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Old 03-20-2012, 08:34 AM   #76 (permalink)
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For me - if I am in the kitchen cooking or walking around the house with my bootie boy shorts/panties on and my husband does not touch my bottom I'd label him abnormal. I don't know if my husband was shy, just didnt know any better or but he has come a long way. I am pleased.
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:38 AM   #77 (permalink)
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Don't get me wrong, I LOVE to be touched and caressed! But when I just want a hug....is that too much to ask for?

I don't want to be groped everytime he hugs me. It makes me feel disrespected. That's all....
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Old 03-20-2012, 09:48 AM   #78 (permalink)
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it feels like heaven
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Old 03-20-2012, 10:15 AM   #79 (permalink)
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My wife made a comment that I squeezed her butt too much. Sometimes it was just a slight touch on the rear. Sometimes I would give the breast a little squeeze. So I stopped cold turkey. After two weeks or so, she started to give my rear a little pat. I think she missed that little pat I gave her.

I like what SA said. I told my wife to be happy that I find her attractive and still want to touch her after 19 years. In a few more years, my sex drive may plummet just as her drive may increase.

We lost so so many years of very little hugging/romance/and touching. I donít know how we stayed together.

My wife doesnít tell me to stop touching her anymore. I think when the time comes again when I stop touching her...She should worry!
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Old 03-20-2012, 10:29 AM   #80 (permalink)
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Don't get me wrong, I LOVE to be touched and caressed! But when I just want a hug....is that too much to ask for?

I don't want to be groped everytime he hugs me. It makes me feel disrespected. That's all....
Try to think about it differently. He's your husband. He presumably loves you and likes touching your body. I would freak out if someone was inappropriately groping me, but my husband...that is totally appropriate to me. I don't think he means disrespect.
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Old 03-20-2012, 10:37 AM   #81 (permalink)
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We have sex maybe once a week or every few weeks. I turn him down alot, therefore do not want to grope him back.
I dont care how loyal a man is, turning down a man(rejected) is going to cause him to wander. Worry when he no longer wants to hug and "cop a feel". He cops a feel because you starve him sexually.
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Old 03-20-2012, 10:58 AM   #82 (permalink)
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I had to think on this one for a bit.

My dh rarely gets sexual with me if the kids are around. A hug is a hug.
If they're not around it's open season. If I'm doing something inane like stirring cake batter, it's game on.

The only time I might get irritable is if I'm doing something I'm really concentrating on, but the irritability stems more from the task itself, like balancing the checkbook, just because I hate it and want to get it done, then from the groping.
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Don't get me wrong, I LOVE to be touched and caressed! But when I just want a hug....is that too much to ask for?

I don't want to be groped everytime he hugs me. It makes me feel disrespected. That's all....
Sometimes I don't want pickles on my burger and they give me extra pickles. Why complain when I'm still getting a juicy burger and I can just pick the pickles off real quick?

Unless you H is doing titty twisters and putting battery clamps on your nipples then just go with the flow.
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I had to think on this one for a bit.

My dh rarely gets sexual with me if the kids are around. A hug is a hug.
If they're not around it's open season. If I'm doing something inane like stirring cake batter, it's game on.

The only time I might get irritable is if I'm doing something I'm really concentrating on, but the irritability stems more from the task itself, like balancing the checkbook, just because I hate it and want to get it done, then from the groping.
Ah the classic "grab the ass while strirring the cake batter". Used for years by men signaling "I want milk and cookies later".
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My H does like to grope and hug, I don't mind at all.

I get the boob squeeze, butt slap, and the "oops my hand is on your pu**y" lol.

He also likes to grope in public but in a quick playful way at first it bothered me but then I started to do it back to him, turns out he found it a huge turn on and well then we couldn't be home quick enough.Why is your screen name confused and bitter?

I have only one rule with the groping, don't make it painful and I'm on board. When we were dating I would have to stop him from playing with my boobs because it felt like he was trying to unscrew them!
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I dont care how loyal a man is, turning down a man(rejected) is going to cause him to wander. Worry when he no longer wants to hug and "cop a feel". He cops a feel because you starve him sexually.
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That's how I read that too.
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My W very bluntly told me She hated being groped in year one of our marriage. I was embarrassed and completely stopped doing it. I love hugging her, touching her. She always relaxes into me. Feels very welcoming to me. I believe that When your wife says "that type touch feels BAD you stop doing it"

Interesting. My w hates being groped but almost never turns me down for sex. Funny how kindness and consideration beget more of the same.

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Don't get me wrong, I LOVE to be touched and caressed! But when I just want a hug....is that too much to ask for?

I don't want to be groped everytime he hugs me. It makes me feel disrespected. That's all....
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Old 03-20-2012, 08:05 PM   #88 (permalink)
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I must say after reading this post i thought about it and discussed with my wife. I do understand the points here. We discussed when it was acceptable and agreed that some of it is just a way to show affection. Sometimes she will say "you sitll like my body" Answer is YES
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My husband would do this ALL the time - and so many times, I really just wanted a hug and his groping ruined the feeling. No matter how much I told him I didn't like it, he continued to do it. Just one small example of how I felt disrespected in my marriage. Now we are separated...
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My husband would do this ALL the time - and so many times, I really just wanted a hug and his groping ruined the feeling. No matter how much I told him I didn't like it, he continued to do it. Just one small example of how I felt disrespected in my marriage. Now we are separated...
So you never felt it was a sign of affection just an inappropriate cop a feel?
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