Ladies, when your Husband hugs you.....

I Know · 03-23-2012, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by southern wife

Yes, this is how I see it as well. Has to be something in it for HIM, too. But why isn't a hug back enough?

Funny thing is, since I started this thread, he hasn't done the "grope" thing as much. Just hugs.

I feel there's a time and place for all things, including sexual touch. And 9 times out of 10 that is not during a good old-fashion, loving hug.

Southern, your post on the "does breast size matter" thread implied that you had augmentation done. And now you are complaining that your H plays with them?

Now I don't know if you did have any enhancement. Doesn't matter really. But when you start getting annoyed by your H's attraction to you, I think you are starting down a slippery slope. Male attraction is physically oriented. Your husband is showing love and your annoyance is a rejection of that. For the good of your marriage be careful about where you pick your battles. At some point your H may not be attracted to your twins anymore. You will later wish here were.

missy_me · 03-23-2012, 04:59 PM

I think it's unfair to imply that she has a problem because she doesn't like being groped EVERY.SINGLE.TIME they hug. Male attraction is physically oriented, but intimacy can't always, always be about sex. If I am reading her posts correctly, she would be fine if it was only sometimes, or part of the time. It's just...every single time...I don't think it's wrong to feel uncomfortable with that.

I Know · 03-23-2012, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by missy_me

I think it's unfair to imply that she has a problem because she doesn't like being groped EVERY.SINGLE.TIME they hug. Male attraction is physically oriented, but intimacy can't always, always be about sex. If I am reading her posts correctly, she would be fine if it was only sometimes, or part of the time. It's just...every single time...I don't think it's wrong to feel uncomfortable with that.

I am not implying that she is wrong at all. You appear to be a newer member, so you may not have read the hundreds of posts where women write with anguish about the husband not paying sexual attention to them. All I am saying is that many men show affection with groping. once you start rejecting that affection bad things can happen.

You may wish that men were more subtle or less physical in their expressions, but we are what we are. Sometimes no groping = no affection.

need2ventnow · 03-24-2012, 06:06 PM

I think I would take that as a compliment bcuz he obviously loves your body!!! However, if it bothers you I would certainly ask him if he can sometimes appreciate the inner you and not always the outer you...tell him how it makes you feel.