My husband and I have only been married for 3 years coming up on April 23, but I already want out.
Early on in our relationship he started the controlling. Weren't even married yet and all of my money was being put into his checking account, that I wasn't allowed on---and my grocery shopping trips were "supervised". Found out I was pregnant, got married, things got worse. From the time our daughter was born to now, I still am not allowed on his checking account. He's very much a "control freak", taking all of my cash I make from nannying now after groceries are bought and keeping it to himself to "pay bills." The in-debt bills still have yet to be paid.
Along with his controlling issues, he sees that it is my sole responsibility to take care of our daughter, since he provides the main income. I take my daughter to work with me and am with her all night (he chooses to work 9-9 five days a week). After talking to him many times about sharing the workload around the house a few nights a week and him starting to take an interest in his daughter, I've come back to the main problem again. He is number 1 in his own eyes, then comes work, sports, then his family.
After talking to a girlfriend yesterday on facebook, telling her my frustrations and reminiscing about our fun days we had together, expressing my hunger for my own life back and some happiness, my husband went into my facebook account and read all of my personal messages. Then proceeded to print them out and laid them on the counter. This is not the first time that divorce has been brought up between my husband and me. Last night he told me that if I chose to divorce him, he would "ruin" me---slandering my name so I wouldn't have any friends left and telling everybody what a "piece-of-****" person I really am. Then he took my car keys away and my only credit card that is for emergencies, but in both of our names.
What can I do to get myself out of this marriage? My family lives 4 hours from me and from making me so independent on him, my husband has made it almost impossible for me to be on my own. My credit wasn't amazing to begin with, now from he choices to let bills go to collections, it's even worse.
WHAT CAN I DO??? HELP PLEASE!