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Old 04-03-2012, 11:07 AM   #1 (permalink)
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One for the Ladies Lounge??? I 'am looking for some ideas from females for a new starting point to perform Oral Sex on wife.She could do with out it.And its been along time since I have enjoyed it.I always here The I'am not fresh,or hey not tonight.I have offered to leave my pants on,And only give her pleasure.I need to drop back and punt.Forget the last 25 years and make a new approch.I know the first thing to come up here is maybe I don't know what I'am doing and not very good at it.That's not the case.Just looking for some ideas for a new start.I love it so much I would trade it for intercoarse.So How do I rebuild that between us.Where's the starting point???
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Old 04-03-2012, 12:27 PM   #2 (permalink)
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She may have deep-seated issues from childhood around this, and there may also be self-esteem/self-consciousness and trust issues as well. Many folks with religious upbringings are led to believe oral sex is dirty and/or unnatural.

I would talk about it with her, perhaps write her a letter telling her how you feel about it. Open and positive communication builds trust and self-esteem.

If that doesn't work, consider some couples counseling.
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One for the Ladies Lounge??? I 'am looking for some ideas from females for a new starting point to perform Oral Sex on wife.She could do with out it.And its been along time since I have enjoyed it.I always here The I'am not fresh,or hey not tonight.I have offered to leave my pants on,And only give her pleasure.I need to drop back and punt.Forget the last 25 years and make a new approch.I know the first thing to come up here is maybe I don't know what I'am doing and not very good at it.That's not the case.Just looking for some ideas for a new start.I love it so much I would trade it for intercoarse.So How do I rebuild that between us.Where's the starting point???
I would wait until she's in the shower, strip naked, get in with her, drop down, grab her butt cheeks and start going to town. Seriously.

That will eliminate the "I'm not clean" excuse.

"Not tonight" is also an excuse, not a reason.

Many women believe it's dirty, I don't know why. Maybe she's afraid she'll lose control, also something many women seem to have issues with.
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Old 04-03-2012, 01:07 PM   #4 (permalink)
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For a long time, my wife resisted, and pretty much only let me do this when she was drunk.

Nowadays, she freely and eagerly performs it on me, asks me to do it for her and instructs me how to move, and now she even lets me pull out of her p*ssy and stick it right in her mouth, which she never did before.

We went to counseling, and talked openly at length about our needs and desires, and now we are all good.
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I would wait until she's in the shower, strip naked, get in with her, drop down, grab her butt cheeks and start going to town. Seriously.

That will eliminate the "I'm not clean" excuse.

"Not tonight" is also an excuse, not a reason.

Many women believe it's dirty, I don't know why. Maybe she's afraid she'll lose control, also something many women seem to have issues with.
It's really a shame...there's nothing better than losing control once in a while
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It's really a shame...there's nothing better than losing control once in a while
Do you agree it's the problem in a lot of cases? You read so much about women who can't enjoy sex because they are uptight and worried about what their men will think.

What guy in his right mind is going to think anything bad about his woman having a screaming orgasm?
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Old 04-03-2012, 04:12 PM   #7 (permalink)
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If she is not interested in you performing oral on her why don't use just focus on the sex stuff she enjoys?
You said she could do without it so maybe just accept how she feels and enjoy the stuff she wants you to do with her?
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She may have deep-seated issues from childhood around this, and there may also be self-esteem/self-consciousness and trust issues as well. Many folks with religious upbringings are led to believe oral sex is dirty and/or unnatural.
I was like this... I had a mental blockage every time he tried to go there, all I kept thinking was "ewwww how can he stand that, my brain could not allow me to enjoy this act... I remember it feeling ultra sensitive also... it was "dirty" in my head , I associated it with porn... I always used to push him away not long after....

It helped to get a sexual education, reading secular books written by sex therapists and an uptake in my sex drive -that was the end of my inhibitions. Now I would be upset if he didn't want that part of me.

If she likes it when she is drunk, she has to be self conscious the way I was, feeling it is dirty/wrong/ or something.

Here is something my husband never did .... which I think looking back, it might have helped me... He was never one to talk during sex, or tell me what he wants to do, seductively flirting with me kinda thing... or go on about how much he loves it, how it makes him feel... it was just always "silence" -which allowed my head to scream "dirty". I would think this would be very erotic and if she has a mental blockage, all this verbal reassurance could help her....maybe ease some of those inhibitions.

I don't know, those are my thoughts.
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Old 04-03-2012, 10:14 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Many women who don't like to have oral performed on them is because they feel unclean down there, or that maybe they think they smell or its gross or something like that. Its their own lack of confidence. The best time to catch them is when they are fresh out of the shower, and they are smelling all nice and lovely, and are a little bit more confident to allow their man to go there. They will be more likely to oblige. So try to get them at the right time when they feel the most fresh.
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My hubby has to "work me up" to accepting it.

I mean, yeah, it feels wonderful & great when he does it, but I just can't imagine that he really enjoys doing it.

I mean, come on... it just seems sooo.... GRrrroossssssssss.! Yuck.
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There's really nothing gross about it and lots of us do enjoy going down there.

Do yourself a favor and ask him how he feels about it. If he's putting in the effort to work you up for it, I can guess what his answer is.

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My hubby has to "work me up" to accepting it.

I mean, yeah, it feels wonderful & great when he does it, but I just can't imagine that he really enjoys doing it.

I mean, come on... it just seems sooo.... GRrrroossssssssss.! Yuck.
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There's really nothing gross about it and lots of us do enjoy going down there.

Do yourself a favor and ask him how he feels about it. If he's putting in the effort to work you up for it, I can guess what his answer is.
Exactly...if he didn't enjoy it he would be thankful to just let it be, not trying to get you to loosen up so he can.
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Do you agree it's the problem in a lot of cases? You read so much about women who can't enjoy sex because they are uptight and worried about what their men will think.

What guy in his right mind is going to think anything bad about his woman having a screaming orgasm?
True. Men love to hear your appreciation of what they are doing so why hold back? Of course, women love to hear it too, those little grunts of pleasure. Nothing worse than silent sex...
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My hubby has to "work me up" to accepting it.

I mean, yeah, it feels wonderful & great when he does it, but I just can't imagine that he really enjoys doing it.

I mean, come on... it just seems sooo.... GRrrroossssssssss.! Yuck.

There is nothing gross about it. I would rather give oral than recieve any day of the week. Nothing better in the world than having my wife's thighs almost crush my head.
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My hubby has to "work me up" to accepting it.

I mean, yeah, it feels wonderful & great when he does it, but I just can't imagine that he really enjoys doing it.

I mean, come on... it just seems sooo.... GRrrroossssssssss.! Yuck.
I would have a pudding face every night if my wife would let me... I think most men really enjoy it and do not find it gross in anyway!
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