I'm sorry but I find it awful that people just have a "black/white?" version of cheating, that cybersex and porn is cheating.....bam tey are like that's it, end the mariage, I don't like it, it's cheating.
Blu Sky my question is, has he done anything Physical?
If not, then let's see if we can "fix things"
Did you ever see the movie Grease? where ONJ was a "good girl" and turned into a "bad girl" but not really to get her man back?
Have you ever sent your husband a "dirty text message" or a "naughty picture of yourself" or a tempting picture of yourself to his cell phone unexpected? like a naughty pic stating...."can't wait for you to come home and take me!" soon as he comes home he'll bust through that door and throw you on that bed.
You see my wife was always a good catholic girl, it took her a while to "warm up" to being a sexy woman instead of the cute girl. YOu don't have to be a Vixen all the time, just enough for him to know, you like to be somewhat naughty...for him and you have sexual desires as well.
here is a good pic to start...go to the bathroom and in the mirror take a pic of yourself in just a pair of shorts and a Scarf, with the scarf over your neck and covering your nipples only, send the pic to your husband, say, " I'm cold, can you warm me up?" send it in the morning when he goes to work....tease him the rest of the day....his head will race, he will get hornier and hornier....until he gets home....where you are waiting....with a nice sexy outfit on.
Guys like the "tease and flirting" IE I'll take a pic of my wife in a sexy bra and panties or outfit, over a naked pic.....half the fun is unwrapping the "package"
my advice to women is men like to be flirted with and teased, tempt us, if marriage is just bickering and "work"...well we will take off or find someone else to play with and for the record so will women if the hubby is no fun.
For instance, my wife can't walk by me without me grabbing her butt or breasts asking if I can get some, or pulling her in the other room away from the kids to make out with her for a few seconds....marriage it is constant.