02-27-2012, 10:20 AM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: I am not there emotionally?
Your wife sounds like she may be an acts of service person, so my list may not apply to her. I am a words of affirmation and touch person.
My husband supports me emotionally by listening to me and by sharing his feelings with me. When I tell him about a bad day that I've had, he listens sympathetically without giving me advice. He tells me about his day, letting me into his world. He does not bury himself in sports or video games.
When our children were young he always supported me in disciplining them. If we disagreed, we discussed approaches privately, never in front of them. We never let them play one parent off against the other.
We also learned how to fight fairly in the first year of our marriage. No name calling, no belittling, no contempt for the other person. If things got too heated, we stopped the discussion.
He makes me feel loved by hugging me for no reason, by kissing the back of my neck, by slapping my behind. He tells me that I am beautiful and that he is lucky to be my husband. That makes me feel emotionally secure.