Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
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Originally Posted by cam44
question for you ladies ... is your sex drive high because you are so in love with your man or is it strictly phsyical. I'm asking because my wife who is still breast feeding our 7month old daughter rarely wants sex and I must initiate it. We probably have it once every 3 weeks and I start out giving her lots of oral, so she climaxes 2 or 3 times -- I make sure she's well taken care of every time, but she just has no interest. She is also low on sleep but I'm wondering if she would feel more interested in sex if I did everything possible to make her feel more loving to me ... I'm wondering if our love was stronger if it might spike her sex drive ?!?!?!
cam44, it is a combination of things for me...hormonal changes started it...started me on a path of self exploration since at the time I was in a bad relationship and had sex two or three times a year (such a turn off to make love to an alocoholic, it just didn't work for me). Once I rediscovered the joy (with the help of an expensive but worthy toy) sex was on my mind every waking moment. Now that I am in a loving relationship my feelings of love and desire for my husband definitely make a difference.
You have a young daughter, your wife is breastfeeding, lacking sleep and probably not feeling all that attractive at the moment. Her hormones are most likely still off balance from childbirth and breastfeeding so be patient with her. Do what you can to spoil her, help her out with the baby, see that she gets more sleep but I'd say most importantly let her know how much you desire her. It sounds like you are on the right track, continue to make her feel loved and wanted.
Congrats.
My wife is 50 and has more of a sex drive now than ever. I am enjoying the Hell out of it. But it's not just sex, we both want to cuddle, talk, make love, just be together all the time and it is awesome!
I agree it is awesome! It's good to hear your wife still feels that way at 50, I'm nearly 10 years from there and I do hope we are still this way then.. My hubby is enjoying it too. It took him by surprise at first. He asked if I was taking super vitamins that was giving me all this sexual energy. Posted via Mobile Device
I felt exactly the same, thinking to myself, how in the world do those young boys in high school get any school work done ! ... My mind was seriously hi-jacked, I remember everything else seemed to become boring .... all I could think about was SEX SEX SEX, I started buying books, lingerie, flirting like mad.
I also had an abundance of energy, felt on top of the world-not a single ache or pain, I hardly needed to sleep, wet 24/7, my underarms needed clinical strength deoderant , even my temperature was hotter. It was clearly a Testosterone jump of some sort... throw a little dopamine in there & it is the hormonal mix for an addiction...MY Husband became my addiction!! Ha ha
Crazy ride - Loved it - will never forget it -lasted 8 months long...2 yrs ago. Now I am back to normal, but I'll never be the same, and it has all been for the "good".
That's exactly how I feel! The flirtness wore of on him, he's flirting right back!
I've always had to use clinical strength deodorant over the years. Lately, I've noticed in increase use.
I do hope mine last longer then 8 months. We are at least 6 months into it already. I'd be crushed if it only lasted 2 more months.lol. I don't have as quite as much energy as you. Despite this recent health setback, I'm still ready to go 24/7! Hubby knows that I'm not finished with him this weekend. I told him so last night. Although, this last month I haven't been able to dress up for him. I'm lucky he still desires me in my flannel pj's. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
I never had much of a sex drive in my 20's or 30's. Sex was sex and that was about it with my ex hubby. If we had it we had it..which was often as his sex drive was through the roof..but he never really "sent me to the stars"...LOL!!
Now that I'm in my late 40's..holy crap..my drive has gone through the roof and my sexy fiance unfortunatly at 44 has more interest in the internet than he does in our sex life.
I'm not fat..people have told me how beautiful I am..I can dress sexy..and he barely notices. I can't throw myself at him anymore without feeling like an idiot...and have made better friends with my B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend..) when he's at work than I have when he's around.
He had some testosterone issues which he's addressed with his MD (which I give him total credit for). He told me at one time that he was worried about his weight (he's nuts..he's hot as hell to me!!)...and thus..whatever.
We're a fairly new couple that has waited nearly 15 years to finally be together and will soon be newlyweds. I'm just waiting for the time he can't wait to jump my bones all the time!!
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
I've found (I'm 32) that since my thirties and since my tubal, which was a complete cut, tie and burn, I've sky rocketed for my sex drive.
I think about it all the time...at work, at home, in my sleep. I feel like I'm the only woman who has "wet dreams" so to speak (any other women ever go through that?).
Husband has dropped in sex drive (OMFG not happy about that) though when he is interested he's invested wholly and fully.
I think it's the fact that the good old girls (ovaries) of mine are failing early (estrogen levels dropping while testosterone rising or maybe staying the same but less estrogen). I'm in peri-menopause because of my tubal ligation. It killed the blood supply to the ovaries. It's called tubal ligation syndrome.
It sucks in some aspects, doesn't in others I suppose.
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
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Originally Posted by CantePe
I've found (I'm 32) that since my thirties and since my tubal, which was a complete cut, tie and burn, I've sky rocketed for my sex drive.
I think about it all the time...at work, at home, in my sleep. I feel like I'm the only woman who has "wet dreams" so to speak (any other women ever go through that?).
Husband has dropped in sex drive (OMFG not happy about that) though when he is interested he's invested wholly and fully.
I think it's the fact that the good old girls (ovaries) of mine are failing early (estrogen levels dropping while testosterone rising or maybe staying the same but less estrogen). I'm in peri-menopause because of my tubal ligation. It killed the blood supply to the ovaries. It's called tubal ligation syndrome.
It sucks in some aspects, doesn't in others I suppose.
CantePe I have those dreams too and when I wake up I'm horny as can be.
You mention that your husband has lost some of his drive. Men's testosterone levels begin to decline in their thirties. Maybe he should get it checked. You know first hand how hormonal changes can affect sex drive. It's kind of ironic that women's drive increase with age and the opposite for men. My husband had a problem with low T...I could walk naked in front of him and...nothing, kiss and fondle him...nothing, in fact he'd push me away. The only thing that seemed to work at the time was to get out my vibrator...I guess his ego wouldn't allow that. Anyway things have improved much since he got checked out and is being treated for low T. He still can't keep up with me but at least we have sex a couple times a week instead of once a month.
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
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Originally Posted by I'mInLoveWithMyHubby
I do hope mine last longer then 8 months. We are at least 6 months into it already. I'd be crushed if it only lasted 2 more months.lol.
Let me correct this a little... when I say 8 months, I mean I was near addicted, I mean I would get MAD if I didn't get at least one sex episode in the day and push for more I was soooo antsy about it.. I remember lying there at night just watching the clock AFTER we had sex , just for morning so I could JUMP him again. I am sure you aren't THIS bad !! Ha ha
It was probably a blessing this settled down for me... I was on some kind of SEX high, that is when I called it a "fix" , I even cared more about his LUST over his LOVE, I knew that was rather twisted, but I can't lie, that is how I "felt" during that time.
I started taking some statins at around the 8th month period, and I noticed I started needing forplay again (coincidence or not ??) ... that was THE change... for those 8 months, I did not need a DROP of forplay... but after that was up, I still wanted alot of sex .....in fact we kept the exact same pace for the last 3 yrs-even though now I need as much forplay as he does.... our drives are near the same now. He accually has to "work me up now" ... but at least I can concentrate on other things -- ha ha .
I think if you was feeling it as severe as me, you'd probably welcome it to calm some! .... I was undressing every man I seen out in public too, wanted to watch porn all day. I know this sounds AWFUL but in that experience, I can surely see why men are drawn to it, if my husband was against it back then, I would have knocked his head off, I probably would have even lied and watched it anyway. The allure was like a powerful magnet to steel... He accually got quite the charge out of it all , so long as I brought it all back to him , he was happy, I even joked I could take on 3 men during that time, he wasn't offended, he understood I was just expressing HOW I was feeling. I even posted on a sex addiction board about it ... ha ha ....
Really kinda looking back at all of this!
I've read others women's stories, this can last for years & years so don't worry, like me again, I will never be the same, love & cherish our sex life -still want it near every day --even if yours calms, you will Never be the same either... WIsh they made a PILL for this - so women can take it in their younger years and understand how exciting it is !!!
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
Nope.
Never had any discernible changes until the last few years, and with perimenopause now it's simply month by month to see what each one brings - some are great, some are awful.
So, either all the good stuff y'all are talking about has passed me by, or it's yet to be.
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
Those of you ladies with the off the charts sex drive need to get together with a doctor, isolate this hormone, distribute it and save the world! I will be bringing my wife in for a shot!
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I am you!!! Oh lorry, it is CONSTANTLY on my mind,wet all the time, can't. Concentrate, my hubs drive at 52 is lower now, I so wish we could have gotten it together!
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Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous
You know my story. Every now & then a woman comes here & she sounds just like I was for a time. How did I handle it -fight with my husband sometimes when I wanted more. There wouldn't have been any fights if he could have done me 3 times a day. Ha ha
He knew everytime I got pi**y what I wanted. He tried his darnest. I added to the issue by questioning if he desired me cause he couldn't keep up! That was the hardest for me.
I wasn't as good as you, I was a bit pushy, got aggressive even , but he didn't mind (I'm really not lying either) I learned through all of this he always LOVED me coming on to him and he likes the aggressiveness, makes hiim feel feircely desired -this may get old for some men, but not mine! He ate that up -which sure helped me feel better, cause I was naturally this way -during this time. I could relate to all those men who get frutrated & mad over "wanting it NOW"... that hormonal urgency.
It was during this time I bought myself my 1st Vibrator (didn't care for it at all) and dildo but my husband told me he only wanted me to use him. Which I loved hearing & felt the same.
I felt exactly the same, thinking to myself, how in the world do those young boys in high school get any school work done ! ... My mind was seriously hi-jacked, I remember everything else seemed to become boring .... all I could think about was SEX SEX SEX, I started buying books, lingerie, flirting like mad.
One day we was having a friend come later, I was thinking...If I don't get some sex in before he gets here... I am going to be pushing him to leave.... so I can go rape my husband.... so when husband walked through that door, I grabbed him, took him up in the bathroom, stripped him, gave him a BJ & got my "Fix" in right there....now I wouldn't be so antsy to push our friend out the door. This was all kinda new to my husband and he was like ....WOOOWWWW.
That was alot of fun, I don't feel like that now --wish I did !!
I also had an abundance of energy, felt on top of the world-not a single ache or pain, I hardly needed to sleep, wet 24/7, my underarms needed clinical strength deoderant , even my temperature was hotter. It was clearly a Testosterone jump of some sort... throw a little dopamine in there & it is the hormonal mix for an addiction...MY Husband became my addiction!! Ha ha
Crazy ride - Loved it - will never forget it -lasted 8 months long...2 yrs ago. Now I am back to normal, but I'll never be the same, and it has all been for the "good".
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I've been stuck in my prime since a teen... and I'd love to get out of it since I have no outlet. Nothing put a dent in my sex drive, not pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding. The only time it went down somewhat was when I was very ill. Is there an anti-prime pill I can take????
Those of you ladies with the off the charts sex drive need to get together with a doctor, isolate this hormone, distribute it and save the world! I will be bringing my wife in for a shot!
She is 49 and she did not get that hormone.
LMAO!
I think it's safe to say that she past her prime? I'm in my late 30's and it hit me very hard just in one day. Like a switch turning me on. It's all I think about all day. It's difficult to be satisified with one session a day. Especially now that I have to take it easy due to a health issue. Posted via Mobile Device
Let me correct this a little... when I say 8 months, I mean I was near addicted, I mean I would get MAD if I didn't get at least one sex episode in the day and push for more I was soooo antsy about it.. I remember lying there at night just watching the clock AFTER we had sex , just for morning so I could JUMP him again. I am sure you aren't THIS bad !! Ha ha
It was probably a blessing this settled down for me... I was on some kind of SEX high, that is when I called it a "fix" , I even cared more about his LUST over his LOVE, I knew that was rather twisted, but I can't lie, that is how I "felt" during that time.
I started taking some statins at around the 8th month period, and I noticed I started needing forplay again (coincidence or not ??) ... that was THE change... for those 8 months, I did not need a DROP of forplay... but after that was up, I still wanted alot of sex .....in fact we kept the exact same pace for the last 3 yrs-even though now I need as much forplay as he does.... our drives are near the same now. He accually has to "work me up now" ... but at least I can concentrate on other things -- ha ha .
I think if you was feeling it as severe as me, you'd probably welcome it to calm some! .... I was undressing every man I seen out in public too, wanted to watch porn all day. I know this sounds AWFUL but in that experience, I can surely see why men are drawn to it, if my husband was against it back then, I would have knocked his head off, I probably would have even lied and watched it anyway. The allure was like a powerful magnet to steel... He accually got quite the charge out of it all , so long as I brought it all back to him , he was happy, I even joked I could take on 3 men during that time, he wasn't offended, he understood I was just expressing HOW I was feeling. I even posted on a sex addiction board about it ... ha ha ....
Really kinda looking back at all of this!
I've read others women's stories, this can last for years & years so don't worry, like me again, I will never be the same, love & cherish our sex life -still want it near every day --even if yours calms, you will Never be the same either... WIsh they made a PILL for this - so women can take it in their younger years and understand how exciting it is !!!
LMAO.. One session a day isn't satisfying me. I'd love to have 2 or 3 more rounds once we are done. Hubby is only good for one round, but I can get it most days, luckily! Even when I'm feeling my worst, I want him! Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive!
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Originally Posted by I'mInLoveWithMyHubby
LMAO.. One session a day isn't satisfying me. I'd love to have 2 or 3 more rounds once we are done. Hubby is only good for one round, but I can get it most days, luckily! Even when I'm feeling my worst, I want him! Posted via Mobile Device
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Re: Anyone else(women) in their prime? High sex drive! 
. My hubby is enjoying it too. It took him by surprise at first. He asked if I was taking super vitamins that was giving me all this sexual energy.
...nothing, in fact he'd push me away. The only thing that seemed to work at the time was to get out my vibrator...I guess his ego wouldn't allow that. Anyway things have improved much since he got checked out and is being treated for low T. He still can't keep up with me but at least we have sex a couple times a week instead of once a month.
