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Old 03-29-2012, 04:28 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm a 49 year old male marketing executive who is a principal in a medium sized company. I'm married to my HSS, and have a teenage child. Like most of us, my marriage has had its ups and down, but we are in the midst of a Renaissance in our relationship, and it's great right now. Most folks would see me as a successful, responsible, buttoned-up sort of guy. That is who I have become at this point in my life.

My problem is that for most of my young life, I was very rebellious. I have fought back against my rebellious tendencies as an adult, because I saw my rebelliousness as an impediment to my success. I recently took a personality test at work, and my chief trait was that I was a rebel. My co-workers were shocked, since this is not how I project myself publicly.

So now I have this overwhelming urge to let my inner rebel come out in some facet of my life. I'm not interested in changing my outward appearance or behavior, as I do have people who depend on me at work and at home. But I'm wondering if there is something I can begin doing that would serve as a means to "let my freak flag fly" a little bit.

I'm not into cars and motorcycles, but I wouldn't be against something like tattoos or piercings that wouldn't be visible to the people I work with. I've just been buttoned-up for so long, I'm not sure where to start, but I do need to start somewhere, and stop denying this part of my personality.

My wife thinks this is my way of having a mid-life crisis, but she seems supportive of my doing something about this. We are not into swinging, but sexually we are open-minded, and not the least bit prudish.

So what do the ladies think I could do to help me climb out of my Clark Kent costume?
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Old 03-29-2012, 09:46 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Only you can answer that!! For me I'm 10yrs+ your junior, but I was always into the crazy chicks...while I was much the preppy jock type.

Marriage, kids, college, careers both of us, etc and no I'm more like Dudley Do Right to most people that know me.

For me I have hobbies and passions I just always put them on the back burner for the wife and kids. Over the last 18 months as I'm mid/late 30's I've started to do more "ME" things. Like car races, travelling ALONE in my 600hp modified Viper, going to huge car meets, 1 mile top speed runs etc.

This was omething I never did do in the past............you have to find what works for you and what inner "????" you are trying to set free.

Best of luck!!
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Old 03-30-2012, 12:36 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Keeper, may I send you a private message?
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^^Caroll/BC - Sure, send me a message.
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Carol/BC - Apparently, I had private messages turned off, I turned it back on, but it hasn't updated yet. Please email me at keefusb@verizon.net.
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Old 03-30-2012, 12:33 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Tattoo!!! I got my first when I turned 40 and I love it!
How about you guys go to a strip club, an adult store, have sex outside, see of there are fetish events in your area and go to one. Go to a drag show, a burlesque show, get a cartilage piercing. There's only one of those things I haven't done in the past two years. Lol.
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Great suggestions, thanks! This is the sort of input I was looking for.
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Heehee...one midlife crisis to another.
Shave your pubes if you don't already. You will never go back.
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I shave pretty much everything from the base of my unit on down, and keep everything above short and neat. I don't really care for the totally clean look, neither does wifey.
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If you both shave it feels amazing.
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Go to a concert dressed like this and hang out around the mosh pit...you'll have the time of your life and some good stories for later.
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Old 04-02-2012, 04:48 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Jump out of a plane, you will never see the world the same again!
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How about travelling to exotic places...doing things like scuba diving,bungee jumping..boxing,kickboxing?
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Old 04-02-2012, 12:23 PM   #14 (permalink)
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We do a fair amount of traveling already, but having a teenaged son in schools limits that somewhat.

My wife and I are both in great shape and athletic (both NCAA athletes in college), but I'm a bit of chicken when it comes to extreme sports like skydiving and bungee jumping. I think I'm more interested in lifestyle changes, such as the one's that have been suggested in offline conversations this thread has precipitated.

But please keep the suggestions coming, the more the better!!!
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Whatever you do, do something to let it out. I made the mistake of trying to ignore it (we're the same age) a few years ago and it all exploded in my face.

Good luck.

P.S. I did get a tat and still love it. Planning on a second one.
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