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ZX10-Z28 · 03-05-2012, 09:58 AM

I dont want to sit here and try to justify it...
i feel at times thats what i do...
Like i said... i know i shouldnt hit her....

I've learned that ....

Toffer · 03-05-2012, 10:54 AM

ZX10, do you have a video cam of some sort? Perhaps your phone? You could video part or all of one of her attcks for your defense if needed down the road, You should also have a VAR (voice activated recorder) on you at all times to record the conversations (especially when she comes home drunk)

These two steps can keep you from going to jail or being removed from your house!

Conrad · 03-05-2012, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by zx10-z28

i understand that to an extent...
If you see in the earlier fights.. I did not... I tried whatever to avoid it and still got my ass kicked...
Before this last fight... Maybe 4 weeks ealier there was another explosion... Drinking again... She was drunk out of her mind...
I locked her out of the masterbedroom to avoid her getting physical...
She went to the kitchen, came back and starting stabbing the door with the knife over and over !!!
Now had the door been open then what ?
I should learn capuera so i can roll out of the way of the knife ? And somehow manage to get to the door and just keep running around the house ?
I am not going to leave my house cause she is attacking me...
And despite what people are recommending... I dont have it in me to call the cops on her...
I have most definitely learned... I can not hit her again...
But at some point certain lines are crossed... And holding and pushing and yelling doesn't help....

Stop Blameshifting Now

If you don't have the guts to call the police on her, you should move out.

Zatol Ugot? · 03-09-2012, 12:30 PM

I hate to say this, but I do not see this situation having a happy outcome. Your wife definitely has a lot of deep issues that need to be examined and dealt with by experts. Based on the information you provided, it does not seem as though she is ready to be married. And were she to go through counseling and come out of this a better person, she will likely be a much different person (hopefully) and that person may not be the spouse you married. I give you kudos for giving counseling a shot but this sort of relationship is volatile enough where you will need to make a call soon as to whether or not it is worth staying.

DvlsAdvc8 · 03-09-2012, 02:26 PM

I'd put money down that she's bi-polar/bpd.

My gf is bi-polar/borderline personality disorder, and a cutter. She has a therapist and is on lithium and a slew of other things. Your story describes her almost EXACTLY according to her family. She's been mostly stable around me, but seemingly innocuous comments can set her off from time to time.

Bi-polars are very prone to drug/alcohol abuse. I suggest you go read up on them. You might want to run for the hills afterward.

Dig around and you'll almost certainly find some sort of childhood trauma.