The short concise version?
I'm a classic type A personality... always going, doing, chattering. I work full time, have a 3.5 year old son, get off, come home, cook clean, and parent. If I'm lucky, when the day is done I can sit down on my own for about 30 minutes.
Husband... Full time job where he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants to. Company truck, no supervisor, he turns in his own hours and they aren't verified. He comes home, sits on the couch, watches TV, uses his phone or laptop.
We really don't intimately talk. We speak about day to day things... like can you do this or that. We say I love you. But that's it.
Other than that, nothing serious. We used to have an active sex life, now in the past couple of months, its only like once a week.
He can see me struggling with a task and not say a thing or even realize that I am struggling. Or I can say something and he doesn't hear me even though I'm talking directly to him. It's like I either do not exist or it doesn't matter.
If I ask him to do something he gets mad no matter how I ask. Then he just clams up which SERIOUSLY ticks me off.
We had some problems before and worked through them. THe cyle is that I ask him to work on some things and I do the same. He works on them for a while then goes back to doing the same again.
He has cheated before, whenever we first met 4.5 years ago. As well as he was running around about a year ago although no contact was made with the woman. We split and of course that's the first place he went. He actually went to the extent of sneaking over to her house, buying a prepaid phone to call & text. When I figured it out he acted like I was nuts for accusing him... although months later he admitted.
Personal image of me: I'm a pretty girl. I'm not over weight or anything else. So it's not my appearance.
I can be quite 'ugly' as in mean IF provoked But seriously, he has to mess with me a lot to make that side come out.
I don't get any of this. I'm a good wife, have a high sex drive, I work, I'm nice, a good mother... what's the deal???
I'm a classic type A personality... always going, doing, chattering. I work full time, have a 3.5 year old son, get off, come home, cook clean, and parent. If I'm lucky, when the day is done I can sit down on my own for about 30 minutes.
Husband... Full time job where he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants to. Company truck, no supervisor, he turns in his own hours and they aren't verified. He comes home, sits on the couch, watches TV, uses his phone or laptop.
We really don't intimately talk. We speak about day to day things... like can you do this or that. We say I love you. But that's it.
Other than that, nothing serious. We used to have an active sex life, now in the past couple of months, its only like once a week.
He can see me struggling with a task and not say a thing or even realize that I am struggling. Or I can say something and he doesn't hear me even though I'm talking directly to him. It's like I either do not exist or it doesn't matter.
If I ask him to do something he gets mad no matter how I ask. Then he just clams up which SERIOUSLY ticks me off.
We had some problems before and worked through them. THe cyle is that I ask him to work on some things and I do the same. He works on them for a while then goes back to doing the same again.
He has cheated before, whenever we first met 4.5 years ago. As well as he was running around about a year ago although no contact was made with the woman. We split and of course that's the first place he went. He actually went to the extent of sneaking over to her house, buying a prepaid phone to call & text. When I figured it out he acted like I was nuts for accusing him... although months later he admitted.
Personal image of me: I'm a pretty girl. I'm not over weight or anything else. So it's not my appearance.
I can be quite 'ugly' as in mean IF provoked But seriously, he has to mess with me a lot to make that side come out.
I don't get any of this. I'm a good wife, have a high sex drive, I work, I'm nice, a good mother... what's the deal???