so much more!
Wow, I'm glad she came clean and made the big revelation. I haven't had a period for over 10 years...what the heck can I blame my moods on? All this time I've been thinking its just the crappy stuff that happens to me that makes me a bit tempermental. OK just kidding....I do cry unexplainably but that is only after the hysterectomy, no menstrual cycle involved anymore. Go figure, I would get it backwards...
Just to set the record straight women don't have the market cornered on mood swings. I never knew what to expect from the ex husband and walked around on eggshells all the time, trying gauge his mood before speaking to him. I'm pretty sure he would never admit to PMS-ing
Although I don't think PMS should be used as an excuse to lash out at anyone, I do think that if a woman has a moment but later apologizes and explains, it is understandable.
I agree with this. None of us are perfect , to have a spouse who can recognize that sometimes we can get a little out of whack, even go off the deep end on occasion - but then we apologize...we make it up to him... I know I do ..I go out of my way! It is golden to have that understanding... and on both ends too...
...as most women (wish I was one) has to deal with her husband's high Test cravings for sex, and sometimes he gets a little aggressive about it , we need to understand him too -when he gets old of sorts.
Bare with each other and forgive each other, try to understand.
It is a known fact how it does change the females perception, even in the animal kingdom this is true.... In one of my hormone books talks about a zoo keeper, and how female monkeys are genrally tame, cooperative, & affectionate - easy to handle nearly all month but says..... " I know when she's coming into estrus without checking the charts "...as right before it starts ....she starts chattering at her mate, scolding her young, causing ruckus, her infact cringes in terror, her mate looses his distance and so does she ! She went on to say once she got loose, tore up the Lab, even bit her middle finger off --but the rest of the month- she's a p***ycat!
So even Monkey's hormones changed their behavior , sometimes dramatically.
I always try to understand. What I can't stand is how my wife always thinks 300 times and makes up all kind of excuses before actually saying the truth. Not only about moods - when she is scared, she will yell at me as if it's MY fault, etc.
From reading this thread it became clear to me that most women (sorry, but this is how I feel) are not true to themselves and almost never honest. I, for one, have no problem saying "I was upset cause I din't eat anything all day" or "sorry I hurt you and it was stupid", but my wife's apology would always come with a "but really I had few things that got me upset so even though it wasn't nice what I said I still feel this way".
Get the point? How many women can just be honest, live in the moment without having so much fears from the past and calculations for the future?
I met only few of those.
Sorry if I insulted you. My wife just got me upset (again!) and I had to vent
I always try to understand. What I can't stand is how my wife always thinks 300 times and makes up all kind of excuses before actually saying the truth. Not only about moods - when she is scared, she will yell at me as if it's MY fault, etc.
From reading this thread it became clear to me that most women (sorry, but this is how I feel) are not true to themselves and almost never honest. I, for one, have no problem saying "I was upset cause I din't eat anything all day" or "sorry I hurt you and it was stupid", but my wife's apology would always come with a "but really I had few things that got me upset so even though it wasn't nice what I said I still feel this way".
Get the point? How many women can just be honest, live in the moment without having so much fears from the past and calculations for the future?
I met only few of those.
Sorry if I insulted you. My wife just got me upset (again!) and I had to vent
I think you are seeing a lot of women being really honest in the thread right now about their premenstrual symptoms.
I also think your wife is being honest if she says that last quote while PMSing because it's not uncommon to spill feelings at that time good or bad, and spill feelings that may have been building up for awhile. So her meanness may be hormonally charged but absolutely how she is feeling.
But josh, the truth is we women are screwed either way. We conceal how we are feeling, we are being "shrewed or dishonest." We admit how we are feeling we are "hormonal or overemotional or irrational." We try to supress the effects of our hormones and we are "lying to ourselves" or we acknowledge them and any and all righful anger/emotions are dismissed with a "you're just on your period."
Women don't have the luxury of just living because we are just constantly just trying to not live up to stereotypes, to not be demoted back down to the kitchen and to make sure we are still taken seriously. Posted via Mobile Device
I think you are seeing a lot of women being really honest in the thread right now about their premenstrual symptoms.
I also think your wife is being honest if she says that last quote while PMSing because it's not uncommon to spill feelings at that time good or bad, and spill feelings that may have been building up for awhile. So her meanness may be hormonally charged but absolutely how she is feeling.
But josh, the truth is we women are screwed either way. We conceal how we are feeling, we are being "shrewed or dishonest." We admit how we are feeling we are "hormonal or overemotional or irrational." We try to supress the effects of our hormones and we are "lying to ourselves" or we acknowledge them and any and all righful anger/emotions are dismissed with a "you're just on your period."
Women don't have the luxury of just living because we are just constantly just trying to not live up to stereotypes, to not be demoted back down to the kitchen and to make sure we are still taken seriously. Posted via Mobile Device
Very well said FrenchFry!
I just found out recently that, for years, my husband has been dismissing my feelings as me just being "female". That was a huge slap in the face to me.
If I don't open up, nothing will change.. If I do, I'm dismissed.
For many women, it's damned if you do, damned if you don't.. Just can't win.
I think you are seeing a lot of women being really honest in the thread right now about their premenstrual symptoms.
I also think your wife is being honest if she says that last quote while PMSing because it's not uncommon to spill feelings at that time good or bad, and spill feelings that may have been building up for awhile. So her meanness may be hormonally charged but absolutely how she is feeling.
But josh, the truth is we women are screwed either way. We conceal how we are feeling, we are being "shrewed or dishonest." We admit how we are feeling we are "hormonal or overemotional or irrational." We try to supress the effects of our hormones and we are "lying to ourselves" or we acknowledge them and any and all righful anger/emotions are dismissed with a "you're just on your period."
Women don't have the luxury of just living because we are just constantly just trying to not live up to stereotypes, to not be demoted back down to the kitchen and to make sure we are still taken seriously. Posted via Mobile Device
You said it perfectly...damned if we do and damned if we don't.
I'm very honest. I know when my hormones are surging. I know when I freak out for no reason or blame the wrong emotion when I'm feeling it.
Your vent, joshb, is aimed at your wife. NOT all women. But you just helped my stereotype that most men group all women together just because they are with a woman who does x.y.z.
Just because we all have vaginas, doesn't mean we're all the same.
As a woman, that is a lame excuse...I never did this...
Completely agree.
While I do not deny it exists (in response to some other posters here), I do not think that it is a good reason for a woman to abuse or harp on her SO. If your hubby was feeling badly would you tolerate his short temper?
I simply do not tolerate the pregnant princess or period princess in my home (sorry ladies). When I get the flu or something I suck it up, do what I must, am pleasant to those around me, and beg off when the business of the day is handled.
I just found out recently that, for years, my husband has been dismissing my feelings as me just being "female". That was a huge slap in the face to me.
If I don't open up, nothing will change.. If I do, I'm dismissed.
For many women, it's damned if you do, damned if you don't.. Just can't win.
Well, no to side-track, but this is not a gender-exclusive issue. Just the flip side of the coin of a woman who says "is that all you think about" or "you're such a man".
I suspect he really does not believe this. It's more likely he cannot or does not want to integrate your sensibilities with his and the family's needs.
Rather than just pulling this line, he should explain exactly why he feels your feelings are unreasonable or unworkable. Since he will not, you need to initiate that discussion with him.
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Re: "Sorry I was so moody, Just got my period" 
It drives me crazy how many of you responded that it is true but yet you will never say it because it's a lame excuse. Your big mistake, ladies, is that you'd rather lie than saying the truth because you feel it's a lame excuse. Well I think this is lame, indeed.
I haven't had a period for over 10 years...what the heck can I blame my moods on? 
All this time I've been thinking its just the crappy stuff that happens to me that makes me a bit tempermental. OK just kidding....I do cry unexplainably but that is only after the hysterectomy, no menstrual cycle involved anymore. Go figure, I would get it backwards...
