He probably reacted to your bringing the subject up because he was ashamed . Whether other people on this forum believe it, think it is stupid whaterver, it doesn’t matter…he feels that way. The same way people should respect your cum issue. Who knows, perhaps his mom, or sister caught him or he just believes it is not something for a grown man to do. I agree with Catherine, you should have respected his privacy. It would be one thing if he were spanking it in your living room in the comfort of a chair or sofa and could be caught….
Personally, I think mutual masturbation is super hot. Wish my wife were not so insecure about her toy use which she seems to be intermitantly shy about admitting. Having said that I still get embarrassed if my wife walks in on me (and I don’t close the door…). I also know guys who would not be cool with their wife using a toy. Most men feel they don’t get it enough so they don’t want to give their wives a tool to please themselves. Human nature is driven by fears and desires. He man not want to open the pandora’s box of masturbation because he wants more sex not less. Make him realize you want the same thing. He may already think that your solo tub time may be a substitute for sex between the two of you. Maybe invite him in the shower and soap each other up and show him how you diddle yourself. You could also try role playing. You play the horny housewife laying on the bed waiting for him to come home…get yourself warmed up…so many possibilities.
“He pretty much told me he doesn’t want me to watch him do it because he shouldnt have to do it at all since we are married. I tried to tell him how much it turned me on but he said he doesnt care”.
He wants to have sex with you and not jerk off. So it is all in the presentation. Don’t tell him you want to watch him masturbate as he clearly he doesn’t want this. Why not incorporate him “touching himself” somewhere in your lovemaking process or you could take the lead.
I would NOT!! agree to having him put on a show for you in return for cuming in your mouth. Normally I tend to think that most women it is mind of matter and you should “suck it up” excuse the pun but, your almost vomiting seems extreme. Suppose you can’t get past it. Do you want him masturbating for you to be a bribe to get you to do something you potentially will never get to be ok with? I would be more subtle. I would simply go down on him slowly as to not make him climax. Then I would tell him your mouth is tired but you want to “finish him”. Then while you are licking him in a place he likes, tell him THEN ask him if he can “give you a hand” and stroke himself. This will make it not really masturbating in his mind.
have fun, let us know how it turns out this way people find out what works.
Just a tip on the drinking to losen him up. When you go out, say you're going to the bathroom and stop the server/bartender and tell them to make his drink stronger and yours weaker.
Drink yours faster than he is drinking his and jokingly poke at him for not keeping up. Drinking a few strong Long Islands (for example) in a short amount of time will loosen anyone up. Might want to get a cab.
When you get home, start giving him a bj but demand that he remains standing. When you think he's not too far from finishing, take his hand and have him stroke while you sit in front of him with your mouth open asking him to cvm in your mouth. Keep him motivated by telling him how much you want it. You can occassionally help out by jumping in with your mouth to lube him up.
When he cvms, in all probability a lot of it will miss your mouth and if he gets a good shot you can just drool it out, close your mouth so the rest lands on your lips.
Reduced inhibitions, no masturbating stigma, and minimal vomit concerns. Win win win.
So, to get him over his "hangup" you can tie him up and tease him, ply him with alcohol, trade swallowing(which may include vomiting) for a show, dress up in lingerie and play with yourself in front of him, or have a speed masturbating contest with $100 to the winner.
Or you could let him have his private time, alone. He knows what you want. If he changes his thinking in the future maybe you will get what you want.
For some reason my wife loves to watch but doesn't like to touch it. Sometimes I get to watch her but not often. I think she could watch me everyday. We have talked about it but she can't really explain it...so she says...
My wife could not care one way or the other if I masturbated and Im not afraid to do it in front of her.
Last night though she kinda pissed me off when I wanted to do this and all i was asking from her was to give me a little show off of her body in the shower...which she was taking anyway!
I was not asking for her to blow me or do anything to me or let me do anything to her.
She was still not in the mood even to be watched...but she allowed it anyway with a frown.
UGH! What I woud do to get one of you wives who actually had at least a mid level libido!
The concept that my wife would actually WANT to see me do this...let alone try to peek or ask...well that is WAY OUT THERE in my life.
I think my wife masturbates once a month at most. She has what I would call maintenance sex with me 1-3 times per week though......which I consider a LOT better than nothing that is for sure....maybe she gets something out of it once in a while....
The only time she recently actually was really enjoying having sex with me was after she watched these movies with a certain male movie star...and when I realized that I got really turned off and since then back to the pretty boring maintenance sex.
But as they say...something is a lot better than nothing..and I read a lot of people here get nothing....so not to complain...
But still...after reading this thread I thought that this wife must not even be real....sounds like a made up story in a sex forum or something...
Woman if you are real...oops you got the wrong guy...we could be having a lot of fun.
I would LOVE to have my wife watch me masturbate. The scenario where you watched him in the shower would be a great first time watching. I wouldn't have stopped. Unfortunately, my wife has absolutely zero interest in watching me do that. She doesn't care that I masturbate, she just doesn't ever want to watch it.
I suppose its all about both parties and comfort zones.
Males are, as previously stated teased, ridiculed and in some cases abused by others because of this natural function. School children will implant the idea, often transfered from parents that masterbation is dirty, makes you go blind etc. The will then focus on one male and taunt, teased and in effect bully calling them all sorts o names. In fact many of those that start this are often the ones who do it the most. Girls can and do join in the taunting.
We all see evidence of this later in life when we call people any name that means masterbation. Often its the referee in Rugby matchs in my case.
The issue then sticks with guys that anyone finding out makes it wrong, dirty and something to be ashamed of.
In a positive marridge partners that can do it in front of eachother even for the first time are in a way teaching the other what their likes and dislikes are.
Men will admit to see a woman who is really masterbating is not just a massive turn on but can give then the information they need to help fulfil that partners sexual needs to a degree. It should be the same vise versa
If your H is struggling with you watching its because hes really very embarressed. To "catch him" for him is even worse, it goes back to being a small boy caught being very dirty.
As one suggests try doing it yourself and him at the same time. Encourage him to hold your hand to guide you in the best feeling for him. That can and will help both of you. Him to acept and you as to what he would like from you. Keep it in that manenr until you can take your hand away and hes more comfortable.
great post. I really enjoy mutual masturbation where I masturbate her while she does me. I am actually getting a semi just typing this lol.
I would love to have the relationship where we could masturbate for each other. About a month ago when we were mutually masturbating she was on top of me while masturbating me and rubbing me into her. She climaxed before me and was kind of struggling to get me to climax so I took over and orgasmed onto her.
It was the first time I had either masturbated myself in her presence or climaxed on her. It was all very hot. Posted via Mobile Device
I used a different angle. My husband was invited to go out to the strip club with a bunch of his work friends. He declined the invitation. I was so proud of him that I decided I would give him his own private show that weekend.
I got a costume, some singles, did up my hair and makeup and called him in the bedroom. I had a chair for him to sit on and I stood on the bed. I gave him the singles and I started to strip. In the heat of the moment I asked him to take his penis out. He naturally started to masturbate ( I don't think he had time to realize what he was doing) I loved it.
Would your husband go for that? It takes the focus off of him and onto you, especially is you keep dancing and not staring at him the whole time?? He is thinking you are the star and your thinking HE is the star! Does this make sense??