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Old 03-27-2012, 05:28 PM   #1 (permalink)
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A few years ago, when my husband still had single friends, he would end up going to strip clubs with them for their bachelor parties (mostly ones in Las Vegas)... even though it did not happen often I was always so angry that he would want to go... probably at the time, mainly because I had NO real idea ( still kinda don't) of what goes on in there... Now I am not as worried, mainly maybe because I come to realize it is for the most part "entertainment" for men.

I know the basics, but wondering if anyone can shed further light into the REALITY of it... He told me the water down version I'm sure, so I would like to hear from anyone who has the R rated version? Just out of curiosity?



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That is going to depend entirely on the venue itself, as well as what the patron is willing to pay for.
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just remember the saying...
what happens in vegas stays in vegas.
there is a reason for that.
even vegas tourist commission used that phrase in commercials.
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Old 03-27-2012, 06:01 PM   #4 (permalink)
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just remember the saying...
what happens in vegas stays in vegas.
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Old 03-27-2012, 06:04 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Most of the ones I have ever been in. Not much. Even if you get a lap dance you usually arent allowed to touch them etc.

I was in one in Florida many years ago before my current wife. It was full nude and the dancer had to stand like 10 feet away..

But I have heard stories of some...
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Old 03-27-2012, 06:06 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I suppose all the men on here who assure they're faithful don't even think that getting the occasional BJ at a strip club is infidelity, then. How sad.
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Old 03-27-2012, 06:07 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Yes, granted various venues vary.. however, from what I hear, the bigger, commercial clubs in Vegas seem to be a bit more "watchful" of what CAN and CAN'T happen.

I mean were talking about the average Joe coming in, not the mulri millionaire that can easily spend thousands in one night...

OK so from what H says... it was the "typical" stuff... the lap dance -- BUT he claimed they were NOT allowed to touch the girls? So I was told... truth being, I'm sure there is more to it...
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My brother and his best friend used to live in FL and the friend told me about a time he arranged to have sex with a stripper - and claims to have done so - but he is known for exaggerating. The only truth to that story I believe is my brother, who claims he was propositioned as well.

When I was younger and more adventurous, I went to a few strip clubs with friends. A lot of the time it actually wasn't what I thought it was - most women keep their bottoms on, if not more, you are not allowed to touch them, (they can touch you, however), and in between their sets they make their rounds, going to tables for friendly chit-chats and to give lap dances. I noticed, being a woman there, many of the girls are respectful and will actually ask if lap dances are okay - (even though I went with friends, not boyfriends).

I don't like strip clubs, and I wouldn't want my husband going, either... But the few I've been to aren't as raunchy as one's imagination would have you believe. In fact, sometimes it was saddening to realize these women are the products of sexual abuse, drug use and a life where they were raised to believe this is the extent of their capabilities. I never have met the proverbial stripper paying her way through college...
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from what friends tell me too.. they say it was business for those girls.. propsitioning for lap dances is how the money is made. It seems the more mid level clubs have a very strict no touch rule.

However it is true, YOU can't touch BUT they can... I imagine they do, so YOU can ask for more lap dances!

I don't particularly like this, also because it is somewhat in poor taste that women are sought of in such a physical way.. However, isn't that truthfully how we are viewed by men anyhow? Difference is we are viewed fully clothed first??
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A few years ago, when my husband still had single friends, he would end up going to strip clubs with them for their bachelor parties (mostly ones in Las Vegas)... even though it did not happen often I was always so angry that he would want to go... probably at the time, mainly because I had NO real idea ( still kinda don't) of what goes on in there... Now I am not as worried, mainly maybe because I come to realize it is for the most part "entertainment" for men.

I know the basics, but wondering if anyone can shed further light into the REALITY of it... He told me the water down version I'm sure, so I would like to hear from anyone who has the R rated version? Just out of curiosity?



Well there are strippers who strip on a stage while dancing to music.

Some of them look good, some of them should put their clothes back on. Some of them are sexy, some of them look ridiculous.


The customers can then tip the girls on stage, or they can just sit and watch. Or look at their phone.


And the girls go around asking the guys if they want some company, which is their opening to sit down, schmooze the guy and try to get the guy to pay for a table dance. Which is what the strippers want. They will be all smiles and pleasantries til he has no more money.

And some strip clubs have VIP rooms where they try to gouge the guy for more money. And sometimes prostitution happens in them. Which seems really gross to me.

It's an all around seedy, shady business.

Despite any myth that strippers are poor innocent women who are victims of a male sex industry, strippers are hustlers some are even hookers.

Some are smart, opportunistic women making as much money as they can, and it's all business for them.

Some are low class or drug addicts.

Some are stripping to support their kid, because they got knocked up by some loser who can't support them. He probably drove her to work, with the baby in the car seat.

Some are poor, damaged girls who were probably molested alot when they were young and they don't know any better.


The guys who go in there. Some just go on random occasions for fun, like women go to male strip clubs.

Some go and hate it.

Some go looking for sex.

Some go because they are addicted to it.
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Go to one. Bring a friend.

They don't bar women from entering.

Sit, watch, drink an overpriced, watered down drink, then leave.

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Bunch of poor guys getting drunk and broke
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Sex in a strip club is like the loch Ness monster or the Yeti. I've always heard about it but I've never seen it.
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Clear heels, dead eyes and desperation. Some of them are still human but it's getting hard to tell.
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I've been to two strip clubs. Not only do they not bar women at the door, most of the dancers don't care what gender you are as long as they get paid. A friend bought me a lap dance just to watch my face turn into a tomato.

Both times were a long time ago and with a group of friends. The first time was out of curiosity. The second time, it was only begrudgingly after much begging from the friends.

Both places had the no touching the dancers rule...but yeah, they could touch you (which they rarely did). I never left the main area, though, and there were back rooms for private dances. I'm sure some of the rules probably get broken in the back rooms of some of these clubs.

They just seemed kinda pathetic and boring to me, honestly.
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