Re: Unhappy Husband need advice
It does sound like there is something in the way of an 'emotional' need your wife isn't getting. Yes, it helps tremendously (and I commend your for doing so. There are H out there who don't/won't lift a finger) to have someone who assists with the household jobs, etc., but if that's not one of your wife's needs, then it doesn't help her connect with you emotionally. For some wives, sex isn't just about the physical act. Tall Average Guy hit the nail on the head when he said 'sex (or romance) for a woman begins way before you pull down the covers at night.
I'm not placing blame here on either one of you.....a relationship, no matter what kind, is a two-way street. Takes both parties putting in 100+% for it to work. If one, or both, are not willing to do what it takes to please the other, than it's not going to work.
You didn't really say what the 'anger' outbursts consisted of when you approached your W, but I can tell you from experience, this kind of reaction from you only makes her withdraw even further, which then makes you more frustrated. It's a vicious cycle that you'll never be able to get off of unless you, I'm saying You because you're the one asking for advice, takes the first step to get off of it. That may entail something like thinking back to when you met her, what are some of the things you used to do when courting her. There was something about you that attracted her in the first place. What are those things, and are you still doing them? If not, would you be willing to again?
I haven't seen where anyone has mentioned the possibility of marital counseling.....is this something that you and your W would be open too?
Courage: is not having the strength to go on……..It is going on when you don’t have the strength