I feel like my husband uses me!
I'm at a total loss of what to do and would really like some suggestions. Here's my situation - my husband and I got married in November. When we got married he was working full time. Coincidentally, the first week he moved in with me and we got married, he ran out of work. I work full time and I have two kids from a previous relationship. Anyway, when we got married I lost help for my day care because it was for single women so I now have to pay 5 times as much for a babysitter than before I was married. So here's my husband at home, sleeping till 1 or 2 in the middle of the day, then getting up and playing football on Playstation while I'm paying someone to watch my 4 year old daughter cause he refuses to get up early. Then I get home from work, do all the laundry, all the cleaning, alll the cooking, bath kids, etc,. while he's still playing football. Then he takes my car (he doesn't have one) to run around all evening to visit friends and family running all the gas out of my car. Not only that, he smokes two packs of cigs a day that I have to buy! Then I let him use my ATM card for some money and he took out double what I told him he could and overdrew my account. I started getting really aggravated with him so he went back to working 2-3 days a week for about 5-6 hours a day. Just enough to give HIM a few dollars for cigs, and his damn pills he's addicted to. If he's going to the store in my car and I ask him to pick me up something he makes me give him the money for it first even though I have totally supported him all this time. Now he wants me to pay $200 and half of the expenses so he can go to a NASCAR race with his friends. Not once has he gave me a penny for bills, food, etc., or volunteered to help me with babysitting. To top it all off - I'm 4 months pregnant and I'm worried to death about how I can afford to be off work for 6 weeks and pay for an additional babysitter so I can go back to work. I try to talk to him but he acts like he doesn't even hear me and just walks away or never wants to talk about it. He never shows me any appreciation for what I do, never a thank you or a hug or anything. I'm lonely and miserable and only been married for a little over 3 1/2 months. And people, I am not one of those girls that makes a lot of money. I am supporting 4 people on less than $10 an hour. So any suggestions?