Re: Want to watch husband masturbate
He probably reacted to your bringing the subject up because he was ashamed . Whether other people on this forum believe it, think it is stupid whaterver, it doesn’t matter…he feels that way. The same way people should respect your cum issue. Who knows, perhaps his mom, or sister caught him or he just believes it is not something for a grown man to do. I agree with Catherine, you should have respected his privacy. It would be one thing if he were spanking it in your living room in the comfort of a chair or sofa and could be caught….
Personally, I think mutual masturbation is super hot. Wish my wife were not so insecure about her toy use which she seems to be intermitantly shy about admitting. Having said that I still get embarrassed if my wife walks in on me (and I don’t close the door…). I also know guys who would not be cool with their wife using a toy. Most men feel they don’t get it enough so they don’t want to give their wives a tool to please themselves. Human nature is driven by fears and desires. He man not want to open the pandora’s box of masturbation because he wants more sex not less. Make him realize you want the same thing. He may already think that your solo tub time may be a substitute for sex between the two of you. Maybe invite him in the shower and soap each other up and show him how you diddle yourself. You could also try role playing. You play the horny housewife laying on the bed waiting for him to come home…get yourself warmed up…so many possibilities.
“He pretty much told me he doesn’t want me to watch him do it because he shouldnt have to do it at all since we are married. I tried to tell him how much it turned me on but he said he doesnt care”.
He wants to have sex with you and not jerk off. So it is all in the presentation. Don’t tell him you want to watch him masturbate as he clearly he doesn’t want this. Why not incorporate him “touching himself” somewhere in your lovemaking process or you could take the lead.
I would NOT!! agree to having him put on a show for you in return for cuming in your mouth. Normally I tend to think that most women it is mind of matter and you should “suck it up” excuse the pun but, your almost vomiting seems extreme. Suppose you can’t get past it. Do you want him masturbating for you to be a bribe to get you to do something you potentially will never get to be ok with? I would be more subtle. I would simply go down on him slowly as to not make him climax. Then I would tell him your mouth is tired but you want to “finish him”. Then while you are licking him in a place he likes, tell him THEN ask him if he can “give you a hand” and stroke himself. This will make it not really masturbating in his mind.
have fun, let us know how it turns out this way people find out what works.