seems to me that's something you can't control so why try? send him off with something to remember - something so he's thinking "I could never get from her the awesomeness of what the wife gives me at home". take the warmed up man and enjoy. what's the big deal? there is always someone prettier, finer, better bodied than you who's willing to spread it and jiggle it for a $20 bill. so what?
I send mine out with specifics for what kind of lady for lap dance (it is a service he's buying with "our" money!): skin color, approx size, hair color, etc. then I ask for a detailed recounting. gets us both nice and horny and ready for great sex.
spend all your life worrying about it or be confident and don't worry about it for a second. I like option #2.
he won't let me go with him, he doesn't like how the token woman attendee becomes "part of the show" (he doesn't like to share) but I have gone myself with old boyfriends and had a blast. they are professionals. it's really fun if you just let go a little.
Well there are strippers who strip on a stage while dancing to music.
Some of them look good, some of them should put their clothes back on. Some of them are sexy, some of them look ridiculous.
The customers can then tip the girls on stage, or they can just sit and watch. Or look at their phone.
And the girls go around asking the guys if they want some company, which is their opening to sit down, schmooze the guy and try to get the guy to pay for a table dance. Which is what the strippers want. They will be all smiles and pleasantries til he has no more money.
And some strip clubs have VIP rooms where they try to gouge the guy for more money. And sometimes prostitution happens in them. Which seems really gross to me.
It's an all around seedy, shady business.
Despite any myth that strippers are poor innocent women who are victims of a male sex industry, strippers are hustlers some are even hookers.
Some are smart, opportunistic women making as much money as they can, and it's all business for them.
Some are low class or drug addicts.
Some are stripping to support their kid, because they got knocked up by some loser who can't support them. He probably drove her to work, with the baby in the car seat.
Some are poor, damaged girls who were probably molested alot when they were young and they don't know any better.
The guys who go in there. Some just go on random occasions for fun, like women go to male strip clubs.
Some go and hate it.
Some go looking for sex.
Some go because they are addicted to it.
Good answer its very non judgmental
You go to strip clubs to see naked girls and to have naked girls dance on you and to get drunk and a lot of guys go there for sex and are addicted.
End story
Most of all the girls have less than stellar childhoods and bad lives but not all are trapped or treated in the way they are in the porn industry. A lot of strippers are hustlers many are drug addicts.
one of my close friends is a stripper and she works at kindof a sleazy place. it's topless only, but she says guys grab her boobs all the time. one time while she was dancing with her crotch by the guys face, he started licking her over her underwear. she says that other strippers let guys put their fingers in them among doing other things to the guys like grabbing them,etc. also she says that some of the girls will tell the guys they will have sex with them outside of the club for more money. i don't think most strip clubs are like this, but if you go the the sleazy ones, this is the kind of thing that goes on.
one of my close friends is a stripper and she works at kindof a sleazy place. it's topless only, but she says guys grab her boobs all the time. one time while she was dancing with her crotch by the guys face, he started licking her over her underwear. she says that other strippers let guys put their fingers in them among doing other things to the guys like grabbing them,etc. also she says that some of the girls will tell the guys they will have sex with them outside of the club for more money. i don't think most strip clubs are like this, but if you go the the sleazy ones, this is the kind of thing that goes on.
Stripping is how I paid my college loan. I did it for about 3 years before I settled down for a more domestic life style. I never did anything but do dances but lots of the girls would do more. If your husband is just going to clubs for bachelor party's or other random special occasion, I would not worry. When guys came in to celebrate events they would just throw ones around and be silly, maybe get one lap dance.
When the men came in every week they were usually hooking up with the same girl in the champagne room. So as long as its not all the time and you don't see charges for 200 to 300 or more then your hubbys just having a little bit of immature male fun.
Ok I will answer as a former dancer. I danced for 3 mths when I was 20yrs old. I worked in a small town club in MO. This was in the mid 90's. So keep this in mind bc I dont know how the clubs nowadays work or if much has changed. Basically the girls who made the most money had clients in the VIP room for private dances and champagne. I was dancing for entirely different reasons than just money. I had an attention problem and so therefore I wasnt focused on luring clients into VIP, rather I enjoyed dancing on the stage and doing a few table dances on the floor for clients. It was 2 dances on stage. first one included the actual striptease where everything came off down to g string and pasties( the things that cover your nipples- it was illegal to get completely topless there( MO law maybe idk) since the place served alcohol.. Second song was to dance around on stage in pasties and g string. Men would come to the stage and pay tips.And the table dances would be for tips also. I have no idea what went on in the VIP room, tho I used to hear its where you could make most of the money. I kept it honest and just worked the tables and stage. I really have an idea what was going on in the VIP room but I was always too shy- I was only 20 at the time. Sorry I couldnt help you more. Now Im 36 and I dont make it a habit to go to strip clubs. I went with a few friends and my then husband at the time in my mid 20s, but now with my current DH I prefer not to go to those places anymore. Neither of us are at that stage in our life and honestly its not my scene
seems to me that's something you can't control so why try? send him off with something to remember - something so he's thinking "I could never get from her the awesomeness of what the wife gives me at home". take the warmed up man and enjoy. what's the big deal? there is always someone prettier, finer, better bodied than you who's willing to spread it and jiggle it for a $20 bill. so what?
I send mine out with specifics for what kind of lady for lap dance (it is a service he's buying with "our" money!): skin color, approx size, hair color, etc. then I ask for a detailed recounting. gets us both nice and horny and ready for great sex.
spend all your life worrying about it or be confident and don't worry about it for a second. I like option #2.
he won't let me go with him, he doesn't like how the token woman attendee becomes "part of the show" (he doesn't like to share) but I have gone myself with old boyfriends and had a blast. they are professionals. it's really fun if you just let go a little.
I believe the whole premise is to give men the perception they might be able to get lucky in order to get more money out of them. I think VIP rooms are there to lend credence to the suggestion that there may be a way to get more out of the dancers..if only you're willing to pay more.
Personally, the thought of ogling a woman who's only interest in me is how much cash I have in my wallet is demeaning. I'd like to think I have more to offer a woman than a bit of cash. The couple times I've been to one I don't even know where to look. I know I don't want to be that loser on the edge of the stage with his eyes popping out and his tongue on the floor.
Staring at female body parts when you know you're not going to have any possibility of interaction with them is like looking over the buffet when you have absolutely no intention of eating...a complete waste of time and money.
I believe the whole premise is to give men the perception they might be able to get lucky in order to get more money out of them. I think VIP rooms are there to lend credence to the suggestion that there may be a way to get more out of the dancers..if only you're willing to pay more.
Personally, the thought of ogling a woman who's only interest in me is how much cash I have in my wallet is demeaning. I'd like to think I have more to offer a woman than a bit of cash. The couple times I've been to one I don't even know where to look. I know I don't want to be that loser on the edge of the stage with his eyes popping out and his tongue on the floor.
Staring at female body parts when you know you're not going to have any possibility of interaction with them is like looking over the buffet when you have absolutely no intention of eating...a complete waste of time and money.
My goodness,
My exact sentiments!
I remember when I was single, at one time I used to go to these clubs and brothels.
After going a couple times , and choosing the same girl [ she was hot!],
I was able to " hook up " with her and have sex FOR FREE.
From thence I vowed never to pay for sex again.
I went to a club for the first time with my h thinking it might be kind of exciting. It was disgusting. The strippers didn't even dance, they stood on a table and took all their clothes off, ended up laying on the table with men sticking their faces in their crotches with their legs wrapped around their heads. It was truly nasty to me. Posted via Mobile Device
I don't know how old you are but Chris Rock released a song way back in 1999 concerning this. Here is the part that concerns you:
{Ladies and gentlemen of the GED class of 1999
I have one piece of advice for you
No matter what a stripper tells you
There's no sex in the champagne room
None}
{Oh there's champagne in the champagne room
But you don't want champagne, you want sex
And there's no sex
In the champagne room}
Look it up.
Everyone I know "knows somebody" or "has heard from a stripper" about sex at a strip club. I have yet, in all my years met someone who has actually experienced this.
Oh, I've been to strip clubs. I've been to nasty ones, on amateur night, with bikers with teardrop tattoos where lap dances cost $1 (I'm an Army vet, after all) I've also seen men bodily tossed out of these establishments for getting too touchy with the "talent".
I've seen men meet strippers, get their number, and start dating them. They got sex from strippers.....outside the club. So basically it's like any other club.
I'm going to submit a show idea to The Discovery Channel and The History Channel concerning this concept; "Finding Sex at a Strip Club". There's going to be a team of parapsychologists that go from club to club with thermal cameras, parabolic microphones, and other varied tools. It'll run for 4 seasons and get cancelled in leiu of a documentary on WWII after never having found this elusive creature.
(I don't go to strip clubs anymore, FYI.)
I still feel it's disrespectful of a SO to go to these places. I never would while in a relationship unless she wanted to. I belong to her and if she didn't feel comfortable, that's enough for me.
I have been to several strip clubs over the years. A lot of what happens will depend on where you go and what the political climate is. For example, if there is an election coming up in Alabama, you might not get as much "action" as if you hit Las Vegas during convention season.
All of the comments here are right. Sometimes, you'll see depressed drunks watching tired old women who have seen better days. Other times, there are basically prostitutes using it to pick up clients.
Nobody is forced to do anything at at strip club. If he's going with his friends, it might very well be male bonding. Males don't have that option at very many places these days. Too many people "rules" to make sure people aren't offended. Strip clubs are one of the last places where a guy can act like a total idiot and not get called out.
Is your husband a cheapskate? That's definitely a litmus test, because nobody there is doing anything to worry about without paying money.
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