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What Makes a Man Sexy??

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#1 ·
Ok, I've had sex on my mind for too long...so I thought I would ask this question to the ladies.

I recently met someone who is damn sexy, smart, confident, a dedicated father, great body, a great cook (bonus points for this), owns his own business, and has a hot tub...mmmm..

What makes a guy sexy to you gals???
 
#3 ·
Calmness.
Confident.
The laughter is in his eyes when he smiles.
Gotta be able to share a joke/ my kind of humor.
Whit is essential.
Responsible.

I guess... calm cool & collected.

Oh... and it helps SOOoooo much , if he can nicely fill out the back side of a great looking pair of jeans!
 
#10 ·
there's no single thing, it really depends

for example, I can appreciate the fact that David Beckham looks good and has a nice body, but as soon as he opens that mouth and that silly squeaky voice comes out my lady boner dies a death

there has to be something going on upstairs for me - if I connect with someone they could look like quasimodo for all I care

oh, but they have to smell nice

and give good head ;)
 
#12 · (Edited)
...for example, I can appreciate the fact that David Beckham looks good and has a nice body, but as soon as he opens that mouth and that silly squeaky voice comes out my lady boner dies a death...
Hahaha. So true!

there's no single thing, it really depends...

there has to be something going on upstairs for me - if I connect with someone they could look like quasimodo for all I care...
I second your thoughts. Intelligence and humor is a must for me, but what really makes a man sexy is his passion. The energy and excitement for whatever his passions may be is a huge turn-on. Swoon :)
 
#11 ·
eyes. eyes kill me. And what I see in them.

confidence but not arrogance, self control, and humor, I have the dirtiest sense of humor, I laugh at things I shouldn't, I am queen of "thats what she said" and "your mom" i need childish and dry humor. And someone who does not take themselves seriously.

although my dream man has black hair, green eyes, wears guyliner, a sexy muscular back, rides a horse ,wears a kilt, and has the most amazing accent..oh, and likes playing video games, and puppies :p
 
#13 ·
I think when a man says "I want you", that's very sexy, you know when they desire you, and tell you all kinds of things in your ear....yep, good times.


I agree with the voice thing, they can be the greatest looking dude, they open their mouths, and you just look and say "seriously, you ruined it for me".
 
#15 ·
I agree with the voice thing, they can be the greatest looking dude, they open their mouths, and you just look and say "seriously, you ruined it for me".
I dated a guy like that! Beautiful as a model, dumb as a rock.

lol I did not date him long but it was fun for a couple of weeks :smthumbup:
 
#14 ·
There's just something about some men that exude sexiness to me.

Hubs is one of them. The way he looks, stands, walks, smells, talks...everything he does is sexy.

I love getting into conversations with him about politics and social issues. And he's SUPER smart with money. He knows what he knows and he's very confident. Confidence is sexy.

Watching him work on the car, watching him read stories to our daughter, watching him work on the house, when he gets dressed up for our dates...so much.

He's a man of his word which earned my respect right away.

He has this smirk/smile that drives me CRAZY! I saw it on date one and I swear it made my panties wet ;) It still does.

Oooh and when he wears a good pair of jeans....holy shet.
 
#17 ·
If a man is not very "sexy" does that make him worthless? If he is kind, caring, responsible has a lot of "beta" qualities, but lacks charm or charisma, would you ever enjoy having sex with him? Dull guys need loving too, right? Or is it possible to find sex appeal in areas that you wouldn't expect, maybe he isn't confident, doesn't get bothered when people treat him poorly, has no friends, is a loner, has a low drive but enjoys pleasing others... would you consider living with a man like that "settling"?
 
#18 ·
I would wonder if he had narcassictic parents??? These are typical traits of a person who did. But the answer is I personally wouldnt want ALL of that. Some of that describes my H but not ALL of it in one person. I would be concerned for him.(meaning the doesnt care when people treat him poorly, has NO friends, is a loner..)
 
#22 ·
My h has some beta qualities but I don't see that as being anything wrong. Personally I've found that for me I'm turned off by alpha males. I know I'm unusual. I don't consider myself an alpha, more of a sharer of power. The qualities that drew me to my husband two years ago were his smile, sense of humor, nice voice, intelligence, caring, the way he carried himself with confidence. I like guys who are confident but aren't strutting or have an "I'm so hot" attitude.
I really wasn't sure after our first date of there would be physical chemistry. We kissed on our second date and OMG! He is such a great kisser.
Don't get down on yourself. Your ex is your ex, leave her in the past and work on you. By that I mean work on liking yourself as you are! That is really attractive. And charm comes in many forms. I hate fake guys, guys with "game", players, guys who act like used car salesmen. I like genuine men who are proud of themselves.
My h was really down when his ex left him and he went to IC and found out a lot about himself. He started doing things for himself and that process made him even more sexy.
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#34 ·
got LMFAO in my head now!

ok I think I got all my issues off my chest for the day - sorry for my self-pity. yes I realize it was all very unsexy I just didn't give a poo, (or i literally did cause I feel lighter now I got that out of me).

Maybe I should just go buy a heavy bag to punch instead of crying in front of you ladies :D
 
#37 ·
AR you are too funny.
I agree good hygiene is a must! Have to smell good, be clean except for when doing manly things like fixing a car. :)
Lon it sounds like you feel lost. I've come to see that there are some people who are just meant to be part of a couple. There are people who are better off single and some who are ok either way. I think you might just be a person who feels right when you're in a relationship and there's nothing wrong with that.
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#41 ·
Lon,
If you look at what most women have mentioned turns their crank, as a woman...I can say...

Self confidence is WAY SEXIER than a sexy bod.

Being a loner isn't the problem-the problem comes if this gets in the way of you connecting to others and being comfortable in your own skin;)

Many men,like women, will compare themselves to hotter people-it sure doesn't help to have t.v and magazines telling us what sexy "is" regardless what most people in society actually DEFINE what they find sexy.

For me-I've met physically sexy men,who's pompous attitude was a COMPLETE turn off. I've met some of the UGLIEST men that walked the earth-who turned me on way more than any bodybuilder,firefighter or buffed hansome guy could. Maybe I'm one of the fewer out there, but to me, PERSONALITY was either the deal breaker or made me hot for that guy.

The key regardless what you look like, is having self confidence. Oh, I remember having the HOTS for Captain Picard in my teens:)rofl: Oh so funny thinking back!)...he was bald and much older, but I liked the character he portrayed in Star Trek-made him sexy in SO MANY ways...LOL yep I had a teen crush on the guy!
 
#43 ·
Self confidence is WAY SEXIER than a sexy bod.
I agree that there is nothing more annoying than somebody with no confidence. Or I do know some guys who are just....no wonder they are single. But to me that is minority.

Most people I know seem to have a basic sense of self confidence.

So I don't get why women always mention confidence so much.

Are there really that many men out there with no or low confidence?

Because I don't see it that way.

Please elaborate ladies.
 
#42 ·
In regard to the beta man and whether it's sexy or not, I think it depends, I'm not personally attracted to these types. But, my husband was super macho, not alpha so much, he used to go around sticking his chest out all the time, when I met him I told him to take some jewlery off, button up his shirt a bit, and stop wearing his jeans so tight....come to think of it, I'm not sure what I found attractive about him now....lol

some alpha, some beta is good. An artsy type can be sexy, but he has to have a bit of alpha in him.
 
#44 ·
I think my husband's little belly is sooooo hot. He hates it, always fighting to keep it off, but right now, he has it and I just can't help but touch him.

I've never been one for buff guys. Nope.
 
#45 ·
see the other thing that makes a man sexy to me is having the same values - not saying they have to share all my opinions but essentially they have to be on my wavelength

I can't bear racists or homophobes or any of that crap - and my H became more and more right wing as he got older and it just turned me off. He'd say something and I'd look at him and think 'what the hell, I'm sure you weren't like that 10 years ago!'

as he became more negative and cynical about people in general (I'm one of life's optimists) the love just started to die
 
#54 ·
Some guys just have this geeky deer in headlights psycho kind of thing going on. It's like they don't know who they are, that's what I mean about not being confident. Oh yeah similar values is huge! Can't stand racists, homophobes or guys who have confederate flags and have a trailer park attitude.
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